My boyfriends baby's mom is rediculous. She says that she doesnt have any money to buy him new school clothes. But she has money to go get her hair done and go to the bar every weekend. I have her son more than she does. I havent bought myself something new in a year. I work two jobs to make ends meet and let her son have the things he needs. It really is none of my business but when my boyfriend and I combine our money it should be. What can I do?
2006-09-26 07:30:03 · 13 answers · asked by alainall 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend works full time also.
She would never let him have custody of his child. That would make her feel even more of a loser. I just want the best for his little boy. I tell my boyfriend almost every day that he needs to go to court. He wont. This is really putting our relationship in a bad position.
2006-09-26 07:37:49 · update #1
That's not really fair that you have to spend your money on his son i know that sounds selfish but that should be his own personal thing he has to deal with. It shouldn't come out of the money you guys put together. As long as you keep putting in money shes going to be getting her hair done because she knows you will be there to back up your man who backs up her! So if i were you i wouldn't put any money towards THEIR responsibility! It might sound mean but in the end your the one getting screwed!
2006-09-26 07:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by not_your_average*chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth when a mom doesn't have time or money for her kids they aren't worth a whole lot but on to an answer I have been taking care of my step kids full time for almost 5 yrs and it has never changed I haven't bought myself a new outfit in over two years but as for what you can do if you love this man then stick it out and if you just like him run as fast as you can because if you start taking the responsibility now you will feel you should the rest of the time. Good luck and hope all goes well worthless woman never change you will see that if you stick it out
2006-09-26 14:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by doodiemoonwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know u might care for the child and all, but stop paying for a child that isnt yours while his baby mama spends the money he is giving her, supposedly for the child, on herself. Have a talk wit ur boyfriend and if you have the child more than she does, have him stop paying her child support. If they have been to court over the child support already, then have him take it back to court to get main custody of the child so that he will not have to pay her anymore and the two of u can spend ur money on the baby instead of givin it to that lowlife to spend on herself.
2006-09-26 14:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by scorpioangel22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he pay child support mandated by the court? If so, that should cover it and when he's at the house, leave the things you buy him there. Some women are like that, greedy. It's unfortunate because the child suffers. Can he get custody of his child?
2006-09-26 14:33:31 · answer #4 · answered by TIRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your boyfriend doing everything for the little boy. Your boyfriend should try to get full custody. He needs to be in a stable environment
2006-09-26 14:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is the answer to everything. All you ever need is love,
communication and understanding. That's what I figured out so
far. If you are down, you need to get up and start doing something with
your life. Don't need to be shy, be straight forward and allways say what
you want and expect from the others.
=======
If you have the time, and you are looking for someone, complete this simple
form and start dating.
http://**************/go.php
2006-09-26 14:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut her off of your funds...let your boyfriend handle it. Then tell him to lawyer up and take the wench back to court. If she is using child support money for her own gain then she is in the wrong
2006-09-26 14:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there isn't much you can do, unless you and your boyfriend get custody of his son. There is no regulation on how a parent spends child support, etc., and there should be.
2006-09-26 14:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel...secondly if he can have him take legal action against her...she is responsible for the finacial care of the child as much as he is and if you can prove that she is using the money that is going for child support for her self then the courts can take away her right to recieve child support, or make her prove that the money is going towards the care of the child. hope that helps
2006-09-26 14:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by DarkJester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your money and let your boyfriend support HIS child.
If he does not or can not, find a new boyfriend, you are fishing in the shallow end of the gene pool.
Peace, and Good Luck!
2006-09-26 14:33:58 · answer #10 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋