I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now (He's 44, I'm 43... we knew each other 15 years ago and found each other by coincidence). In the beginning, it was magic! The first four or five months were incredible... it's still incredible for me. This man is the love of my life. The past couple of months, he's displayed a lack of interest in sex which we talked about. We agreed that things had become somewhat mundane and have since spiced things up a bit... it's helped significantly. However, he seems to be distancing himself again (a pattern he's well aware of) and I feel like I'm doing a lot of work to keep the relationship afloat. As a side... we both have kids (teenagers) and are very active in our careers, so life is go, go, go... we have to plan 'spontaneity' (which I do most of). We don't live together, but live right down the street from one another. Our friends think we're the perfect match.. any tips on how to make this work.. or not. Many thanks!
2006-09-26 07:18:30 · 5 answers · asked by sparksfly01 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really hate to say this but there is no doubt in my mind that he has become interested in someone else. I experienced the very same thing. Please look forward to the future and open your heart to other possible relationships. I am still drowning in misery and can't seem to get a grip. Don't waste your time here on earth with someone that doesn't truly love you in the way you should be loved. " Mr. Right" is waiting for you, you just have to be available to him and move on. I wish you the best!!!
2006-09-26 07:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by “Mouse Potato” 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood complacency. When I have been with someone, I have always been just like you are....alwasy so into that person. Not overboard but very amorous affectionate and sensual....always. I guess people are not happy with what they have. They always think the grass is greener.
Anyway, is there something he wants you to do (in the bedroom) that you don't want to do, aren't very good at or do poorly maybe? Maybe he really wants something and what he wants is so specific that it's difficult for you to do for him. I'm guessing.
YOu sound like you are falling all over yourself. I would appreciate this if it were me. I'd love it in fact, but maybe you could talk to him and see if he can confess tro you what's bugging him. I mean.....if you keep raising the bar, eventually you will get to a point that you cannot top. Make sense?
If you talk to him and see if he will tell you what he thinks is wrong, then you can address *that* and get to the bottom of things.
These are tough to address because the one that holds the key (him) is the one you can't get to talk.
I hope things work out for you tho.
HUGS
2006-09-26 07:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key, no matter the length or severity of a relationship. You should talk to him about this most recent distant feeling. Perhaps you are reading into it more than you should be or perhaps your feelings are right on point. You won't know an answer until you sit down with him. Don't let him off the hook with some crap answers though, sometimes people do that to get out of a situation for the time being. Better to get it all out right now than wait for more time to pass! Good luck and keep an open mind and open heart!
2006-09-26 07:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm sure you don't want to hear this, but maybe try NOT trying so hard. Maybe if you back off a little, he'll come around, and if not, then maybe you're better off. You cannot run a relationship by yourself, you cannot possibly do all of the work, it takes two, remember?
2006-09-26 07:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo! Answers Chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying a little TOO hard.
2006-09-26 07:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋