i have these 3 friends who are always there for me when i need them which is pretty much every day...
there is 1 girl and 2 guy's..
the problem is i have really strong feelings for 1 of the guy's...
and coz us lot hang out every day.
i'm alway's with them.
and i can't tell him how i feel because he was going out with the girl, and if she knew she would probably kill me....
and i really don't wan't to lose her as a friend because without her i probably wouldn't be here right now..
so.....
what do i do?
xx
2006-09-26 08:53:54 · 40 answers · asked by dissapearing angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing is i have hugged and kissed this guy loads and the WERE going out but i still dont kno if it's ok
2006-09-26 09:12:16 · update #1
Nothing. A lot of people have crushes on their friends boyfriends. It will pass.
2006-09-26 08:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by Annabelle418 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Talk to ur girlfriend. Find out if u could express urself without causing any trouble between the two of u.
2. If u get the "Ok" then in a neutral environment talk to the guy and tell him how u feel and if there is any possibility of a relationship.
There are some notes:
> Your girl may say "Ok" when she really mean "Don't do it". The key is to decipher her body language and if u two r really good friends then it shouldn't be that hard.
> The problem with telling the guy is that he may say "Yes" then if it doesn't work u have to be mature enough to maintain your current friendship. If he says "No" then u have to be mature enough to maintain your current friendship. Either way you have to be mature.
2006-09-26 09:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by LaToya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!
It will be a bad thing for you to do, when you already know that your best friend is dating the guy, so it all depend on your mind , try as much as possible to let it go, don't put it in your head that you want this guy any more, take him as a brother and don't always be with them again, by doing this you are going to have time to think more that about them. So if you need some one to talk to .. Call on me
2006-09-26 09:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Willls D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really worried about how your girlfriend would react, ask her if she would be upset if you got involved with the guy. And that you are concerned about keeping her as a friend. If she is a true friend she will appreciate the fact that you asked her first. After you find out that she probably wouldn't care, then approach the guy with a clear conscience.
Good Luck!
2006-09-26 09:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by ziggy_1313 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you need to not think about this guy. until they don't like each other he is in a no go zone for you. this would be really stupid to ruin a great friendship over a guy cus good friends only come by every once in a while. try seeing others go out on dates with some new guys to get your mind off of him for a while
2006-09-26 08:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not that important that you should take a chance on hurting your female friend. There are plenty of guys out there and I am sure because you are with them all the time, this one guy included, that is why you are growing feelings for him, that is natural........ you need to get out and find some other guys to get to know. Your just spending too much time with this guy, blessed be..............
2006-09-26 09:05:41 · answer #6 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, try telling your friend, the girl, that you like the guy. Make sure she knows that under no circumstances do you want to loose her. See what she says, she may not mind. If she does mind, don't do anything, friendships are way more important. If she doesn't, then just see what happens.
2006-09-26 08:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by GRR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find your own bit of romance somewhere else!!! leave thouse two love birds and dont be the hunter he is not your catch. she has never done anything so vile to you on the contrary shes been your friend and that now a days is hard to find . their is 1 billion fish in the sea grab a net and wait for the bite
2006-09-26 09:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by luby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is hard. Don't think about it to much because he is attached to someone. Do not mess with someone else's guy. Once he becomes single then it's fair game.
In my opinion i would hide my feelings. Friends always first no matter if you like them or not. Other friends are involved in this.
2006-09-26 08:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it alone you may just be wanting something that you know that you can't have. It might just be a very exciting idea so do not go out on a lust limb and lose your very dear friendship for someone that may not be around forever friends are hard to find and you don't want to jepordize your friendship
2006-09-26 09:00:42 · answer #10 · answered by crystal h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋