after a relationship then totaly ignore my calls,txts and doesn't show up when were sposed to meet?
2006-09-26 08:18:09 · 29 answers · asked by natalie.waterson@btinternet.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he was just trying to cut things off in a neutral way. Just forget about him and move on don't wast your time and energy on someone who doesn't want stay in touch with you.
2006-09-26 08:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he thought you could be mates when he first said it, but now he realises you can't. It is extremely difficult if not impossible for ex lovers to be "mates". He will find a new love ( maybe in has already ) how would she feel if he was still "mates " with you ??, how would you feel knowing he was with someone else, loving someone else ??? .It can't work, now he knows this. Rather than lead you on, and to avoid complications , he is ignoring you altogether.
If you really want to prevent any bad feelings between you text him and say you know it would be difficult to be mates, but you will speak if you meet and wish him all the best.
He may then answer your text and there will not be bad feeling if you meet in the street or anywhere else !!!!!
2006-09-26 08:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience it's because he doesn't want you to get over him and get on with finding someone new. It's also because he knows that you still want to be with him and he can hook up with you again whenever he wants. You think you're getting back together, he tells you the next morning it was a mistake.
A male friend of mine - great friend, crappy boyfriend - kept an ex girlfriend hanging on like that for over a year before he finally had the guts to finish it properly. It's not natural to stay mates with someone you've broken up with. You need to hate them for a while in order to get over them. Then after a while you can go back to being civil to each other if you want.
2006-09-26 09:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to tell you that it is because of what you have been through and to keep the lines of communication open...............but after many years.................and let me add this maybe somewhere down the road 2-5 years from now that will be true but for right now .............It is so They know that there is someone there to fall back on. Plain and simple. If it is over for you than you need to stop those calls, text, etc and move on Or the next time things fall through for them they are going to show up again and things will start up again and YOU will get HURT again. History repeats itself time and again. You end up feeling like chewing gum; chewed up, spit out, and no flavor for anyone else. Good luck to you.
2006-09-26 08:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by EVELYN O 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is a chicken and probably doesnt to tell you he has found someone else why he was with you !!! Dont worry about him, if you have ended then you are better off just walking away and moving on.. hard, but you will get by
2006-09-26 08:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh - i just LOVE that little 'lets be mates' speech they give you.
its because he's got no b@lls and doesnt want to look nasty in front of the rest of the world when in reality he's probably all the things you hate in men.....
walk away with a swagger and a wry smile - his loss and you have seen his true colours now as he's an ignorant tosser !!
2006-09-26 09:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by clairejoolz78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was trying to find a polite way to end your last conversation & basically men just say what they think you want to hear at that precise moment in time. He has no intention of staying friends but couldn't think of a nice way to say it.
2006-09-26 08:46:57 · answer #7 · answered by monkeyface 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its possible to be friends with an ex right after you break up... move on before you get hurt... you may find if you give him space you may be friends in the future!!!
2006-09-26 08:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is cruel and selfish and heartless
Look at it from his point of view. He thinks you are pathetic, useless, he doesnt love you, he doesnt care about how you feel, he only cares about himself, he doesnt want you and if he never saw you again or spoke to you again he couldnt care less.
Now ask yourself, why do you want to be friends with someone who thinks that way about you?
2006-09-26 23:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by Darren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice way of blowing you off for someone else..just move on before you get hurt worse!
2006-09-26 08:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by FLORIDA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋