If a female asks if I've ever been hurt before in a relationship, I don't know how to answer. I've been cheated on and left for another, but looking back at it, it really didn't hurt me. Some people act like they've lost their mind or get depressed, whatever. Doesn't really bother me and it hasn't affected any of my relationships. Am I crazy for that, or is everyone else overly sensitive. I have loved them and still talk to them with no bitterness and people don't understand that.
2006-09-26 06:32:54 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No man, your not weird for not feeling a certain way it's just who you are and how you handle things. There is a lot of things that my girl will cry about and I'll find no problem with. Like death for instance, she finds it a sad and scary thing and I always tell her I see it as a time for celebration and new beginnings. So if you've never been hurt then you've never been hurt. Maybe you just see the lesson and good in those relationships that didn't work and that's just how you view that and the world!
2006-09-26 06:39:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're crazy. I don't quite understand this whole "how do I get over him/her 3 years later" c**p. Granted, the end of a relationship can sometimes be traumatic; but not every relationship ends like this - and even if it does, time tends to heal the wounds, and one moves on naturally. I still talk occasionally to several people I had been in relationships with, I'm not bitter or angry about the past. Every relationship had contributed to my growth experience, and to the way I am now; I wouldn't change a thing.
2006-09-26 06:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. You must have a good understanding of who you really are. Most people that freak out after a bad ending to a relationship are not strong emotionally. Giving your heart to someone is great but if they do not respect you enough to be faithful then next. It seems you approach things that way. I feel like I am like that. Just be honest with that girl. If she is with you she will understand.
2006-09-26 06:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Clyde R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am with you. I don't get hurt cause I know that things just happen. BUT, I know that you must of felt betrayed by the other person, which in a way constitutes getting hurt. So, yes, you can say that there were two other women who hurt your trust in the past. Yeah, thats a good one. That way you are not saying that they hurt YOU, but that they hurt the trust you had in them. I dont know if you can hurt trust, but whatever, you get my point. Hope this helped.
2006-09-26 06:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, each individual is different especially when it comes to emotions. Perhaps, those past relationships didn't effect you because maybe you weren't truly "in love" with them or perhaps those girls weren't "the one" because I feel if those past relationships were of true love and meaning, then it would have effected you more. Overall, I believe it's because you have not found true love yet and when you do and that day comes, I wish you all the best and love to last a lifetime.
2006-09-26 06:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to admit to being a liar, you need to tell her that you have been hurt before, everyone has and you aren't excluded from that group. It may not have damaged you forever, but it hurts at least temporarily when we are wronged in a relationship.
2006-09-26 06:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're just the type of person who doesn't dwell on the past, you look at the future at all times. If somebody cheated on you 2 years ago, does that really change who you are now? no. Did you lose anything out of it that you could have had now? no.
2006-09-26 06:36:04 · answer #7 · answered by chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, there is nothing wrong with you. i wish i could have been like you. the thing about you is that you put nothing past people, so when they actually "try" to "hurt" you or has "hurt" you ...you simply say "what they hay?" why would you not expect that people disappoint us. that's right! don't let other people's stupidity bring you down.
I think your attitude about it is great ...now that i think about it, i suck! i would get upset with my bf because he says he would not care if i'd cheated. but now i feel him because that would just show my true colors (if i did), why would he be upset over that?
good luck!
2006-09-26 06:37:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so let me make sure I understand...you have been cheated on and dumped, but it didn't hurt...not a normal reaction...sounds like you may not have cared too much about the other person in the first place (meaning, a "committment" issue)...which is probably why your new chick is asking if you have been hurt before (in chick speak means, "tell me about your feelings")...which apparently you are not doing..
2006-09-26 06:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by The Kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be pretty easy going. Nothing wrong with that. Sounds like some of the girls you are interested in might have a flair for drama or they just want to see how you are, like do you get mad easily, stuff like that.
2006-09-26 06:36:19 · answer #10 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋