My son or my Dad?

Question

I am marrying for the second time next spring and I had intended on my 7 yo. son walking me down the isle. When I told my dad I was engaged the first thing he said was "can I walk you down the aisle". I didn't really have a wedding the first time but I'm not sure if my father "giving me away " is appropriate.

Answer 1

Your dad. He didn't have the opportunity the first time around and it sounds like he is looking forward to it this time. Our why not both of them? Your father on your right and your son on your left.

Or find something special your son can do for you at your wedding. Maybe read a poem he has written, be a groomsmen or the best man if your fiance is acceptable. There are many different things he could do that will allow him a place of honor and to be involved.

Most importantly, this is your wedding so you have to do what will make you happy.

Answer 2

I think being that being you didn't really have a wedding the first time, you might want to consider having your Dad who I am sure is older by now, walk you down the isle. I don't know your relationship with him but I think it is an important part. I also had my Mom walk me down the aisle on the other side of me as she was just important if not more, due to how our lives were growing up, and so I was never "Daddy's little girl". I was glad with the decision we made! Now we have it on video and in our wedding book, forever. Unless you already made a promise to your 7 year old son? Then I would include him, in the wedding, in some way. The best man? Ring bearer? He could also walk you down the aisle too? Just some suggestions, ultimately it is up to you and your fiancee! Congratulations! Best of everything in your future!!!

Answer 3

when i got married for the second time i like you did not know what to do with my 7 year old son or my dad and yet again like you i did not have a big wedding my first time around so this is what i did i had my dad stand on my right and i had my son stand on my left and you know what that went the best it could have both were happy and everyone at the wedding said that that was a great idea. SO I SAY BOTH MEN TO WALK YOU DOWN THE ISLE

Answer 4

The only thing appropriate is what you want. The tradition stems from the father giving away his daughter as if she were a piece of property. I wouldn't be surprised if the reason he walked next to her was to keep her from bolting if she didn't like the groom.

I would definately find a way to encorporate both of your "men" into the ceremony. Having your Dad walk you down the aisle is perfectly alright, especially since you say you didn't have much of a wedding the first time around. You could have your son on your other arm or have him walk in front of you but after your maid of honor. (Assuming you are doing that kind of procession.)

Whatever you choose, you do what's right for you and what best reflects your love for your Dad and Son.

Answer 5

The wonderful thing about a wedding in this day and age is the fact that you can plan it all yourself and have what ever your heart desires....what about having them both give you away? there have been weddings where divorced parents have given their daughter away together, why not your father and son? Your father has waited for this moment and to take it from him would be wrong. On the other side your son would also benefit from giving you away as well because it makes him feel like he is a huge part of this big occasion, instead of feeling left out. I think it is great that you are including your son in this way. My son was 5 when I remarried and was the one who carried my ring....if I would have thought about it then, I would have had him walk me down the isle with my father...you have a great idea:)

Answer 6

No, your father does not need to "give you away," it is just a tradition that does not mean anything. However, since your dad asked, let him do it. You can include your son in the wedding also. He can either walk down the aisle with you or stand with the groomsmen.

Think about it, it would be no more appropriate for your young son to "give you away."

Either way, it will be a great day for you. Have fun, don't worry about what is appropriate. Best wishes.

Answer 7

Have both. My father is not the normal parent- meaning he has no plans to walk any of his children down an aisle and although this may be harsh sounding- I have asked someone else to walk me down and if my Father then chooses to walk me down- I will have both, the one I asked on the Traditional side and my father on the opposite side-- Just like the person I asked will have a dance before my father- because my father will choose a business deal before a wedding of his children

Answer 8

If you want your son to walk you down- I say do it. Not only would it be memorable to you and your guests- it will be for your son as well. If you want to include both your dad and son, try having your dad walk him to the end of the pews and have your son take you the rest of the way. That way, he will be the last to hold your hand before your husband. In some cheesy way, it seems almost like it is like saying your son gives you to your husband and is happy your family is blending.

My 10 year old son is walking me down the aisle at my wedding. I have no parents, so he is the logical choice- but then again I would have chosen him anyways because he is my world! my daughter is one of my bridesmaids and my toddler is my ringbearer. I say include your children!!

Answer 9

I honestly agree with your son and your father.

You have two very important men in your life. One doesn't "matter" over the other. They are both equal in your life and I don't see no reason to not to.

However, it is your choice hun. You do what feels right. Doesn't matter if someone finds it inappropriate that your dad or your son or both.

What matters is on your special day and since you didn't have a wedding really the last time, how about making this one really the one to have to remember.

Answer 10

Do you have a good relationship with your dad? Both could walk you down the isle. Or your father can then see if your man will let your son be the best man or at least a groomsman. Good luck!