My daughter has been potty trained for 10 months now. She goes to a babysitter monday -thursday. She has been wetting her pants everyday for three weeks now, just at daycare. The daycare lady has changed the routine in the home and wants the children to rest for 20 minutes a day. My daughter didn't like that idea, and this has been the result now for three weeks. Now, she takes naps and will rest. But continues to wet her pants for no reason. As soon as I pick her up at night and over the weekend, she is fine. This only happens there. Why is she doing this? What can I do? I have stopped "prizes" at the end of the week, and have taken toys away. And it does not help. I tell her if she is good she gets her toys back, but that hasn't happened yet.
2006-09-26 08:27:24 · 10 answers · asked by aleash_99 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My daughter goes to the bathroom before nap time and she still does this. Today she went to the bathroom, then sat down to play with the kids and just looked at the babysitter and said "I pee'd". I have asked her over and over why are you not going in the bathroom? and she tells me " I don't want to. I am to the end.......I really don't know what else to do. I am afraid she will be kicked out of this daycare, and this lady is so nice and she has taken so much time to help her through her problems.
2006-09-26 09:27:05 · update #1
You have a little passive-aggressive control freak on your hands. She sounds just like my daughter. The deal is, you know she can do it, so you have to hold her accountable while seeming to leave the control with her. When my daughter pulled this, I told her, I am not going to nag you to go potty. If you wet your pants for other than a VERY good reason (like we are stuck in traffic or something), you will go to your room for the rest of the day, missing all activites and meals. She would test me at first, but after one or two times of going to her room she stopped the wetting nonsense.
2006-09-26 08:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't like the change in her routine and by her wetting her pants, she is acting out and letting you know she doesn't like it. It's possible there are other things going on at the daycare that she doesn't like and she is trying to let you know. I would talk to the daycare provider and ask what other changes are being made. I would also talk to the other parents and see if they have any concerns. You might want to consider changing daycare's. Ask your 3 year old what they did during the day and see if she says anything that is concerning. My son was very verbal and could communicate, but each child is different. Tell your daughter that you understand being away from Mommy all day long is hard and that you're really proud of her for the times she does go potty at home. Tell her you want her to do this at school too. Just talk to her about it and continue to reinforce the behavior you want. But in the meantime, I would look into that school. You are the only person that can protect your child. And sometimes, they do things like that to tell you that something is wrong. Good luck.
2006-09-26 15:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by ggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, this could be a case of several things.
1) She is just being stubborn and is doing reverse scicology (scuse the spelling)
2) She simply doesn't like the babysitter and is finding it difficult to tell you this in her way
3) She wasn't ready to have her routine changed and is really out of sorts by it.
My guess is that it could be number 3 and you should not "punish" her for it. Wait a week or so, and get it back to normal. Sometimes, just sometimes the daycare lady isn't correct all the time.
A really great book to get is Supernanny: How to get the best from your children by Jo Frost.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-26 15:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by lotusgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First the daycare shouldn't have changed the routine. Once a toddler knows his/hers potty routine then its fine. They can go without no problem. That's like if we worked on 1st shift for 10 years and changed to 3rd shift. It's really harder on a toddler trying to change. So why would they want to. I don't think it's your child's fought she probably is trying but it's not working. talk to the daycare to switch her back if they can that's what I would do. Good luck and God Bless.
2006-09-26 15:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by JD0305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her way of rebelling. Don't give in with, keep the "prizes" away and remind her that she will not get anything special if it continues. Children don't like change from routine and this is her way to get extra attention in daycare. Give it some time, she'll be back to normal before you know it.
2006-09-26 15:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her babysitter isn't noticing that she needs to use the potty so she waits around for the babysitter to see that she needs to go to the bathroom but ends up wetting her pants because she can't hold it anymore.
2006-09-26 15:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter. See how she feels about things. Something is going to make her have an accident. Is she not allowed to get up at nap time and can not hold it till she does? If that is the case the sitter needs to make sure she goes before she lays down. My daughter is very open and honest with me and she is the same age. They will tell you whatever you want to know, even if you don't want to know it.
2006-09-26 16:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know the day care person or people working there? -Sounds to me like there might be something going on that is upsetting her.
Pop in early on a few days to see whats going on - not saying it is but sometimes kids wet there selfs when someone is hurting them.
I'm thinking you really need to check it out and not just by asking the day care .
2006-09-26 15:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not her fault. try finding out what is going on at the day care.. do a surprise visit. sounds like she is acting out due to stress. talk to your family doctor.
2006-09-26 15:30:59 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This might be rebelling. Give it time and all will be well.
2006-09-26 15:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by glitz_and_glitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋