how can i find out if he is being unfaithful to me
2006-09-26 06:13:11 · 15 answers · asked by janine w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You could try being sneaky by being really loving to him asif your trying to rekindle your 1st days as lovers. This will give you an excuse to phone him more so you can check where he is more often. Also why don't you try surprising him by finding out where he is staying. Turn up with a long coat on with stockings and suspenders underneath and a bottle of wine. You'll either find out the truth or you'll have an excellent night. Good luck.
2006-09-26 07:00:58 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust and respect. he is working like crazy and he need a place where he can relax. When he marry you, you are his place of relaxation. but not, you are questioning him. Even if he has an affair, think why he needs one. Because you are questioning him all the time, you lock the door to the room, you get the picture. Plus sometime when driving a lot, we men just park the car to the side and sleep. Me, my brother, cousin, and two friend that I know has done that before after a long drive and it take 2-4 hours to get home, so we just sleep in the car. So find out what or where he is at, trust him. Prepare dinner for him, and he will come running home to you.
2006-09-26 06:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check his text messages on his mobile. Check his credit card payments on his bill. Ask him to call you at a particular time each evening to ensure you do not miss his calls. Get caller id on your phone and check the number out with BT.Com. During your conversations, ask him where he is. You will soon find out if he is lying - if he uses a landline.
If he uses a mobile, this is a little more difficult. You can always ask him for a landline number to save on cost. This will really get on his nerves as he will have to schedule any liaisons around calling you at a particular time. He will then start to slip up.
If you confront him, he wil deny an affair. Self preservation comes into play. Therefore, hunt for clues and evidence before saying anything, you may be wrong about this and do not want to break his trust in you.
2006-09-26 06:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trusting your partner is the basis of married life. How did you get this feeling? Has some one squealed? or is it an imagination. I am not saying husbands are made of saintly virtues.( for that matter many saints too have slipped.)He or she might go wrong some times. But if trust exists there is self-correcting mechanism that operates to bring the couple s back to normal. If you have doubts do not do anything unless you have some solid ground. Other alternative is to be frank with your spouse and speak out your mind and seek clarifications. It is much better than worrying and brooding!
2006-09-26 06:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its very difficult to do and would you want to become that person?
What you could do if you were determined:
a) hire a private detective
b) follow him in person
c) buy bugging software for his pc that would gain you access to his e mail
d) buy a bugging device for a land line he has that you have access to
However, you will probably hate yourself for getting into any of these things - especially if you are wrong. And even then you can never be sure can you...
So the best thing is to put it out of your mind. Focus on having a good life. Focus on you and your happiness. Most people worry about infidelity because they fear they will lose the other person. You need to be glad about who you are and realise that if you do lose him he was not worth keeping and that you can move on to a better life with or without him.
2006-09-26 06:31:08 · answer #5 · answered by Chilli P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went to see my Husband, he is supposed to be feeding his animals, when I got there he hadn't been, he finished work ages ago, he will come home at 8 as if he has just left the farm. If I say that I was there he will make an excuse that he was visiting his friend, he comes home smelling of smoking, if i mention it he says he was chatting to a guy who keeps animals too, so what do I do, believe him, well I choose to, although we live like strangers, but are both over 50 so I suppose afraid to leave. Ask him, satisfy your need to know, or turn a blind eye and enjoy the time you have together, ask yourself what you want to hear, the truth may be hard to take, but the unknown answer may eat away at you. It is a tricky situation, I turn a blind eye, but that is just me.
2006-09-26 06:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I've said this to so many women. If you think he is having an affair you are probably right. Womens intuition is a powerful thing!
But the real truth is the fact that your worried abut it means you don't trust him and no relationship can work if its not a trusting one.
If you doubt yourself and need to know then hier a investigator or something, but to save some money just tell him your thoughts and you'll know by his reaction.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to get your story right and talk to him about it if he isnt then he maybe mad but he wont act like he is hiding anything
and if he says no make it up to him by cookin a meal or something its worth a try
2006-09-26 06:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by sarahjayne19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU ARE SURE ASK HIM IF YOU DO NOT BELIEVE HIM TRY THIS BUY A PAY AS YOU GO PHONE OR GET A FEMALE FRIEND TO RING HIM CHAT HIM UP TEXT HIM GO FROM THERE SEE IF HE TAKES THE BAIT GOOD LUCK
2006-09-26 06:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by johnny boy rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hire a detective...but what for if he has a shagg once in a while i would recommend that u should do the same
2006-09-26 06:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by the black crab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋