Me and my mom had a talk about sex. My mom told me that she would put me on birth control pills when she seen that I was mature enough to have sex. I am 18 years old and I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for nearly 8 months. We still haven't had sex yet because we wanted to be safe and wait till I was on the pill. And now I want to be on the pill and I need to know how I can prove to my mom that I'm mature enough for sex. HELP!
2006-09-26 06:36:48 · 30 answers · asked by Megan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your 18? Then you dont need her permission any more. If you are mature enough to know the risks of sex, and you feel you are ready, then go for it. Your mother may be having a hard time letting go, and realize you are not a child any more. And you can go to planned parenthood or your physician to get on the pill, you dont have to have your moms permission anymore. As a mother of a 7 yr old girl, I dont think I will ever be ready to tell her its ok for her to have sex if she isnt married. You have to be mature enough to make that decision for yourself.
2006-09-26 06:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kuiper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will probable never convince you mom you're mature enough to have sex. Even though I also recommend waiting till marriage to have sex you probably wont, so go get your own pills before you decide to. You sure don't want an unwanted pregnancy. After all you are considered by law to be an adult.
2006-09-26 06:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by stephenl1950 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you feel you need to prove to your mom that you're mature enough for sex at 18 years old, you're not mature enough for sex. If you're 18, you have the right to do whatever you want with your body. You don't need her to go get the pill. But if you need her approval to have sex, don't have sex because you're not mature enough.
2006-09-26 06:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mum why u think your ready, stress how important this is to you. After that just drop the sex subject altogether and do everything to make her happy (we want in the good books, heaps easier to work with) whilst reminding her how you feel about this guy (non sexual only of course). Do this for a while and you'll gain her trust showing her that you're mature and the sex problem isnt that big of an issue but it is important to you. Play your cards all for the right reasons though, you're mum has been and will always be there for you and this guy may not. Good luck with that.
2006-09-26 06:49:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand that you want to do it, but I'm telling ya, you'll wonder why you did. there's a slim chance you will end up with this man (but i guess you never know), and I would really wait if I was you. I haven't done it yet myself, and i am so glad because once those guys realized i wasn't gonna jump right into the sack, they were gone. i'm not saying your bf is a pig or is all about that, but i would wait... even if just a bit longer!
also, if you aren't living on your own and paying your own bills and rely on your mother to get the pill... you aren't in a spot to risk getting pregnant, period. and sex always has that risk.
2006-09-26 06:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by carlaerickson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Posing the question... "How can I show my Mom I'm mature enough to have sex?"... Tells me you are not mature enough to have sex... If you truly are 18 then go to your doctor and get your own script for birth control pills... You no longer need your Mom with you...
2006-09-26 06:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just sit down one evening and have a chat with her. Tell her how you feel and that you want to go on the pill. Perhaps you can both go to the doctors and discuss the options together. She sounds like a down-to-earth mum, if you've already spoken to her about it so I'm sure she'll be mature enough to understand. :o)
Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:41:00 · answer #7 · answered by pixie.wings 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that you're 18, you're not obligated to prove anything to her at all.
Better would be to tell your mom one day that you've become sexually active with your boyfriend and you want to thank her for raising you right.
She might be shocked, but your thanking her for being a careful and concerned mom will turn soften her reaction.
The bottom line: you're an adult now and don't need her permission to have sex - just her approval afterwards.
2006-09-26 06:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just answered your own question.... you are 18. You do not need your mothers consent to be on the pill or to have sex! The only thing your mother has say so over is whether or not it is permitted in her home. Other than that you are of age to do as you please.
2006-09-26 06:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hate to sound harsh but I think you should wait indefinitely.
Remember all actions have consequences. Ask yourself what you want to accomplish in life hun. College, career, Marriage and family? Your life's course can be drastically changed forever with one bad choice such as this.
Am I saying to not have contact with your BF. No, that is not realistic. But "Outercourse" is my recommendation, at most tyring anal. You simply have too much to lose.
It sounds as though you have a good head on your shoulders. Wait for now and try the outer-course.....
2006-09-26 06:49:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋