Does any one have any good usefull advice on what i can do to help boost my self esteem?

Question

i am working out and that makes me feel good. A councelor i saw a while ago told me to have my friends and family describe me in one word on a sticky note and to post them all over my house so i am reminded that others do think good of me not bad...i have done that and my BF tells me every day that im beautiful that he loves my body and he thinks im perfect but i still hate my body so much! i am losing weight (heathy) and im working out like i said but i need to really work on my self image (body mostly) thank you

I'm really not horribly over weight. Im 19 years old 5 ft 1 and 130 pounds...Im half mexican half sweedish so i have the wider hips and shoulders but i still have a VERY feminen figure just more meat then id like! but i dont look like a pumpkin freak lol i dont have huge thighs and a huge *** or look like a foot ball player with broad shoulders

Answer 1

I've dealt with this, so I can tell you what worked for me. Start by looking at yourself in the mirror without a stitch of clothes on, and make a decision to accept yourself as you are. Then, whenever you catch yourself putting yourself down in your head (negative self-talk) stop yourself and instead say something good about yourself (positive self-talk). That helped me a lot, but it takes time.

Answer 2

My ideas? Try to do 200 minutes of cardio a week. Remember fat does not turn into muscle, so you need to lose your fat while putting on muscle. Work hard, but don't over 60 minutes at a time. Do planks and other abs exercises on alternate days.

On training days, do 5-10 minutes of cardio to warm up, then do your weight training. Do 30 to 60 minutes more of cardio, then go home.

The best time to eat is just after your workout within an hour when your metabolism is raging. For your muscles, incorporate some isolated soy protein or whey protein. Whey is more potent but the soy tastes better!

Don't look at your scale as the be all and end all, but get a measuring tape to check your progress, and that will show more tangible results.

Read magazines like Shape, Womens Fitness, Fitness, etc to get tips and to stay motivated.

Good luck and stick at it. This plan has lost me 20 lbs in 12 weeks so far, just go for it!

Answer 3

It's not going to be an easy route to improve your self esteem because it's not your conscious mind that's giving you all the horrible feelings when you see yourself in the mirror. The feelings are being generated by your subconscious because it hates your body shape. Therefore nothing your friends and your bf tell you are working because they're preaching to the choir--your conscious brain, which is already convinced that your self esteem needs help. The solution is to slowly correct your thinking. Every time you get a flash of disapproval when your body comes to mind, stop. Think about why you're getting these thoughts, and think about all the times your bf, friends and family have said you look great. Feel the sense of happiness you get when you imagine them saying this.

This won't have much effect at first, but if you make this a habit, you'll notice that over time, you'll get fewer and fewer of those flashes of disapproval when you think about your body.

Answer 4

i'll tell you this if you only notice the "Bad" parts then that's all your going to see and feel!
at the end of every day write down at least 3 things that made you happy 3 things that made you think 3 things that made you feel beautiful!
Now from what you have stated you need to work on your thoughts and training them to be positive and not to look at the well i could of should ... or i don't equel to so in so!

once you change your thoughts your actions will change and so with your esteem!
and it's not about what others think it's about what you think so start putting some love into yourself! and it will show and you will feel it
but if you fake it you want get the results you want!~
remember the things that seem harder to do are what you should do!
Good luck
Give yourself a hug and love yourself!
Mad luv

Answer 5

Exercise and ideally do it while working toward a goal like running a 5k to raise money for breast cancer/ run a marathon, etc.

Volunteer to work in an old folks home or hospice care where you will see people much worse off than you.

See a psychiatrist to ensure there is nothing chemically wrong with you and continue seeing your councelor.

Answer 6

Set achievable goals. Participate in sports. Nothing improves self esteem better than winning. If you can do 2 pushups, shoot for 5. Make a big deal out of moving one notch tighter on your belt. Be a winner and you'll feel like a winner.

Answer 7

Going to a therapist is often a good option. This by no means implies you are crazy or in dire need of help. But, many therapists are very experienced in these areas, and can offer professional advice that can prove invaluable.

Answer 8

You probably suffer from a mild form of depression, because it sounds like you have low self-esteem. You may also be comparing yourself to someone else that you feel is "ideal". However you don't need to do that because everybody is different and we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Keep working out though because that helps to fight depression and it makes you look good and feel good..

Answer 9

sounds like you've some style of dedication phobia. per chance you save sabotaging relationships because deep down you're merely no longer waiting to calm down. or perchance you merely have a warped photo of your self. Counselling may help.

Answer 10

wear a tight pair of blue jeans, step right outside the door and spank your butt as the boys approach.....they'll love ya'll