My boyfriend is in Iraq, and I was under the impression that he should have been home by now based on his words as well as the automated system that was very similar to what he said. It is now going to two weeks since the date I was given, and I have not heard from him at all. All of his information is not the same because he closed out everything before he left so I have no way of calling him to find out anything.
We have a very good relationship, and he has communicated with me either weekly or daily since he has been gone. We even talked a week before he was supposed to come home. So if I give up is it to soon because he could be some where, where he can't contact me or would you think he is back home and don't want to contact me since it has been almost two weeks. Again our relationship is very good no fighting no arguing no nothing I just need to know should I give it some more time.
2006-09-26 07:32:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just wanted to add I am not asking this question because I want to be with someone else. That thought never crossed my mind, and yes I do have a life of my own. If he is home, and yes I do understand that he is or was at war, but I just wanted to be taken into consideration with at least a phone call to say yes I made it home if nothing more because I have waited all year for that.
That is all I am saying.
2006-09-26 07:57:23 · update #1
Give it some more time. There's a number of reasons he might not be able to call you right now and I'm sure you will find out sooner or later.
When I was in Iraq, my wife (we were dating at the time) gave up just TWO weeks before I came home! That was BS. Anyway, we later made up and got back together but I mean, give it another week or so cuz seriously, you've waited this long, what's another week? Are you in contact with his family? Ask them if they've heard from him. Also, the dates DO change....quite often actually..you never know, he could've been extended :(
2006-09-26 07:38:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would give up? Don't you realize he is in the desert fighting a war? Helllloooooo. If you keep up with current event, which you should since you are dating a military man, some people just got involuntarily extended. It's nothing for them to tell you the day before you leave that you've been extended. He doesn't need the stress of having a weak women. When you date someone in the military, you have to be stronger than the average woman because you spend a lot of time alone. Hopefully, you have a life and goals to keep you busy and preoccupied making things better for them when they come home. What if he's laid up in the hospital and you are comtemplating "giving up"? Give me a break.
2006-09-26 14:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your biggest concern is that he is home and not contacting you, I would not give up. You are dealing with the government and they do nothing on time. If he is on his way home, perhaps he is being debrief'd or something military like that. He may not be able to contact you by no choice of his own.
Hang in there, good things are worth waiting for!
2006-09-26 14:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. Go to his unit and find out. Tell them you are worried and would like to know if he made it back safely. Flights can get delayed over and over again but I'm very surprise you haven't got a phone call. My man has been overseas for 8 months and I he won't be back until Feb. You have all right to be upset if he is here and not telling you. I would leave if someone did something like that after you have waited for him for months.
2006-09-26 14:38:33 · answer #4 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. He is in iraq for petes sake. He has no control over what he eats let alone where he is at what time. The govt will keep putting him off. If you want an easy out than yes this is the perfect time to leave him.
2006-09-26 14:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some time for what? Before you start another relationship with another guy? Obviously, you're already thinking about that. How would he feel if he knew you were already debating this. Obviously he tries to keep in touch with you as much as he can. You can at least wait to hear back from him before you jump in someone else's arms.
2006-09-26 14:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by fiorine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a no brainer hun, definitely give it more time to see whats up. he's over there putting his life on the line every day to protect us back at home. a few weeks (or whatever it takes) to find out whats up is the very least that you can do.
2006-09-26 14:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bless you. hes probably either still out there and has been asked to stay on and hasnt been able to contact you or is back home but his family havent let him out of their sight since he came back. dont panick do you have his families number can you ask them dont give up im sure he'll contact you as soon as he can
2006-09-26 14:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by leanne_on_line 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was over there and my girl hung in with me and I was gone 16 months and yes it is hard to get to use a phone
2006-09-26 14:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up yet. Wait until you at least have some information.
2006-09-26 14:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋