My guy is ok with "oral attention", but I'd like to tell him specific things to do that would make it a lot better for me. I don't want him to think he's been doing it wrong all along or that I'm not happy with his style, because I'm not ubhappy with it; I'd just like to suggest things that may be more effective. How do I get my point across without sounding judgemental or unsatisfied? How would you feel if your BF/ GF offered tips in bed?
2006-09-26 06:40:03 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boy does this sound familiar. I think a lot of women make the mistake of thinking that we have to verbalize what we want or need. The next time you find yourself in the position of receiving, try repositioning your body so he hits the main circuit, or try re-positioning his head so he finds the main circuit on his own. If he is truly into pleasing you and vice-versa, there shouldn't be any problems. A good way to start a verbal conversation would be to say something like "you know, I think I would like it very much if you would...." That doesn't sound judgemental as "let me show you how to". I hope this will help you.
2006-09-26 06:45:57 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got the same problem. I am going to start "the conversation" by asking him if there is something that he wants me to do for him differently. Hopefully he will tell me then ask me the same question. But we talk about a lot of things similar to that. I don't think anyone has a relationship without good communication. Most guys would jump at the opportunity to pleasure you better or faster. Just talk with him about it.
2006-09-26 06:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Crazychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take well to advice from my bf. I love it when I can make him feel even better. If you want him to do something different you can gently move his head or hand to were you want him to touch you. Give him confidence. Tell him that you love the way he touches you, but this would make you feel even better. Be sure to show your approval lol when he does it. Whatever you do though, if he gets deffensive, make sure you tell him what a great lover he is, and that you, yourself, don't get defensive. Then you'll just get in to an argument. In the end, just do what you feel is right.
2006-09-26 06:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by sweetypie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him BEFORE you get in the bedroom. Tell him you love him and love having sex with him but you have some ideas to make it more fun and then share them with him. You can also ask him if there is something he might want you to do. You need to do this over lunch/dinner/watching tv because once you are in the bedroom, a man could feel belittled if you try and "coach" him.
2006-09-26 06:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little hints here and there work much better than a list of instructions. When hes "working" tell him you think you would really like it if he *blank* just one thing, and then if its great make sure you show him a response. Add one thing every week or two until its prefect, try saying remember how last week I asked you to do *blank* and I really liked it, coudl you do that again but this time also *2nd blank*
2006-09-26 06:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by erica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read no further....We want to know whwt to do..We know all girls are different and we would love to have Clitoris handeling directions handed to us before we enter the bedroom with every girl we meet..That not being the case, I say tell us what to do..We want to please you..For that matter, that is where I get most of my pleasure..I try to be soft at first, but then I get some girls pushing my head all up in them...I wish I could figure out he clitoris rubicks cube, I would make millions..Thankfully I am happily married now and have acess to a clitoris I know my way around.. But I remember those sad days of fumbeling around like a kid who droped his marbles..Please tell the guy, he will find this sexy and he will be very happy to please..and if he dosen't like it, just call me..
2006-09-26 06:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is sensitive about these issues, but you need to find a fun way to discuss the issue. Maybe make up some sort of game where you get turns to tell the other partner what you want them to do.
2006-09-26 06:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it made things even more pleasurable for her, i'd want all the input i could get. Pleasuring the female body is nowhere near as easy as the male body, and we don't always understand everything. Show him the way, and it'll be good (or even great) for both of you.
Sex just isn't good if she doesn't have an orgasm as well.
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2006-09-26 06:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Echelon Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I try to phrase what I want as a playful suggestion. Or if I want a specific sort of touch, I don't really say anything, just guide his hand where I want it. I don't like to be agressive, and I find both approaches get me what I want.
As for offering tips, I like it and usually find my guy does, as well. As long as you don't put it to him/her as an insult, helpful hints and suggestions make it better for both of you.
2006-09-26 06:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by emt42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel bad at first (3 minutes)but, Me being a man, I understand that every woman is different and like different things, so I would want her to tell me what feels good etc.
2006-09-26 06:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by YAHOO SUCKS ASS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋