She suddenly decided that she doesn't know what she wants. She says she still loves me but needs time away from me. She says she may date other people. How can I get her back? Should I just give her her time? Should I fight for her? Two days ago she was talking about our wedding, now this. What can I do?
2006-09-26 05:59:03 · 15 answers · asked by ranorris87 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she needs time, you have to give it to her...as hard as that may be. If you propose or fight for her, while it's romantic, it could easily push her further away.
Women (and men) go through things like this, when they are trying to figure out where their life is going. If you constantly try to win her back and not give her time, you could loose her forever.
She is probably trying to make sure you are the one...by dating other people, it will let her know what else is out there...and if she is making the best choice, for her, by ending up with you. She probably won't have sex with anyone she dates...she is just trying to make sure if she marries you, she is 150% happy with the decision.
It's a VERY tough choice, but the best thing to do is respect her wishes and hope for the best...if she loves you, she will come back to you when she is done "soul searching".
2006-09-26 06:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by brianwerner1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give her the time she thinks she needs. You never know why they do this stuff, but it happens a lot. If her mind is made up to take her time away from you, then you really have no choice. It could be that the wedding She's talking about has scared the crap out of her, maybe she met somebody else and wants to see what it's like, you just really never know. But letting her go is much better than her sneaking around. Hope some of this makes sense. Good Luck
2006-09-26 06:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rather be Fishin' 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u talked about marriage, she all of a sudden wants TIME and she MIGHT DATE other people, hmmm? tell me u did not fall for that, she is so unsure that she flat out told you, she is not happy knowing that u want 2 spend your life with her she is scared that all she will have is you for the rest of her life,think about it? evidently those feelings were already there u just never saw it because u love her more than she loves u. take my advice ignore the hell out of her and try and find sum1 else and watch how fast she realizes who and what u mean 2 her , then if u want when she comes running back, u have that option of taking her back my advice DON'T TAKE HER BACK.she doesnt deserve sum1 who loves unconditionaly she is selfish.
2006-09-26 06:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her have her time. I did this to my boyfriend a few months back. It is really hard to explain but she is probably feeling that if she stays with you and ignores the uncertainty she is feeling that she might cheat on you. So to prevent that from happening she is distancing herself to protect both of you. My boyfriend was confused but he let me have my space...and after awhile I realized that I truly wanted HIM and that he was THE ONE. I know that this sounds insane but it is how she is feeling and you can't help how you feel. Make sure that you let her know that you will be there for her when she needs you. Try not to be mean about it and try to understand. If it is meant to be...she will come back...and your relationship should be stronger.
2006-09-26 06:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is wanting to dump you but to scared to tell you. Women are like this. They love to give out hints and not direct answers. She is probably bored with you. The same crap happened to me. She said I want to date others after 4 years together and she just up and left after the second guy she dated. Sorry but that is the truth. Women are cold creatures and will screw you over just like that.
2006-09-26 06:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is somewhat crucial to answering this question. It could be commitment phobia or just the realization that she may not have exactly what she wants. I think you should fight for her but not too intensely. You need her to figure this out on her own now before she commits or she may try to figure it out later...
2006-09-26 06:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by Skiball 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her time to think,if you don't,you might scare her away forever. Too much pressure in a situation like this is not a good thing. Good luck!
2006-09-26 06:02:35 · answer #7 · answered by Terri R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah be strong, don't suffer just because you love her. She is playing games and taking advantage of your love. let her go, if she can live without you, you can to. Do the same to her or act like it. Watch she will come back. More you try to stop her more she will try to leave.
2006-09-26 06:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be hard but let her go see what creeps are out there. then if she comes back it was meant to be. but don't sit at the house crying about it..find some friends and do the town.
2006-09-26 06:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Stacy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie. She's confused. Leave her alone, don't call, don't text, don't email. Let her be. She'll come crawling back to you b/c she'll realize how well you treated her. If you did.
2006-09-26 06:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋