I don't know what to suggest - but she is so depressed and talking about ending it all. May not be an idol threat - physcologist help perhaps in the Kent area?
2006-09-26 08:04:51 · 31 answers · asked by deebradley2000 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She will not go to se her GP and refuses medication. Has a lot of stressful family issues, mother saying she hates her only wants her brothers. She is 51 years old, feeling very unloved despite my own reassurances
2006-09-26 08:13:55 · update #1
Sky - I am hetrosexual - this is a female friend - sorry to offend by calling her "girlfiend" but that is what she is. A female friend. Much loved in a "girlfiend way"
2006-09-26 08:33:07 · update #2
You need to get her some professional help, ask her to visit your GP and seek some advice on the help out there, this can be prescription or therapy. if she insists that she doesn;t want to go then you go to the GP and explain thing and see what else you can do, the quicker you get something done the better as this problem is not going to go away if anything sadly it will get worse. Good luck babe.
2006-09-26 08:15:01 · answer #1 · answered by ooooh look @ me, lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be so ignorant! I meant up above me.
Anyway back to your problem. You say she is 51 years old. Has she already gone thru menopause? Her hormones, or lack there of, are all screwed up. Plus turning 50 is hard for a lot of women. But no matter what the reason is - you need to be supportive of her and try to persuade her to get some help. There isn't anything wrong with getting professional mental health but a lot of people are ashamed of it. Don't ever doubt that she might try suicide. If she has thought about it she has also thought about ways to do it. By her telling you that she feels like ending it, she is subconsciously asking for your help even tho' she may deny that. This is a difficult situation I know but maybe calling suicide hot lines or psychologists who specialize in that area would help you more with what to do for her than anyone can here on Yahoo. I wish the best for you and your friend.
2006-09-26 16:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a cry for help i know i been there done that worn the suit. No one that is suicidal does it when they tell someone they just do it, not only have i been told this but i also been on both side of suicide of telling someone and doing it and it is so true and i lost many freinds that not told no one ither, but when they tell someone this telling you they need help. it does not matter IF she does not want to go to see her GP, the best thing you can do before she gets more into a state is take her to the hospital NOW were she can be seen and also be looked after, Alot of people are suffering from this for some reason or another. and i did not get help like your g/f as i was scared. but now after 3Y's of help i feal a lot better. she wont think that they is help or no one can help her but they more to life then a GP giving her tablet and making her go away. So if i was you i go get her to the hospital and they will advise what to do. because also she may harm you as well as herself if she get any worse. mental health is no laughing matter when it hits you,
2006-09-26 15:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by spin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR GIRLFRIEND is crying for help maybe you have the answer but havent realized it yet you have to find out what is bothering her that she wants to end it all, 95 percent of would be suicides are a call for help none of them really want to die, if it is her mother thats causing the problems tell your girlfriend she is better off without her mother and get on with her life if her brothers are the same attitude as her mum do the same its hard but the only way i know from experience
2006-09-26 15:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by EASTER THE FAIR IS THERE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to www.hufa.org and check on the symptoms link. Check out how many other symptoms she has. If she has a few, then she may have a low blood sugar imbalance causing her fuzzy thinking.
If so, check out the site for snack/food ideas, or the library link for diet books that deal with low blood sugar by reducing insulin production. Then take your friend some food.
One thing to watch for, if blood sugar is her problem, and food helps to balance it, there may be a point that she feels energized enough to attempt the suicide (it has been known to happen). Keep trying to find help. Call 911 if you don't have a hotline/helpline in your area.
2006-09-26 16:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are good friends with this individual, you are in a better position than most, to try and talk with this girl and get her to at least hear that she has OPTIONS. Most people in this situation just want to be genuinely listened to and understood. Let her know that she has people in her life that care, like yourself. Give her names and numbers of professional clinicians or organizations that could help her through her issues. She can contact Life Line which is a 24 hour emergency hot line that can assist her 1-800-310-1160.
You're a good friend for just for your concern and trying to gather information!!!
2006-09-26 15:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by hitbypitch1919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her to see a doctor. Tell her to get some medical advice....Prozac can be prescribed if needed. I am on it for post natal depression and it has been great. She doesn't need to feel embarressed...it's very common. You can also ask her to do an on-line depression test. It will give her an end mark and suggest what type of help she may need.
If she refuses to see someone, you see a GP and ask their advice....if she is really bad they may section her for her own safety.
Good Luck!
2006-09-26 15:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say Kent i take it you mean u.k, I know Medway hospital have a good psychiatric team based in the hospital, ma bey if you gave them a call and asked for some advice they could help, it will be a long a stressful journey but you must not give up on her. Good luck Hun x
2006-09-26 16:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by Emma A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hun... this is a difficult one to call... For her to tell you she feels suicidal means she is crying out for help.
Try to seek help in relieveing whatever it is she is sressing about. Maybe Housing/Work/Debts/Yourself.. (Sorry being realistic) And than get her to see someone sooner rather than later.. in the short term though something you can do almost instantly is do your best to make her feel happy and loved.
Take her out, buy her some pretty jewlerry or write her a letter explaining how much you love and need her..(sounds simple but im sure she'd love it)
Just be there for her hunni and remain strong...
I wish you the best of luck and hope you find a solution to her problems... for the better. :)
2006-09-26 15:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must get help from psychiatrists quickly. Is there a hospital near you, you could as to speak to the psychiatrist on call. This needs to be addressed first, then the family issues as these are obviously the big factors in all this.
Wishing you both all the luck in the world.
2006-09-26 15:20:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋