Ok, I'm friends w/this guy for a while now. He took me to lunch the other day and we hung out for a while just talking, at the restauraunt. I felt a little bad b/c I know he has a girlfriend and I wouldn't want to cause any trouble. He told me he would take me to lunch next time he was in town. Should I say no?
2006-09-26 07:16:48 · 31 answers · asked by Ms. Kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-26 07:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by MR. RETARDO VIII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been friends with him? If its just recently, then I would say no, but if you have been friends with him for a while, going out to lunch with friends is ok. As long as you both know. Does he talk about his girlfriend to you or doesn't even mention her once?
2006-09-26 07:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the bad part of having lunch with a friend. Its not like your doing something wrong. I think you should take his invitation and got to lunch with him.
2006-09-26 07:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♥**Me**♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i'd politely decline the offers to lunch. he has a gf and you both should be respecting that. it would be a better idea if he invited his gf along, and that way all 3 of you could hang out, even tho it would be the best if you also brought along another guy friend. but i really wouldn't suggest you continue going out places with him, simply cuz he has a gf and overtime, it will cause friction.
2006-09-26 07:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if his girlfriend know's about your little lunch dates. These kind of men do this all the time. He probably met his girlfriend while he was with some one else. But, if you meet her and she doesn't mind then go for it. How would you feel?
2006-09-26 07:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds pretty harmless to me. Why don't you ask him if his GF knows about you and go from there. If she doesn't, ask him why. Also mention you'd like to meet her if she's ever in town with him. If she knows all about you then it really is just lunch with a friend and you shouldn't worry so much.
2006-09-26 07:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you want- you're allowed to be friends with whoever you want to be friends with. If he's really that good of a friend though, you would be comfortable enough to talk to him directly about this without hurting the relationship. Maybe he's having second thoughts about his other relationship? Ask him
2006-09-26 07:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Clare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Ms. Kitty, if you are SUPER HOT then maybe you should stop having lunch with him for fear that his girlfriend may be jealous.
If you are just average, overweight and gaining, and nothing to write home about, then... GO FOR IT! FREE LUNCH!
2006-09-26 07:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by blue2monday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he has a gf already then back away, maybe your intentions are friendly but maybe his isn't??? You don't want to make his gf jealous. What if someone saw you two out and started rumors. Just say no.
2006-09-26 07:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just friends, then I don't see why male/female friendships have to be banned just cos it may cause jealousy. Shouldn't his girlfriend trust him if they have a good relationship?
However if you are thinking of having sex with him, I think it's wrong on your part, I don't think you should encourage people to cheat.
2006-09-26 07:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by DS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the same way. You don't want to loose your friend but you don't want him to loose his relationship. You should tell him you would like it if his girlfriend came. Tell him you would like to meet her and would like to see him as well. That way she can feel secure in knowing you are only friends, you don't have to let a friend go, and there are no secrets or ideas floating around!
2006-09-26 07:19:24 · answer #11 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋