im told im really pretty, what with my curly blonde hair, green eyes, barbie doll figure (26 in waist) and im funny, i laugh alot, i flirt, wear makeup, im clever, and dress very feminine. ive only ever had 1 bf and im 15! ive never even held hands with a guy! im not prude, its just i never have a bf who i could do things with. wtf am i doing wrong? oh and i refuse to ask guys out, cuz ive had bad experience every time i have done it.
2006-09-26 08:59:43 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know im young, but its sooo hard when all my friends have bfs and talk about all the stuff theyve done, and i have to just sit there and look pretty. oh, and i tryed the whole short skirt, bend over thing, and my math teacher looked up my skirt, so i try not to be too slutty, but i wear low-cut shirts and short skirts...
2006-09-26 09:06:19 · update #1
If you talk to most models they will tell you that they didn't date much in HS. Guys look at a good looking girl and think, they are already taken or that they (the guy) aren't good enough.
When you see a guy that you like, start a conversation. Try flipping you hair over your shoulder with your hand. Smile and touch his arm. At some point in the conversation, tell him that he should call you sometime so that you can go out and do something. Be open, friendly and flirty. And if that doesn't work, enlist the help of some of your girlfriends, what girl doesn't like to be a matchmaker.
I'm not going to tell you that you are too young or to give yourself time. Know who you are, what you want and what you won't do. Stay true to yourself and have fun. Dating is where you find out what you like and don't like in a guy. You have to test drive cars before you buy one. Just don't compromise yourself just to have a boyfriend. They should like you for who you are, not for what you will do, or they can move on down the road.
2006-09-26 09:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with only having had one boyfriend at 15. Girls who start earlier with lots of boyfriends have a hard time finding a serious relationship in high school because they're "used goods." Even if they aren't easy, they guys will say they are.
There's no reason that a girl has to ask out a guy. Just keep being yourself and put yourself in situations where you are more approachable. If you are surrounded by 3, 4, 5 girlfriends, a guy will not come and ask you out for fear of being laughed at by a group of girls.
If there is a guy you have in mind, just find an excuse to talk to him. If he plays football, ask him what he thinks of the coach. If he's in one of your classes, ask him a question about homework. Be creative, and don't ask him a "yes/no" question. If he's interested, he may work up the nerve to ask you out.
2006-09-26 09:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by Robby216 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. You are 15. Guys at that age are VERY shy (whether they admit it or not). Your time will come. It's not the end of the world (I know you think it is) if guys don't ask you out.
Surprising enough, the pretty girls never get asked out, because guys are afraid they will say no. The same reason you don't want to ask, is the same reason the guys don't want to ask you.
No guy at 15 years old wants to have the prettiest girl say no to them. So, rather than try, they keep it to themselves and just look at you from a distance.
Just be patient...I promise you, things will change VERY quickly in the next few years. Just give it time.
2006-09-26 09:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by brianwerner1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should relax and not try. if you're anxious people pick up on that subconsciously.
just be extra friendly and remember to smile and be gracious. a lot of the time people walk around with a scowl on their face and don't even know it....who would approach that kind of person, even if they are really pretty. plus you have to know that most of the guys are nervous just to ask you out so make sure people know that you are fun, funny and easy going. not a judgmental person who is overly opinionated. it's good to have your own opinion, you just don't always need people to know it.
Relax, you have years of guys chasing you ahead, don't rush it.
You'll have your pick soon enough, and then remember not to settle for someone who is less than you deserve!
p.s.
make sure you smell nice, ask your friends....one of them will tell you if you have a weird odor....some people do and never know it. if you smell sweet and fresh, have nice hair and teeth, you will not be without a bf for long. just smile and drop your books once in a while so some nice boy can help you pick them up!
Best Wishes:)))
2006-09-26 09:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by rooster2381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reason #1: You're only 15 - Guys with enough guts to go out with you think that you are too young to ultimately give them what they want.
Reason #2: You don't make yourself available to all guys - You may have your sites on a few specific guys and you've made it known and now every other guy thinks that they have no shot.
Reason #3: Too high of an opinion of yourself - It's possible that you are presenting yourself as God's gift to men. Guys HATE those types of girls.
Reason #4: You make yourself unapproachable - You ALWAYS are walking around with friends. Guys your age aren't all that confident, if he see's you walking with friends, a guy is less inclined to say something with them there.
2006-09-26 09:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
15 is not too old to not yet of had a boyfriend. Even 16 would not be..but..refusing to ask guys out ..you are limiting yourself..you won't have a bad experience every time...even if you have thus far.
Not knowing you personally, it's hard to say..but..the trick is to be out there and be socializing. Groups at school...have parties and get-to-gethers at your home (and be sure to invite the guys you like...duh..lol)...and GO to places the guys go...sporting events...dances, and whatever else goes down in your own home town for those your age. Get out there young lady..you'll get a date...and sooner or later more than you can handle.
Good luck..have fun.
2006-09-26 09:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i dressed in short skirts and did outrageous things like that when i was a teenage girl...but it is important for a guy to like you for who you are.....
the right guy is out there for you.....but you are only 15...you are too young.....
i jumped into something too soon just because a lot of girls i knew were having sex and stuff and i regret that...i ruined a great friendship.....and a very short boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.....
i'm not saying you are looking to have sex...but if you dress in those short skirts and cleavage revealing tops that is the impression you are going to give.....
2006-09-26 11:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be fine. it's prob better guys aren't asking u out, u don wanna be stuck in anytime of bad relationship, ur young anyways. I'm sure the right guy will come along, u have about 5 more years before u reach adult hood and u'll meet many great men.
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2006-09-26 09:31:34 · answer #9 · answered by anna a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still VERY young, so you have a lot of time for dating. You seem to think you are mighty cute, so are you sure you are not coming across as a bit conceited? You say nothing of being outgoing, interested in others, or anything but your physical appearance. Just a thought.
2006-09-26 09:02:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋