Do You regret having your children? Seriously.?

Question

If you could do it all over again would you have your kids? I am considering having a baby and really need honest answers. I don't judge or anything. My own dad said "It was harder than we thought." So do you regret it??

Answer 1

nope, how else would I get my weeds pulled and grass cut,

Answer 2

How old are you...Have you had a chance to live your own life yet? Are you financially & mentally secure? If you can answer yes to these questions, you'll likely have no regrets. Parenting is extremely hard and VERY expensive. You give up all right to have a personal life of your own again when you have kids. Everything revolves around them from that point forward. You'll be lucky to go to the bathroom without company. So if you want to get a degree, or travel, or do anything else that requires freedom and time, best do it before kids. Also, if you are not financially secure, it will be that much harder. If you have to work, a child will add about $15K per year in expenses. I love my daughter but she drastically changed my life. I cannot travel at will anymore or even sit down and read a book. Parenthood is a REAL 24-hour 365-day a year JOB. So make sure you are prepared because it is not a job you can quit when it gets too hard.

Answer 3

I have 2 kids , 7yrs old and 5 mths old. My sons dad was a loser and he passed away in jail , my daughter is a product of rape. I am now 25 and happier than can be.... I love my kids to death and dont know where I would be without them. I was 18 when I had my son and believe it or not I think he saved my life. I don't regret him. And for my daughter even though I was raped I love her to death , she's my princess and I don't regret keeping her either , she has made me a stronger person.. My fiancee' is great with my kids , he treats them as his own.. My suggestion to you is , if you're gonna have a baby make sure its by someone who will stand by your side. Your don't want a dead beat dad for your kid. Kids are a handful and very expensive so your dad didn't lie about that. good luck

Answer 4

If I could do it over again, I probably wouldn't have as many kids as I did.I've had 4 and it wasn't really fair to them because they missed out on alot when they were growing up.I mean it's easy to take 1-2 kids to the movies or McDonalds but try taking 4 when you are on a fixed income.It's easier to buy clothes and have nice Christmas gifts for 1-2.But for 4!! Anyways, I love my kids.They are all special in there own way. I think everyone should experience being a parent as long as they can handle it and don't have too many.Good luck to you!!!

Answer 5

NO i do not regret having my daughter! She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. It is VERY hard to raise a baby. It is the hardest thing you will probably ever do, but I would not change it for anything. If you asked this question then your not ready to have a baby! Wait untill you know that you can handle it and be there for it every second of everyday! You have to mentally and emotionally ready for it, it's not just something you can expect to be ready for. It takes time and effort. Please wait untill you know for sure you are ready at least for the baby's sake! If you do get pregnant and know that your not ready then give it up for adoption. You can't ask people for their opinion and expect to know what to do, no person is the same. Either your ready or your not! There is no in between.

Answer 6

speaking as a mother of three no i don't regret having my babies . i adamant that it is hared er then i thought it would be but i love my kids very much and i would not change that for anything in the world .so if could do it all over again i would do it the same .no regrets hope this helped and good luck.

Answer 7

i do not regret having my kids but i do regret having them at a young age ( i was 20 when i had my first and was not married) i wish i would have had myself stable first and got married then had my kids ...now your question was if i could do it over again would i - if i knew i could have the same wonderful boys i have i would change the time i had them and the person i had them with .. kids are a handful but they are so much more then just that once you have your own you will see...... yes every mother complains about her kids but that's just something we do we love are kids always no matter what ....well i do anyways

Answer 8

Well i thought i wanted a bus load of kids. But after having my son in which i wanted very much..the terrible pregnancy i had to go through for 9 months,,and the money situation...i Could never have anymore. And besides that this world is too ****** up to bring another baby into this world. I love my son and would never change that fact,,,but wouldnt have another. If you want a baby,,,MAKE SURE...thats what you really want...because your life is all for that child and not you anymore.

Answer 9

i got married very young,had my first kid at 18 now she is 22,had three others,aged,21,16 and 10,,and no,,i do not regret have had them.,as,what they are now,does not reflect,what they were once,i mean,,as a child they were lovely,,wonderful,a good company for me,but as they grew up,,unavoidably they had to change and ,become more like adults,,and,,well i don't see them with the same eyes and love as before,although i have played my part well,loved,cared and protected them from harm,,i sometimes think that I've brought up some useless beings,who are totally devoid of feelings,respect and considerations to me, they re of mixed races though and maybe this factor,plays a part,and ,,well if i had the chance i would not have had them,but i know that it was a necessary choice, to be what am today,to prove and show my caring,,loving side,, I've done my part as a good mom,the rest is up to them,we can't force noone to be good,can just show,goodness,which is not the same as ,,FORCE,goodness. Thus if u want be a mom,make sure,u got certain requirements such: selfless love,,patience,determinations,strengh,steadfastness,and understanding,the rest will come naturally,but what ur kids will turn up to be,its up to them ultimately, not u,or the ppl around them,,good luck the choices and the path is ours,cannot blame my mom for my behaviors,just thanks her,.

Answer 10

I love my children dearly and wouldnt and couldnt do without them now. But to be totally honest if I had known what it entailed I would not have had kids. Maybe that is selfish..I dont know. Life wouldnt have been a lot easier in many ways. Children take a lot in time, money and cost to your relationship. I love to travel and that was so not happening. Think carefully and remember..a relationship is rarely made better by having kids. Good luck.

Answer 11

It is harder than we thought, but I still would not do anything different except already have a much more ideal situation for them rather than be working toward one. (Ideal for me is not have to worry about certain expenses, get them what they want whenever we can. It might be something else to you.)

I don't regret my having children. Those are my babies. And someday they're going to be great adults who do awesome things for their respective communities.