theres this gal whom is in my age (20yrs old)..i like her a lot and i very much care about her...
i think i love her but i am not sure how to say it..i am afraid tat she mite mistake me as just another guy who wants to date and flirt with her..
i am not keen to flirt with her or date her or have a relationship...
i very much care about her and all i want to do is make sure she's happy ..no matter who shes with..and love her the way i am being loved by people around me..
but i dont know how to convey it to her ..she is highly conservative..i am afraid she mite mistake me..any opinion in this regard is welcome..
thanks in advance :)
2006-09-26 07:02:13 · 11 answers · asked by auroga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she feels like shes all alone in this world and i want to make her feel tat theres someone who loves her...
2006-09-26 07:09:16 · update #1
i dont want to have a relationship with her coz it really doesnt matter wheter she loves me or not,its really irrelevant,i wont be truly lovin her if was expectin her to love me back,if she loves me fine,if she doesnt love me still fine with me,besides she considers me as her best friend..tats enough for me.
october gal says "Why do you want her to know you love her and care about her? To make HER happy?"
bingo exactly the reason why i wanted to say to her,when u feel ur alone&some1 says i will be there for u just wonderin wheter it wud make her feel happy.dont forget tat we cant meet each other till she finishes colege,will take 6months till then only internet chat,its not like i take her to romantic dinner&say " i luv u"not tat type.
"Just find some ways to show her how you feel& your friendship will be altered for better, not have a mistake in it.Do kind things&have fun with her.No need to say "I Love You"
well ur correct..why say "i love u" when i can do it in action...
2006-09-26 16:54:25 · update #2
Why do you want her to know you love her and care about her? To make HER happy? (I understand there are different possibilities why you might say this....)
Just find some ways to show her how you feel and your friendship will be altered for better, not have a mistake in it. Do kind things and have fun with her. No need to say "I Love You" if you do not want a mistake to happen.
2006-09-26 07:06:06 · answer #1 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you really need to ask yourself why you don't want to be in a relationship with her, I mean if you love her why wouldn't you? Don't you want to be happy & have a meaningful relationship with someone? Anyhow, I'd continplate that for a while if I were you . As for you actual question tell her exactly what you just said here. Tell her that you like her a lot ,hell tell her you love her but that you're not really into a relationship right now but you totally dig on hanging with her. If she's into you and down with that then she'll totally understand & respect you for being honest. She'll actually probebly want you even more just because your like something that she can't have. Trust that ,as a women myself I know women...well people in general always want what they can't have. She should really appriciate your honesty & your being up front. So many dudes are totally into playing games that it's really refreshing just to have one be straight with you. If nothing else you can always use the old " I don't want to ruin our friendship" line. That seems to usually work for a good brush off that dousn't hurt anyones feelings. I can't help to wonder why it's so important for you to tell her the way that you feel about her if you really don't want a relationship with her (maybe you are playing games) I really hope not, I'd hate to think that I tried to help another dude just score or screw with a chics head just for the hell of it. BE NICE! Most importantly be honest. Good luck, hope this helps ya.
2006-09-26 14:32:13 · answer #2 · answered by Liza M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it you are seriously screwed-up!! In My opinion there is no such thing as FRIENDS!!! There is people you love - MEANING, people you are in a relationship with, and then there is people you KNOW!!
My advise is, Say nothing and carry on with your "Friendship" and if the popo do hit the fan one day you can tell her how you really feel!! She will appreciate it more then, BUT don't do anything!!
2006-09-26 14:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Charming 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express your feelings with actions. The words can always come later.
2006-09-26 14:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AH you know you love her! Go out and have a great time you may find you love her more than you think you do!
2006-09-26 14:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. Tell her you care about her as a friend and that you love her but, your not IN LOVE with her.
2006-09-26 14:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by slider_20012003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you platonically love and care for her like a sister
2006-09-26 14:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by cabjr1961 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say "Love Ya" in a bubbly upbeat way....
2006-09-26 14:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her the truth
2006-09-26 14:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you're there for her.
2006-09-26 14:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by derek985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋