I have been with my boyfriend for like a year and something. He loves me like whoa! We talk about getting married in the next four years. But for some reason I get scared thinking about it and wonder if he is the one. He is my second boyfriend. So I have not really been out there in the dating world. But Im scared that I will never find someone like him. Sometimes I feel like we are to much alike. I dont know the first thing to think about all this! WHat should I do?
2006-09-26 07:54:04 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are bothing turning 21 shortly
2006-09-26 08:32:01 · update #1
There is one important piece of this equation that you have left out. What are your ages?
If you are both 18, entering college, and talking about getting married after graduating, that's a good time line. If you are both 14, and talking about getting married right after high school, you need to slow down. Is there a big difference in your ages?
If this guy really is the one for you, you can tell him how you feel. He should understand that you love him very much, but aren't ready for that kind of commitment. If he can't give you enough room to find yourself before settling down, then he doesn't love you, he wants to trap you.
Never rush into a marriage that you aren't ready for. Odds are you'll regret it in the long run and always wonder "what if..."
2006-09-26 07:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by FozzieBear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't sure then don't make the marriage plans just yet. Within the first 3 years or so of a relationship is like the honeymoon years. It's all golden and it seems like nothing could ever go wrong. After that is when you start seeing the true person in each other. If after this time everything is good then get married. Live with him first to make sure.
2006-09-26 07:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kit Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In love and marriage, when it's right you just know it. When you're in doubt that means your gut instinct is telling you there is something off and it's scaring you. Love is so much more than a word. It's compromise, communication, common goals in life, common interest and compassion. Like anything in life you should work on it to nurture the relashionship. Love doesn't grow on it's own. So learn more about your man and maybe the fear will go away, if not... don't do it.
2006-09-26 07:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by Soonie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be quite honest with you... I don't think any of us have a clue what we are doing. Everyone has trouble trying to figure out what to do with dating/relationships. All anyone can do is keep trying until they get it right. You may not need to find someone else like him... you may find better or you could just as well work things out in you current situation... Do what feels right is the only sound advice I can give for any relationship... so long as your honest with yourself about what you want you will get it right when the time comes.
We can't expect everything to go right all of the time:)
2006-09-26 08:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u have doubts about him u have not make up ur mind as yet that he's the one u really want b/c u thinking someone else out there might capture ur heart and also he's too good to be true, if u really serious think it over before a mistake is made and u regret it.
2006-09-26 08:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by brownsugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being scared is normal, but you sound like your way to young to be getting married. I would wait a few years, and give yourself a chance to live a bit before settling down. If you plan on going to college, then I would not get married. You've got to know if he is the right one, and your going to do that unless you allow yourself to enjoy life and maybe date other men. Is he pressuring you to marry him?
2006-09-26 07:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is precisely it, he's conscious which you're loopy approximately him. He perhaps finding out your endurance to the decrease as to how long you may take it being skipped over. And to make it easier to be attentive to the certainty, that somewhat isn't truthful. You perhaps head over heels in love with this guy yet i'm telling you, he's not properly worth it. remember LOVE isn't in easy terms a notice to be spoken, that is an action to be performed. he's not already speaking to you by ability of ignoring you just about thoroughly and had he performed something so priceless particular to tutor his love? i do no longer think of so. you have 2 possibilities, first wreck with him now and undergo the discomfort later and 2nd, undergo the discomfort now and wreck up later (ninety% probability). have faith me, being loopy no longer understanding and being coronary heart broken might have devastating consequence in one's life. So if I have been you, start up relationship yet another men and experience to be observed and favorite.
2016-10-18 00:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow, and it will happen. There's not much to do. Just be honest, open, always talk about any feelings you have with each other. A good relationship is 100% and 100%. Talk to him about it if it is love he will do whatever you want. Good luck it is hard work. But, it is worth it.
2006-09-26 08:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by happytaataa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say love sucks....be happy that he loves u so much....
and its 4 whole years for God's sake....make the best use of the time to know him better....m sure u'll know at the end of it...just cuz your likes and dislikes match,u dont have to get scared or take that as a confirmation....love is beautifully complex.... ur heart will provide u with an answer....if u r an atheist i cant help u but if u r not....pray!God will guide u thru everything...
bless u!
2006-09-26 08:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by questiongirl14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow Down
2006-09-26 07:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Midnight Blue 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋