any advice, male or female much appreciated :-)
2006-09-26 08:02:12 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think that you should tell him about your feelings for him.See what he says then all you have to do is be patient.
2006-09-26 08:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by Shalla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation but much worse off because the guy is a bit more committed... yeah, you guessed it. My advice to you: maintain your bonds of friendship but don't cross those boundaries... try hard not to. When you start off as friends and develop into something more, the wisest is to keep the friend and ditch the lover because ultimately, lovers are easier to find than friends. And like others said beforehand, if he dumps her for you or does shady things behind her back for/with you, who's to say he won't do the same to you? The best alternative is to be friends, flirt yes, but be friends. Once and if they both break up, be there for him and gradually, be his. (Don't be the rebound girl!) That way, you are not "the other woman", the "homewrecker" and all those other things. They broke up because they have changed or do not feel the same as they did before, not because you stepped in between. I think that if it happens that way, you can be with him later on and not feel as though he may cheat on you or like another girl at the same time.
You don't ever want to do anything impulsive because chances are, you're likely to regret it soon afterwards.
2006-09-26 08:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by beautiful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once read this quote that says "If a man really wants to be with you then there is nothing in the world that would keep him away. But is he doesn't want to be bothered then there is nothing in the world that would make him stay". I wouldn't be patient because he may never leave her and keep you waiting til he's tired of looking at you. Then if he does leave her and get with you, who's to say that he won't do the same to you? Don't try to be with someone who has to juggle his time between you and another girl. If you can't be the center of his attention then why be in the picture at all? Don't you feel like your worth more than the excuse that he is giving you?
2006-09-26 08:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by moodsntudes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's telling you he likes you but he has another girlfriend, he may be setting the stage to hook up with you once he finds a way to dump the other girl. However, remember, if he's saying these things behind her back, he will probably do the same behind yours if he ever gets the chance to be with you. My thoughts are that you should not consider it whatsoever until at least after he breaks up with her. You don't need to be in the middle of that. What I myself would do is never have anything to do with him because he seems like a player. But that's me.
2006-09-26 08:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't interfere! Reversed the situation and think how you would feel if you were his other girl. Try to stay friends with him without crossing the border. Perhaps, in time if you are meant to be together than you will be. If you try to take him away from her and he follows that shows he has not loyalty and he can't be trusted. Do you really want someone like that?
2006-09-26 08:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by mystri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, does he really like this other girl a great deal, if he is saying he likes you.. then again, can you trust him that he wont be looking when he is with you !!! Only you can answer that. If he is truely sincere about you, then he will let this other woman down gently, let things lie then start up with you. I am sure you have waited a bit, so a little bit longer wont hurt, but make sure he isnt playing you around. x
2006-09-26 08:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a few days and if his serious he will break it off. If not than maybe he is just leading you on and trying to have his cake and eat it too.
Than re-evaluate what your head is telling you to what your heart is saying.. No matter what anyone on here says, you no deep down what you will do either way. :) Good luck i hope it works out for both you and the poor young lady who may be dumped. I Suppose you cant help who u fall for.
2006-09-26 08:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by Baby Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, if he really likes you he will leave his girlfriend and come to you.
If you did anything while he was still with his girlfriend, then you may both regret it and if you got together you may always wonder if he could do the same thing to you.
2006-09-26 08:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that guy is playing how can he likes you when he's with another girl, unless he plans to break up with her i'll only say be cautious about this guy no matter what he says.
2006-09-26 08:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Randisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would feel if you were with this guy and he told another girl what he's told you? Do you want a relationship like that?
2006-09-26 08:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by CutiePatutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want someone else's man? If he is with someone else you guys shouldn't be discussing who likes who. If you continue, start prepairing your question to find out why you dated a guy who you knew he had cheating tendencies, who has now cheated on you too.
2006-09-26 08:07:38 · answer #11 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋