I had been seeing this guy for four years, when we first met he was going through a hard time. We took a year apart beacause through it all, he lied about the girl he was staying with. When we got back together everything was fine, untill I found naked pics of a female he apparently had sex with. Then just this past June he revealed he had a son he had been hiding. All of a sudden he calls me one day playing around on my phone and finally he got the balls to call my phone from the chicks house that he is staying at. The next day I called her and she told me that they have been in a relationship for the past year. I feel like such an *** because I was preganant by him and ended up having an abortion because we supposedly couldn't afford it. I need Help!
2006-09-26 05:59:44 · 15 answers · asked by career_girl101 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this dude is a class A loser , you need to break all ties with this guy , he is a liar and a cheat , he has no respect for you or your emotions , he doesnt value human life ...........this guy is the type that give men a bad name ........lose this A S S H O L E ,immeditealy. you are in for more pain, embarssment and heartbreak if you invest one more second with this jerk off .........get out now and dont fell guilty or listen to him say he is sorry ,,,,,he wont change he is a LOSER .............
2006-09-26 06:10:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you're too good for that. No one deserves to be lied to or treated the way you were. He's a jerk to tell you the truth and he deserves the scum of the earth. I was in a similar situation and I taught him a good lesson...but thats besides the point. People like that get off on lying and taking pleasure in other peoples misfortunes. They dont care who they hurt just as long as they get what they want. So leave him alone and tell him to go rotate on it if he ever calls you or attempts to contact you again! The best thing to say is I've moved on to something bigger and better....something that you will never ever be or know how to be. That would be ur sweetest satisfaction....take care sweetie and keep your head up. There are nice guys in the world they're just a dime a dozen.
2006-09-26 13:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by bebechinadoll_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all cease all contact with this individual. Don't concentrate on getting revenge or anything like that because all of that emotion will only consume you. Work on yourself, think about all of the goals you want to acheive, and all of the things that make you happy. Explore them and spoil yourself. Don't get involved with anyone else romantically because you need time to heal. It is ok though to have friends that you catch a movie with or go to dinner with. Try not to harden your heart. Put yourself on a pedastool because you deserve the upmost respect, and you will be ready when the right man comes along. Don't ever let a man disrespect you.
2006-09-26 13:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Keishia R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do need some help baby. Don't be mad at yourself for loving a loser. We all make mistakes and we are supposed to learn from them. You need to pick up yourself and move on. Be thankful you didn't have that losers child what kind of father would he have been to this baby?? What kind of man was he for you???....Hes NOT going to change but you will. Even if you don't see it you will grow past him. You will want better for you and for the children you do have. You will want to be loved by someone who can offer a true real understanding of what love is. I think you need to take a look at yourself and see what it was inside of you to allow yourself to love this loser anyway. What is it in your mind that you don't think your worth a little more than lies and regret?? Cause you are so stand up, pick your head up and lose the loser!!
2006-09-26 13:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about this,well I can't very well call him a person for the way he did you.Even though I do not know you no one needs to be treated the way he did you. There are plenty of honest people still left in the world.Sounds like he was just using you for his comfort which he does not deserve. Find you a nice fella and be happy!
2006-09-26 13:12:00 · answer #5 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...He is playing around with too many girls... and if he also has a son, which he is revealing to you after this long a time, just dont trust him, simply because he is not trustworthy!!! He might claim to leave everyone and live with you all his life... But how sure are you that he is truthful? He might still be having relationships with other girl (s)
2006-09-26 13:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by Little Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i would seek grief counseling for the abortion then i would call this girl up and tell her that you were knocked up by her 'your' man and ended up in tragedy. then i would talk to all three sets of parents if any and explain to them whats going on. i cheated on my girlfriend twice and the women i was with never got pregnant (thank god) and i was forgiven. but i think you should send a letter to dear abby in your local newspaper.
sorry i couldnt be of anymore help.
2006-09-26 13:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by jamz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need help, you need to leave.
Go find someone else without the obvious bad traites this loser has.
You are the first person I have told to get out.
This guy has gone pst redemption.
2006-09-26 13:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is a asshole and thinks he can treat you like this becuase you keep taking him back. your like his fallback girl, his security. this guy is probably really insecure and needs to hurt you to make himself feel better. my advice, show him you dont need him by moving on and forgetting about him. yes i know that is hard but trust me, one day when he sees you and how happy you are a big laod of regrett will fill him and then he will come crawling back. what you do from there is up to you.
2006-09-26 13:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy doesn't seem like he should be worth your time...honestly, it sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. If I were you, I'd leave him alone and seek someone else who is at a more higher level...
2006-09-26 13:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by Chanel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋