If they haven't had anything to do with them for a while why write a letter to say they didn't want to be part of the family anymore? Why not just leave them alone?
2006-09-26 07:06:55 · 7 answers · asked by DC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sometimes you need the closure that a letter can bring. If you just ignore then, it's so easy to go back and start talking to them again. A phone call or a letter makes it more permanent. I had to call my mother and tell her that I didn't want to talk to her anymore. She blamed me for all the bad things that had happend to her, even going so far as to tell me that it's my fault she was raped! I loved her, but couldn't be the scapegoat any longer. So I didn't talk to her for a couple of years. Then I called her out of the blue, and it turns out that we are both more mature now than before. We are able to have a pretty decent relationship now.
Hope this helps!
2006-09-26 07:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. My now ex sister-in-law wrote to her own sons (my step-nephews at the time) and told them to go on with their life without her after she divorced my brother. She left my brother for another man and left her kids with my brother. Even though there real father was in Texas, she never contacted him to let their father know where his sons were. My brother had to call the real father to let him know what his ex-wife did.
Not sure all that was in the letter just bits of pieces. The letter was about how she found a new life with this man and that she couldn't take care of them any more. (They were both under 18 at the time.) To make a long story short. Before the real father had a chance to make arrangements for them to fly from Washington to Texas, one of her sons committed suicide after he read this letter.
This is a different situation than what I think you mean. But, I thought if I told what had happened, some family member might think twice before writing such a letter to hurt another family member.
2006-09-26 07:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dottie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They like how it felt when they were writing and imagining the shock and all the reactions everyone was supposed to have....
You're absolutely right. If they really didn't want anything to do with you, they shouldn't have written a letter. How immature. I bet they're in their forties and fifties....
2006-09-26 07:10:58 · answer #3 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know unless the family has been harassing them to "come back to the family." Then it would be in plain and simple terms (with visible evidence) that they wanted nothing more to do with them.
2006-09-26 07:08:42 · answer #4 · answered by serena_dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could also
BE A DISGUISED ATTEMPT TO CRY-OUT FOR HELP..
People react different to all kinds of situations....
I for one will give that person all possible chances to return home!
It very much sounds like he/her is leaving a door open anyway.....
GardenBliss
2006-09-26 07:13:55 · answer #5 · answered by Bliss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they needed to do it for closure.
2006-09-26 07:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT THAT I CONDOAN IT MAYB TO DERAIL ANY ATTEMPT TO TRY TO FIND HIM .OR HER
2006-09-26 07:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋