well my daughter birthday party is coming up soon and she is always trying to put her touchs on things i don't even ask her! did i say she lives with me too well yeah she does. my boyfriend is her onnly son only child. i can't wait until the day we move out. i like her but i can't stand living with her. always i am not a working mother so i stay home all day. she leaves all her dishes in the sink.....it bad enough i clean after myself my daughter and boyfriend. i swear she does all kinds of things to piss me off. she just come in the morning says helllo to my baby and everything. when i try to talk to her it seems like she isn't listen because i talk then when i am talking she'll look over at my daughter and start talking to her. maybe i should just stop talking to her,and about her first birthday party...she is my daughter and she did that all with my boyfriend...so she needs to just stay out of are business. i am get money and she is all asking me what i am going to be doing withit
2006-09-26 08:32:53 · 16 answers · asked by amanda a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
because mothers never think that someone is good enough for their children. They also have problems letting go and believing that someone else can assist in running their childs life except for them.
2006-09-26 08:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Southie9 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all. Do you, your daughter and your boyfriend live with her? Or, does she live with you? That makes a big difference in the answer. If you all live with her, you just need to get Plan "A" together and get out on your own. Every grown person need their own house. However, if she lives with you guys, then you and your boyfriend need to come to an agreement and set up some ground rules for her.
A "true" mother always want what's best for her children. That's a "true" mother. There are those out there however that are just along for the ride.
2006-09-26 15:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Elitets2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your boyfriends mother would describe this same scene quite differently. The point I'm trying to make is that she does not see her actions the way you do - so its very hard to say what her motivation is.
It DOES sound like she doesn't have a great deal of respect for you - by leaving dishes for you to do, by talking over you when you're talking, etc.
I agree, its time for you and your man to move away from mom, or the other way around. Discuss it with him.
Are you ready to "forsake all others" ?
2006-09-26 15:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe make some ground rules with her, but then again u have to be careful cause I think u said u live with her so its her house. Just be careful. Maybe have ur man talk to her and set her *** straight. Just remind yourself when she pisses u off is Waite till u get ur own house and wont have to listen to her or clean up after her. I use to ignore my mother in law. I would turn the TV or radio up real loud so i couldn't hear her. Good Luck but remember u have to respect her and her ways a little bit cause u do live with her.
2006-09-26 15:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by MELISSA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi i know what you mean and i dont even live with her and she still does my head in. They do it because they like to get one over on you all the time and if you show that you are annoyed they love it all the more because thats what they want. I would pu my foot down and say if you dont mind i want to do this party for my daugther and make it special, but tell her she can help but its between you and your boyfriend to sort it out for the party. Try getting your boyfriend to have a word, i know he probably wont but a least he knows whats shes like when hes not there. I think it is rude her not listening to you. I think you are right not to speak to her as she will know how it feels to be ignored. And as for you money, it has nothing to do with her. Put your foot down and dont let her walk all over you as that is what she sounds like she is trying to do.
2006-09-26 15:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her when she trys 2 talk 2 u turn 2 the baby and do the same that she does , sometimes u have 2 fight fire with fire as far as the party tell her if u want 2 make such a big deal PAY 4 IT YOURSELF, thats all see how fast either she shuts up or pays 4 the party either way it is time 2 move out.
2006-09-26 15:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, write that again. Who is the boyfriend, who is the daughter. And just for the record: Your daughter, which ever you are talking about is always your daughter. You choose your friends and not your family, but at the end of the day you gave her life and nothing will change that. You HAVE to love her anyway and it is your RESPONSIBILITY.
2006-09-26 15:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is ur boyfriends mother, in order to maintain harmonally amongst each other, please do no go off on her. It is crucial for ur relationship. Talk to ur man about it, get his input. Other than that u can only wait to move out. And there is nothing wrong with cleaning her dishes,, she is an elder, u should still show respect. Good luck with the situation.
2006-09-26 15:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by ladida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother's of boys always think that no girl is good enough for their son. Just ignore her because she is just trying to get to you and it sounds like she is winning. Kill her with kindness and that will make her madder than ever and give you some revenge without being mean.
2006-09-26 15:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by motheroftwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend's mom will never accept ANY women for their son unless they are just like them.
No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to change this either.
Best thing here is to always be nice and polite and roll your eyes backwards and laugh whenever she walks away. Having a sense of humor about it all will help you keep your sanity too.
2006-09-26 15:38:30 · answer #10 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋