I divorced my husband about 12 weeks ago, because he was dating the neighbor's sister. Now he has the woman sleeping over at his house, as well as a female friend who sleeps there a couple of times a week when in town for business. These activities continue even when my 8 year old daughter stays with him during her visitation. My ex sees nothing wrong with my daughter seeing his "friends" come over, or spend the night. He says he is "socializing" her! I feel that 12 weeks is too soon to be exposing my daughter to this kind of behavior. Are there any guidelines or rules of thumb about when a parent should start introducing their child to their new lifestyle or partner?
2006-09-26 07:53:12 · 10 answers · asked by goodkarma72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the same situation. Sadly, during her visitation with him you have no say as to what he does or to whom he introduces her.
I have added to my parenting plan, "there shall be no overnight stays with unrelated individuals of the opposite sex." Most judges are ok with this. Document, document, document so you can explain exactly WHY you want this added. If he continues to have his "guests" once it is added, THEN you could go to court, ask for restricted visitation since he is not abiding by the plan and even go for full legal custody.
Good luck!
PS - If he wants to "socialize" her he should try the park where there are other 8 year olds! Or maybe a family gathering...
2006-09-26 18:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he do that to this lil' girl! She just observed not to long ago Mommy and Daddy sleeping 2gether. Now she's watching Daddy sleep with 2 different women. Those are not his friends, these women are booty calls. I don't think she should be around any "partners" right now.This girl should be his first priority. He needs 1 on1 time with her. She has questions she wants 2 ask & he should be there 4 her-- without anyone being there. What I think is going on he can't face her. He need some1 around if she starts to ask "Why". He doesn't know if u let her know fully about the breakup with the neighbor. I'm quite sure you didn't. He doesn't want to see the disappointmnet in her eyes, he's afraid of that. That is why he keep company while she is there--to avoid the conversation.
2006-09-26 09:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long after divorce should parent introduce their child to a new relationship? When the child is 18 years old, an adult and out of the house.
My opinion is that the kids have suffered enough with all their parent's drama of the divorce, and now they have to suffer even more with all this silly "dating" going on? Give em a break! I think you need to reconsider your custody. An 8 year old doesn't need to be exposed to chicks sleeping with their daddy. How disgusting. Sorry, but your ex sounds like a pervert.
2006-09-26 07:58:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no set time line but from a personal point of view I feel that the parent shouldn't expose the children to the flings not until they are sure it is a solid thing for the mere fact the kids get attached and then that person is gone I mean kids go through allot in a divorce anyway why put them through our little flings too
2006-09-26 08:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by doodiemoonwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other person. In my opinion you only bring a person around when it is serious, otherwise they will meet a bunch of different people and feel some kind of way about that parent that's doing it. He is setting a bad example, but he doesn't seem like a mature individual anyways.
2006-09-26 08:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 02:50:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is 'socializing' her, alright - to the idea that it's OK for men to not be faithful.
Your ex is emotionally scarring an 8-yr old girl and you should take him back to court to have his visitation overturned, based on his blatant disregard for being a parent first.
2006-09-26 07:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he doesn't date a sexual predator you (unfortunately) have no say. I did not introduce my kids to anyone until it was serious. I didn't want a stream of people running thru their lives. My kids appreciated me for it later. SO jusy because he is doing it, you shouldn't.
2006-09-26 07:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is going to figure out what her father is, one day, it might as well be now.
my advise to you is to take the high road yourself.
Set a good example to make up for his bad one.
2006-09-26 07:56:31 · answer #9 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sooner the better......
2006-09-26 07:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋