Why do girls allways want something wich they can't get?

Question

Me and my girl broke up about a month ago, and I tried everything to get her back because I thougth that she was the one!!

After an argument she told me that she never wanted me back in the first place because I through myself onto a platter for her!!

The thing is that I love her so how can she expect me not to try to get her back?

How does this work....???

Answer 1

My friend look at what you wrote. She insults your love by saying I never wanted you back in the first place because you through yourself onto a platter for her!! That shows you she does not care and her words are hurtfull and not filled with love. I would expect you now to say"Yes I love her, but it will never be so its time to move."
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Answer 2

here's the funny thing about men and women: we don't understand each other! :D

first of all, you probably did everything she wanted. let her dominate you, take control of the relationships, of ur feelings, etc. and it's a Very common mistake, among men and women! the problem is, No One is attracted for long to someone who has no backbone..especially a man. and i'm not talking about being a pansy. i'm talking about being a true Man: knowing your heart, knowing your mind, beign able to make Good decisions for Yourself first, than for your girlfriend, than eventually for your family. she has to trust that u will do waht is Good and Right for the Relationship, not just "whatever she says". many times girls act out, are spoiled, etc, to see what they can get. that doesn't mean they should always get what they want, u know? same goes for men, a woman shouldn't spoil him and allow him to make bad decisions and continue to support him. to respect each other is to help each other Grow, and Become Better people as time goes on!! if u weren't growing, or she wasn't growing, perhaps that was the problem. either way, how can u feel that she is the one, if she didnt' appreciate u putting urself on a platter??

here's how it SHOULD be: u offer, want to put urself on a platter. and she doesn't let you, but she appreciates your offer.

that's how all relationships should be: u take care of urself First, so taht u are a 100% capable of taking care of someone else! if u are worried about ur compatability, or if someone is gonna leave you, or if u are insecure, u are using more of that % on yourself than u can give to the relationship.

good luck!

Answer 3

Give her time to cool off. Things are said in theheat of an arguement. However, if she still tells you that she does not want to work on the relationship. Then you need to move on. She might have found someone eles that she is interested in or her feeling has changed regarding your relationship. But give her some space for now.

Answer 4

it doesnt work, if she truly doesnt want you back then you have to respect that. Although she may be the one for you you may not be the one for her! if the breakup is still that fresh give her some time and space she needs to think and so do you. After awhile set aside some time together to civily talk about the situation if you both want to tell her your honest feelings but show your maturity and respect what she decides. lets face it you will get over it if she's not the right one and you dont want to be with someone who dosent want to be with you you need someone who feels that same way about you that you feel about them. good luck!

Answer 5

if she mentioned of not wanting u back .. it means "she wants a whole new u".... you both might have broken up because of some reasons... she wants you to improve on yr part of the flaws so that mistakes in the past dont repeat.... REALLY get some change in attitude and mean yr words when u go ask her out again... get her flowers and a hand made card showing how much u want her back in yr life ... no gifts or money... it looks like u trynna buy her...

good luck and GOD BLESS =)

Answer 6

Women don't respect wimps, so if she couldn't respect you she couldn't have a relationship with you...The perfect guy is sweet and gentle and nice when he needs to be but not a complete push over. Geez...don't you guys get it? If she wanted something did you give it to her just like that? She never had to get on her knees for ya? There's your problem....your too easy. Next time even if your going to give in....and you willl...don't let her know it.

Answer 7

well,to answer your first question first that its not only girls who want something they cant get, its even men.basically its in the human nature to want somehting they cant get and when they get they are never satisfied with what they have they always feels grass on the other side is greener and then the same story repeats...
about your g/f,she has made it clear that she doesnt want to be with you and you cannot force someone to be with you and love you,it'll be better if you just leave her alone and move on with life,good luck!!

Answer 8

no girl likes a doormat. in mot being insulting but maby u were giving into her too much. i had that prob with a fella. its nice 4 a while but gets old quick. women want men with character. next time u talk show her that ur ur own person. stand firm and make ur point and dont give into her. she will respect u more. good luck

Answer 9

I know this is dumb but, if a girl knows she can have you. She will lose interest. We need a little talking back from our guy. We like competition. Well, not me. I have learned. Younger girls do.

Answer 10

Sounds like you are trying way too hard. She isn't interested in you anymore. I would suggest staying away before she thinks you are stalking her.
As for your question, sounds like YOU are the one who wants something that YOU can't get, not your ex.