He has been wonderful ever since but I still am insecure...he said he made a mistake and would take it back if he could, he just got confused. He was with his ex wife for 10 or so years and they grew up together. She left him for another man and divorced him and then after the boyfriend broke up with her she decided she wanted him back. He left me for her. Now that he is back, although I am happy I am still so insecure. He has been wonderful since we have been back together and he said he would never leave me again...that he realized how much he loved me and how much I love him. How can I get past this and should I even try?
2006-09-26 07:51:18 · 11 answers · asked by Kelly N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend probably felt torn. His wife left him for another man, which had to be difficult for him. They spend ten years together, that's a long time. At least now, he knows that you are the one he loves. What he did was not out of the norm. He had to let go of his past before he could go on with his future with you. He is yours now.. I understand why you feel insecure, but you have nothing to fear now. When you felt the most secure, was when you should have been insecure. Thank goodness, your man is no longer torn between you and his ex wife. Don't be surprised when he pops the question!!
2006-09-26 08:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Niecy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 03:51:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man. I don't leave one woman to go to the other. Even if it's an ex. The concept is this: Why go back to something that broke off painfully, only to come back with your tail between your legs? I'm sorry to say such things, but I want you to be with a stronger man who cares about you.
He deserted you. That is unacceptable. I believe even cheating is better than deserting. Atleast during cheating guys care enough to come home to you.
Think about it. When your time comes, you may have an urge to do the same. But it's better if you do it when you dont' have someone.
It's your happiness. How did you feel when he left you? What guarantee do you have that he won't do it again? Maybe with someone else if not an ex.
Unless you are forgiving like saints and can live with in inside you, then so be it. I will respect your decision either way.
A friend
2006-09-26 07:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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He has been wonderful ever since but I still am insecure...he said he made a mistake and would take it back if he could, he just got confused. He was with his ex wife for 10 or so years and they grew up together. She left him for another man and divorced him and then after the boyfriend broke up...
2015-08-24 14:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by Shane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it sounds as if he is still in love with his ex.. If she left him in the beginning, he knows how it feels to be hurt, yet he left you when her new man left her.. Sounds to me like she may have gotten back with her ex.. the one she left him for, so then he came back. He is probablly feeling guilty because he knows he has a good woman, and he knows that he did you wrong. I'm not saying leave him, but just ask him what happens the next time wifey as him back.. Also, I notice you said boyfriend.. If he is divorced, and loves you so much, why hasn't he married you.. If his excuse is that he's afraid of being hurt again.. run girlie RUN. Because thats not a valid reason, especially when he's the one hurting you.
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OK, I read the answers below to your question. I think most are on the right track but there can be an exception....I hate my ex wife with every fiber of my being. I would not piss on her if she was on fire. I try and not talk to her but I have custody of my daughter and she has supervised visits. She will call me and try and start a fight over ANYTHING. Like what time she wants to see the child ( even tho she knows she can only see her at certain times ) when she will bring her back...and again she has to be back at a certain time with the person that supervises. Just anything to try and push my buttons. Or she will start a fight with the child and make her cry and then when I get on the phone to yell at her she will try and say it's all my fault. It sound like she is trying her damndest to break you 2 up by making you wonder about him. She is planting the seeds of doubt deep in your mind to make you not trust him and he is not helping by being alone with her. Go with him when he goes to pick up his kids. And if she calls tell her to take a hike and stay out of ya'lls relationship. Tell your boyfriend to choose...either you or his ex.......and why in the hell did he ask to see her **** ? He should know what they look like by now and should care less about seeing them ! If he tries to come up with some bull **** answer about why they talk every day and will not put you and your feelings first then you need to get out of that relationship FAST. Don't get played for a sucker by the two of them. Your boyfriend needs to get some balls and just hang up on his ex when she starts trying to fight with him. It's nice that you can be friends with your ex, but she is a whole different story and needs to be out of his picture. If you don't want to go along when he picks up the kids have a friend go with him. She will be less likely to try anything with a witness around. Good Luck Sweets, your gonna need it !
2016-04-13 00:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 27⤊ 0⤋
So what happens when his ex-wife manipulates his feelings again for her own needs...he'll leave you again...and when she is thru with him and ready to move on again, you'll take him back again and be even more insecure...do you see the destructive cycle? If he has no children with his ex-wife...he has no reason whatsoever to be in contact with her ever again...no phone calls, no lunches, no cheering her up or consoling her when some other dude breaks her heart. HE NEEDS TO SEVER ALL TIES with her - and if he chooses not to, then you'll know that he will dump you (the one he has SETTLED for or is STUCK with) for her (the one he REALLY WANTS)...Keep your dignity and self respect and play second fiddle to no one. Be his top choice or eliminate yourself from the competition. Best wishes to you.
2006-09-26 08:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would trust him. You know, for his ex to leave him for another man, had to be a real blow on his ego. When she came crawling back, that had to spark an interest in him. It really sounds like he needed to get revenge on her...needed to have that last jab. (You know men are primal creatures!) He came back, and he is doing everything in his power to prove his love. Give him a second chance. Tonight, make a nice little romantic dinner...light come candles, and forgive him.
2006-09-26 08:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋