child with a bad temper?

Question

my son has the worst temper in the world... whenever i hide his toys or take away his dinner he gets really upset and hits his sister or the dog, and cries...

he's 17 this month, shouldnt he stop crying by now? he's not a baby anymore... and i have nothing against gay people, but i dont want him to turn out gay.

Answer 1

I had my first two questions with the new account deleted already. They were classics too.

Answer 2

You've left it a little late to address this problem. My son also has a bad temper but I started addressing it when he was only a few years old and now at almost nine, he mostly has a handle on it. I taught him techniques to control his temper and after years of teaching, he is now starting to be able to use them on his own when he feels mad. I don't know what to suggest at age 17 if he has never been taught how to control his temper before now, but with all kids, the most important thing is to apply consequences. Let him know up front that hitting his sister is not an acceptable way of dealing with his temper and if he does he will be fined $50 or not allowed to drive the car for a month or whatever. Then FOLLOW THROUGH. The next time he hits her, apply the consequence and don't back down, no matter how much he cries or begs.

Re-reading your question, you say "whenever I hide his toys or take away his dinner". Is this child mentally retarded? Because that seems a strange statement to make about a normally developed 17-year-old. Why would you take his dinner away? Why would you hide his toys? What toys would a child that age play with?

Answer 3

So did you mean 17 years or months? I'm confused because most 17 year olds don't need their toys or dinner taken away. And most 17 month olds may act this way, but you shouldn't be mean and hiding his toys and taking away his dinner. Instead you should be enrolling yourself in parenting classes. Again, if he's 17 years old and you're worried he's turning gay, I think you may have other things to worry about instead like teaching him how to handle frustration, which you obviously haven't addressed in the past 17 years if he's still crying. Maybe you need to seek professional help for everyone.

Answer 4

My God,it sounds to me like you're still babying him if you're still taking away toys.If his temper flares that badly you should consider sending him to a home that deals with out-of-control kids.It may sound harsh but remember he's already grown up so spanking may not be an option and it's too late to try to talk him out of such practices.Let the professionals instill some discipline in him while there's still time so you wouldn't have high blood dealing with him or wouldn't have a bigger issue later on in life with him and you'll be saving him because the world outside settle hot-tempered people in very harsh ways.So don't run the risk of being without a son,deal with the issue now or it will deal with you.Good luck!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

I'm guessing that you mean 17 months old? If this is the case, then I'm mad at you too! You are being cruel to this child! Hiding toys and taking away food! This is home not prison! You should look into taking some parenting classes! Or maybe let someone else take him for awhile while you calm done and take those classes.

Answer 6

Crying is just one way kids deal with their emotions.

As far as the gay thing goes, I hardly think that letting him cry is going to "make him gay".

Keeping him from expressing his emotions, forces him to keep them bottled up... that's not good for anyone, at any age. Now, if he's just crying unnecessarily, that's one thing. But in the instances you mentioned, it sounds like his feelings were hurt or he was just mad at the situation. When faced with those types of situations, we as adults don't just sit there and take it. I might cry or yell or cuss. If someone were to take my lunch or hide my cell phone... I would have a problem with that person. That's how he's handling it... just as a child.

Really, 17 months is not too old to cry.

Enjoy him while he is young, before you know it he'll be hanging out with friends and ignoring Mom & Dad.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are the problem. You think he's going to turn gay because of a temper? Grow up! More than likely it's because you do not give him the attention he needs. Maybe you should think more about your son, instead of worrying if he's going to turn gay. How ignorant can you be?

Answer 8

Geez...a 17-year old doing this? Sounds like y'all have put up with it for a long time. So what happens when he hits or cries, does he get what he wants? You guys need to turn this off and don't give him the attention he's trying to get. Stop giving in to him when he has his episodes or he'll never get over it. Hope it's not too late.

I bet you're just pulling one. No way this can be real.

Answer 9

hes 17 months? well it sounds like hes getting a head start on the terrible 2s which last from about 18-3 yrs i am told my son is 17 months too and whats with the comment i don't want him to turn out gay i don't see the connection

Answer 10

seems to me which you are the guy who want therapy once you mentioned which you will possibly somewhat shoot your self than watch that take place. additionally being a single discern isn't an excuse in any respect there are single father and mom who're waiting to do extra appropriate activity than joint father and mom obtainable. could be you different than plenty from him, could be you do not comunicate enought, or could be you're too busy determining the kind you will pay this invoice or have the money for that to the element that the two one in all you misplaced contacts quicker or later. Beating does not be certain each thing and on no account will yet exhibiting like to somebody, proving to somebody which you adore him each now and back can replaced something in somebody existence. additionally conversing to acquaintances and oldsters will on no account remedy the difficulty different than make it worse. how does your baby sense approximately all this, having to pass below each kin member judgement and being blame by utilising them, i'm specific some member of your loved ones use him as an exemple to their toddlers like "do not be like this baby". All i want you to understand is that each one your baby want is know, and love and likewise to understand that he can believe you with something devoid of you sharing his secrets and techniques with different. Your son purely want his a mom

Answer 11

as in 17 years old? ummm, quite honestly, this was an issue you should have thought of when he was quite a bit younger...but that's pointless to say now.

Try removing him from the situation (send him to his room...or the dungeon I'm sure you have in the basement).
Grounding and/or taking away privileges are generally a good method for teenagers.

good luck with that...and don't worry, crying won't make him gay