Alright, i gave my girl a promise ring, and for christmas last year she got me a watch. I LOVE that watch and i wear it at least 5 days a week. The only times i dont wear the watch, is when im just at home on the weekend, not doing anything. So she asks and i tell her that, and she gets irate. Saying that the watch symbolizes what her rings means, a promise! So am i wrong for only wearing it when im out? To me, she is being a ***** for getting mad becuase i dont wear her watch all day everyday. What do you think?
2006-09-26 08:02:46 · 39 answers · asked by Irish ME 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh and by the way, she does forget to wear her ring sometimes when im there. I dont get mad, i ask why she isnt wearing it, and she says im not going anywhere, ill put it on before i leave.
2006-09-26 08:13:42 · update #1
She sounds very unreasonable and insecure. A watch is a watch. It's not a wedding band- it's a watch. She's so controlling she's telling you how to enjoy a gift?
At least she didn't give you a teddy bear and expect you to hug it all day!
I think I'd give back the watch and wait another 5-6 years before making a promise to someone so immature. She must be about 18 years old- or younger.
2006-09-26 08:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A ring or watch should not be a symbol of the love you have for each other. Let her know that by not wearing the watch that does not mean you love her any less or think of her any less. Let her know that nothing can symbolize the love you have for her. Honestly we live in a world were love is symbolized instead of felt or given. I hate the fact that people take such pride in Valentines Day, I want to show the love of my life I love them 365 days a year. Tell your girlfriend that nothing is can take the place or symbolize what you feel for her and show her just that. Love is love plain and simple.
2006-09-26 08:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by jozetta W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you should never ever call your girlfriend a cuss word. That implied a weakness in the relationship (a lack of respect for her).
Second of all, I think it is fine that you don't wear the watch at home. Just because the item isn't around your wrist (or on your finger) doesn't mean that the meaning behind the piece of jewelry is lost. Explain to your girlfriend that you still love and care for her and tell her that even though you might not have the watch on right then doesn't mean that you care any less for her.
2006-09-26 08:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I've been married for 8 years, my husband and i never wear our wedding rings. to me something like a ring or watch (in your case) does not symbolize love or a promise. The only way to show you love someone is with actions and words, not objects. So i think she is over reacting and you should tell her whats on you mind about the whole watch issue. Good luck!!!!
2006-09-26 08:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by angie1412 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that is a hard thing to answer..... I see both sides of this problem..... I see it means to much to you to want to ruin it or mess it up, and I see her point which says, hey I wear my ring all the time !!! maybe you need to just wear it and be done with it... if you mess it up, so be it, there are other watches to be had, maybe not that watch, but others, and you could always get it fixed.... or if beyond repair, wear it anyway.. this is a matter of trust and commitment to her..... show her you follow it too and do the right thing by her heart...... just wear it !!!! God bless
2006-09-26 08:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a watch for crying out loud!!! If you dont take it off some times they begin to smell (lol)!! A watch is not made to be worn like a ring. If she wanted to give you something to symbolize her love perhaps she should have bought you a ring or a
sports car ;-P
2006-09-26 08:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by female_mack220 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you get mad at her when she doesn't wear her ring? Sounds like she is just insecure...after all it is only a watch and unless it says on it in plain sight that she bought it for you as a promise or pre-engagement gift, it holds no more significance to Jane-Q-Public than another time piece on any other mans wrist. She needs to realize that just because you don't wear the watch she bought you doesn't mean that you don't care for her and that if she expected you to wear it all the time like a leash around your nut sack, perhaps she should get over her piddly insecurities or find another guy...maybe one who is going to cower down and give in to her need to control him...
2006-09-26 08:12:31 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can compare a watch as a promise thing. If you don't feel like wearing it you shouldn't have too. After all its not a ring. Traditionally, a ring is really the only thing that symbolizes your promise to each other.
2006-09-26 08:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know you said women only but I know what your goin through bro.. You are not wrong for not wearing her watch every single day. A ring is alot diff from a watch. There are just some occasions when a watch isnt necessary.. Just ask yourself though would you get upset if she didnt wear her ring 2 days of the week? thats probably how she sees it.. but what she doesn't realize is that a watch is diff from a ring..
2006-09-26 08:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Eli 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you get her a promise ring then y didnt she get you a ring in return? something more his & hers? i mean a watch is ok but really. a ring or a guy chain would be easier for you to wear 24/7 right? my ex & i had the same prob but he had gotten me a pair of panties instead. i wasnt about to show him if i was or wasnt wearing them! but he wanted it to be something that was 24/7. i think that if you marry the chick, maybe she can get SLIGHTLY butt hurt if you dont wear it. but just cuz you take it off on the weekend? really! arent those things like hella heavy anyway???
2006-09-26 08:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by hispanic honey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋