I met this girl once on a trip and we talked for a bit. When I came back I added her on my MSN list. This was back in Dec/Jan. I msg'd her a few times, and whenever I did, we'd have decent enough conversations and chilled. But by February I went a couple of weeks without msg'ing her to see if she'd msg me and she never did, so I deleted her contact.
I saw her again at a wedding this July, but didn't get a chance to speak to her. I re-added her on MSN and msg'd her and again we talked and clicked pretty good. But for the last three months, every convo we had was initiated by me. SHE NEVER ONCE MSG'D ME FIRST.
Does that mean she's completely uninterested? And if yes, should I just spare myself the headache and just block her?
2006-09-26 06:14:50 · 34 answers · asked by tell_me_whos_sleeping_with_who 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For those wondering, i'd LOVE to have more than a gay cyber relationship with her. But she lives in a completely different part of the city. Goes to a different university. Goes to a different Church. I fully intended on asking her to a coffee or something at some point, but i keep hesitating cuz of the complete lack of initiative i see on her part.
2006-09-26 06:25:43 · update #1
I can only answer for myself.
I don't message men,
I go on line,
And i figure if he isn't busy,,,
He will message me.
Guess I'm abit old fashioned in SOME ways ~ !
The answer to your question, is one YOU have to decide.
You know her better then all of us do ~!
So who are we to judge a person & relationship,
we dont know about.
Take Care.
~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~*~Peace.
2006-09-26 06:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Brat-tett & Brat Pack's 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you preferring a cyber relationship to a real one? Go out there with her and find out what she is like in person. I will be certain you can read her better in person than over the Internet. If she seems uninterested stop talking to her. But have the actual will-power instead of just getting mad and blocking her.
2006-09-26 06:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Debra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way t know if she is interested is to ask her.
She may just be tecnicly challenged and not understand how to start an IM or maybe she's old fashioned and thinks the guy always has to make the moves.
If you guys can talk open and honestly then just ask her if she would be interested in being more then IM buddies? Or start out by asking her why she never contacts you?
2006-09-26 06:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why block her? you get some stupid power from doing that?
You need to just not waste your time.
If YOU initiate all conversations, 100%, as you stated, you gain NOTHING by blocking her (except you might find out in the end you were a cold hearted moron who was blocking someone who actually was trying to be your friend, at least).
If you feel no love, just don't waste your time.
Sure, delete her, but blocking is for STALKERS!!
and you are closer to that definition that her!
lol
I dunno what to tell you except to mature and learn through experience.
Purposely ignoring those who never physically/emotionally threaten you prevents a great relationship, and you might not know until it's too late!
2006-09-26 06:19:27 · answer #4 · answered by silver butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't block her. You can stop messaging her tho. See if she wants to talk to you. Maybe you and her do click but it may be the wrong time for her to get closer to you. Just wait it out. See what happens. I understand what you are going through and it is very hard. Good luck.
2006-09-26 06:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anna F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say F.U.C.K. her.
She wants to play hard to get or has a boyfriend is just using you to kill some time.
You keep on calling her first and that gives her the a reason to play with your head. So stop calling her and find someone that will show some interest.
2006-09-26 06:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by latina lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why block her. Just take it for what it's worth. She just want to be friends. You may want more, but wait on her. It just may not be the right time for her and if you block her, you will never know.
2006-09-26 06:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by RG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought that she might only want a cyber relationship - lots of girls do - after all it is complication free isn't it? So either don't contact her again, or contact her and accept it for what it is....
2006-09-26 07:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well think about it, you two never meet before, you don't go to college together, work together, or ever have the same group of friend to hang with. so ask yourself, how much time does she has for you? remember when you msg'ing, you aren't just talking to one person, you talk to alot. so your relationship with her is that you have to message her first.
2006-09-26 06:18:00 · answer #9 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't start the convos because they don't know if you are busy or if you just forgot to sign off or whatever.
2006-09-26 06:16:45 · answer #10 · answered by chaoticmagician 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋