-so this guy at work asked me out - to go to a club with him. First I should say that I do like him- I find him very attractive on a physical level, but I think its the same for him and I dont think he wants anything else- but he doesnt know me outside of work and as it so happens- i don't believe in sex before marriage- I am a very traditional and straightlaced catholic - and while I want him- i know its not what I should choose because it may wreck my life...I know its sounds like I am freaking out over nothing but bear with me...and somebody pls tell what I should tell him without gettingas complicated as this...also how I can do it so it wont be too awkward at work after...
2006-09-26 07:09:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to break the date, easiest solution would be to lie. Say something like you have prior family engagements that you cannot break but you forgot about. If he asks for more information, say that it’s personal and that you would rather not talk about.
The BEST solution would be to come out and tell the truth. Tell him that you’re a devout to your religion and that you do not believe in sex before marriage. Tell him that you’ll go clubbing with him but that’s as far as the date will go. If he is a gentleman, he would understand.
On a side note, stop making assumptions about the guy and find out the truth for himself. Don’t automatically assume that he only likes you on a superficial level. Also, I seriously think you’re over-reacting. Going clubbing will not “ruin your life”. Furthermore, you need to seriously reconsider how devout you are to your religion. From what I’ve read, you are lusting after this guy. You are afraid that the alcohol will loosen your inhibitions and you’ll end up sleeping with him.
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2006-09-26 14:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go clubbing but make it clear that is ALL it will be? Conversationally tell him you don't date much because a lot of men don't appreciate you preferring to remain celibate until marriage. If he still wants you to go out with him great...if not, then no loss and you're off the hook.
2006-09-26 14:13:50 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) don't be ashamed of ur values, of ur thoughts, of ur views. if u are strong, stick with it, and be Proud of it!
when my boyfriend first asked me out, after the 4th or 5th date we went to the beach, and we were kissing..and i told him, u know what. and he goes, "what?" and i go, "i just wanna let u know that i believe in not having sex until marriage. i'm just letting u know, cuz i know that is a factor in people's decisions in finding a gf/bf." lol....and it was funny! he was like, huh, u really got it out of the way! we laughed..anwyays, turned out He also felt the same way!
anyways, long story short is that whoever u are with should respect how u feel. and if he is immature about it, or is rude, or tries to force u otherwise, h e is not respecting u, and he isnt' worth ur time. instead of letting his negative reactions make You feel bad, let it be a sign to let u know he's not that great. only a great guy will be able to address your every needs and wants, and isn't that worth waiting for?? good luck~
2006-09-26 14:15:33 · answer #4 · answered by tarmee2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy asked you to go to club with - not to jump in the supplu room with him to have sex. Go out with him - you don't know much about him either - this is your chance for both of you to find out more about each other, including your more traditional values. Who knows, he may respect those values - but if he doesn't, he doesn't - don't worry about it. Have fun!
2006-09-26 14:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be firm in what you belive.
If the Guy wants what you think he wants it is-NO.
You can give 100 reasons not o go clubbing with him.
No freaking- Do some serious thinking.
2006-09-26 14:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by SKG R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be forward and tell him about your religous convictions and that sex before marriage will not happen. The question is if his feelings toward you are strong enough for him to wait (that is if he is interested in you that way)
2006-09-26 14:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him your very traditional and straightlaced catholic ..well just print out ur question and give it to him it should explain everything to him.
2006-09-26 14:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by wheresmyfamilyline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him, but control the places that you go and what you do together. If you manage the relationship and he is still interested, you have a winner.
2006-09-26 14:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just set up a dif place to go, then u both get ur way. if he doesn't like it, then obviously he doesn't wanna hang out with you that bad. don;t let anyone make you feel as if you're being difficult, it's what you believe, and that's that!
2006-09-26 14:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by justasweetestthing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋