2006-09-26 08:52:19 · 15 answers · asked by MICHELLE D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you keep enabling it she will keep on taking...say no you can't
2006-09-26 08:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by daanzig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what type of help she really needs. Does she have trouble managing her money? Is she living above her means? Or does she just not have enough money to live?
I would have a hard time turning down my sister too. If you don't want to turn her down and if you can afford it, pay a bill for her. Do not give her the money. If she says she needs helps with her phone bill, then go pay the bill for her.
This is a hard problem. You are the only one that can decide what to do. Good luck to you.
2006-09-26 10:11:35 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know people in my family ask me for money too and I finally told them that I don't have very much and need the money to pay my bills. I put them off and they finally get the hint that I'm not an easy target to hand out money freely. Sometimes you just have to say NO, but in a polite way.
2006-09-26 08:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by mandm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hurting her worse by giving her the money because she can't grow up and learn to do things on her own. She can't survive. What would happen if you were to be in a wreck tomorrow? You might not always be around to drag her out of her sticky situations and then she won't know what to do. She will really fall apart at least now she has a shoulder to lean on.
2006-09-26 08:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her about it, try to get to the bottom of why she has to keep asking for money, there should be a story behind it. But don't keep giving her money because then she might become dependant on you for it.
2006-09-26 08:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by alvinfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean! But in all fairness to you and your sister, find a way for her to earn the money, instead of borrowing, because if she is like someone else I know, the money never gets paid back!
2006-09-26 08:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only will cutting her off get her off your back, it will force her to be more responsible with the money she does have, not planning on falling back on her sister. It's really the better path for everyone. You'll help her more by not giving her money.
2006-09-26 08:55:13 · answer #7 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to find a way to earn her own money..... job, babysitting, yard work it all depends on how old she is. I am sure you feel bad but you cant keep giving into her cause she will not stop asking if you keep giving.
2006-09-26 08:54:26 · answer #8 · answered by Qua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to be tough with family but she will only keep coming back for more. Tell her no next time--and if you have to explain yourself (which you shouldn't) then just tell her that you have something else you need the money for
2006-09-26 08:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP CAVING IN, SHE'S JUST TAKING ADVANTAGE OF YOU!!!
tell her that you're keeping tabs of all the $$$ you've ever given her and that you consider it to be a loan, not a gift, and that you expect every penny back, and that until she starts paying you back, THE BANK IS CLOSED SISTA
see if she ever comes back for more
2006-09-26 08:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you take her in to raise? if no, then let her GROW UP on her own. your mama obviously did a bad job raising her. she's not your responsibility. allow her to be responsible for herself. the only way to teach it is to do nothing. let her do it on her own. if she needs to pedal pssy, so be it.
you are ENABLING her by giving her what she wants and not letting her figure out how to 'fix it' herself.
if i was your husband i would take away all your credit cards and take your name off the checking account. if you need anything, i would get it for you. i wouldn't TRUST you.
2006-09-27 02:07:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋