my boyfriend and i are on this break because he is tired of fighting. it's been a while now. we still talk and say i love you but he refuses to see me.
today is our anniversary it will be three years soon, and i told him i have a gift for him because i got it a long time ago before anything happened. he said he would like to see what it is, meaning he will come over to see. he said if im nice to him and dont argue with him he will come back to me. that's what ive been doing for a while!!
i told him he has two suprises. one is the gift and the other is me and that i will stop fighting with him. he said he was happy without all the fighting. if i love him i will truly stop figthing with him over stupid ****. he needs to trust me.
will he take me back or is he just holding onto me because he doesnt want to be alone right now?????
2006-09-26 07:19:49 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NOTE: i didnt tell him the other suprise is me yet. i want to tell him in person.
to be honest i think it is because we saw each other every single day and we just got annoyed with one another so we started fighting over the dumbest crap. if we dont spend every single day together we wont fight and its not me changing for the worse..its me changing for the better!!!
PEOPLE SAY DONT BE NEEDY..SHOULD I NOT GIVE HIM ANYTHING AT ALL?
2006-09-26 07:20:15 · update #1
i understand u completely. i a´m actually going through a similar thing as u are right now. And i think that what is missing is the trust. He has to trust u more, and so do u. My story... i meet my boyfriend every single day... but sometimes i cant cause i gotta do other stuff....and he sorta gets pissed off at the smallest stuff...well.... he has to trust that u love him, that u always want to be with him. Try to stay out of the fights, though. Its soo cute with the surprise. hihi... if he loves u... he will love the surprise... and if he is only with you because he doesnt want to be alone... hes a jerk. hes not worth ur love if hes just with you cause hes lonely. Dont let him use you if that is what he is doing!! have a wonderful anniversary!! and dont worry.... i htink hes just afraid of loosing you...and afraid that the fights will seperate you.... stay away from the fighting and youll be fine!
2006-09-26 07:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by chica bcn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kinda sound needy to me, but then I understand that you're going through a difficult period in your relationship. I don't know what kind of stuff you guys were fighting about, and what kind of plans/ideas you have for your relationship long-term. IMO, to blame your fighting on "seeing each other every day" is not constructive; I assume, one day you would want to take your relationship further? I mean, it is not common that a couple would want to spend the remainder of their lives living separately and not seeing each other every day. Sooner or later, you will HAVE to deal with each other on the daily basis, unless you break up first. You might want to consider counseling, to try and resolve whatever it is that makes you two argue so much.
2006-09-26 14:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... long post ;)
I think that it's a nice fantasy to say you won't fight over anything... nice, but probably not doable in the long run. I wouldn't promise something I know I couldn't deliver. But what you can do is try to fix things up, and to be more open minded about stuff.
So, yes, try to keep fighting low, but understand that you will fight sometimes.
2006-09-26 14:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you holding onto him? If you can't stand to be around each other every day how are you going to handle being married to each other, sharing a house, a room, a bed?!? Three years is long enough. You should end it and find someone you can spend every day with. I mean isn't dating someone all about finding your perfect partner in life??
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2006-09-26 14:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were so whiny he left you.
Now you're trying to bribe him to come back and you're promising not to ever push the button to start up the whining machine again? You're lonely enough to make that promise, but have you learned enough to keep it?
Heh? That is impossible to believe. Impossible. I wonder what he'll do. If he shows up, round two probably won't last long.
2006-09-26 14:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DUNTNO.. I WOULD GIVE IT A WEEK WHERE U DONT TALK TO HIM THEN GO SEE HIM ,,,,IF U STILL FEEL INLUV AND HE EXPRESS'S HE LUVS U AND WANTS U BACK THEN LIVE AND LOVE LIFE .........IF HE DOESNT RESPOND THEN HONESTLY DONT TAKE MORE THAN 1 MONTH TO GET OVER HIM ...U WILL FIND A BETTTER DUDE AND THE N DONT FIGHT WITH HIM
2006-09-26 14:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's treating you like the fighting is all of your fault. But It takes two to tango,so you should talk to him about that or just dump him.
2006-09-26 14:27:02 · answer #8 · answered by dragon_fan1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Sounds like you have a lot and I mean a LOT of growing up to do.
2006-09-26 14:23:22 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him nothing. Dump him. Move on.
And stop asking the same question.
2006-09-26 14:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋