I met a boy yesterday and we went out to eat that same day. but i've been talking to my ex again for a while ad I really want to get back with him. but me and this new boy went to this hotel because i wanted to check it out. I didn't plan on sleeping with him and we didn't. But he suggested that we go to the top floor and i did. When we got there we went on the staircase and at first we were just making out and it was pretty heavy stuff. I felt him getting hard and I backed out. He said that he didn't want to do it but he woud like to give me pleasure. So right there on the stairs he te me out. And i didn't have a problem with that. But now my ex is saying that he definitely wants to get back with me. I don't know if I should tell him what happened because it was on the same day. please give advice and don't judge. I beat myself up enough already
2006-09-26 06:20:38 · 22 answers · asked by Foxxy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Truthfully, I feel as though it is better to be honest. It's better to tell him now, let him know the circumstances, and maybe you can work through it. If you don't tell him, you take the risk of accidentally blurting it out at a later date or he may find out some other kind of way. At least, if you're honest, he can't say you lied or withheld information. Be straight-forward. If he can't accept it, then you don't need him. People make mistakes in life. You can't turn back time, but you can try to make it right by being honest. Let the guy from the stairs know that you are trying to get back with your ex and don't want to pursue the relationship with him. Then, tell your ex what happened and that you told the guy that you were trying to get back with your ex. I hope that he accepts it and that the two of you can work through this.
2006-09-26 06:42:31 · answer #1 · answered by skull_princess_70339 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Huh?...What is the problem again? I mean your ex had not made his intentions clear therefore you were still a free agent. You got yours it's over.. you don't have to report to him or feel guilty. If you do tell him then you would have just screwed up whatever chance you all have at making this thing work; b/c it will stay in his mind and either he'll slip out or he'll have a trust issue with you. Bottom line keep your mouth shut and savor the memory.
2006-09-26 13:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by onedzire27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others. Do not tell your ex if you get back together with him. You were not a couple when you met this other boy, so what you did or did not do with the other boy is none of your ex's business. Keep it to yourself, it will only cause problems if you say anything. If you do get back with your ex, do not see the other boy again, because that's cheating.
Good luck to you!
2006-09-26 13:25:09 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No judging but I think there is a reason why the ex is an ex. Think of why you broke up & why you were attacted to another guy if the ex held that golden key to your heart. Good Luck. Don't be down on yourself cause we all mess up. But be sure of what you want in a relationship.
2006-09-26 13:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell him anything....you weren't together on that occasion...so you didn't cheated on him! You are adult, independent....there's no need to tell him what happened because i'm sure he won't tell you what he've been doing 'til now. Plus....if you tell him....he will use the info to put you down every time you have a problem....i know what i'm saying...it's not a good feeling....i can tell you. So don't tell him....what for.....?
P.S. Don't mind the mistakes because i speak portuguese ok....
2006-09-26 13:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you have to tell him because you to werent together at the time. Maybe im wrong but I been there and done that and here recently too. Good luck! P.S if it really does eat at you maybe you should tell him just dont drive urself nuts.
2006-09-26 13:33:27 · answer #6 · answered by prettybrightbutterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you get back together with your ex, make sure you both don't repeat what made you "ex's" to begin with. Make sure getting back together with him makes sense.
Secondly, unless you want to hurt his feelings, don't tell him.
2006-09-26 13:25:16 · answer #7 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, for me if i heard you been seein this dude i would be pissed off enough not to listen. Just keep seeing this dude and start giving 'pleasure' to ur ex, once again ;D>
2006-09-26 13:23:51 · answer #8 · answered by BUFU 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have no responsibility to tell him. You wre not going out with your ex at the time.
Does he tell you what he did? No.
Just start over. Good luck.
2006-09-26 13:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell! It will just cause unneeded stress and drama. You weren't back with him yet. What he doesn't know won't hurt him. Unless you think you might see this guy again!
2006-09-26 13:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by Lynda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋