7 Yrs ago, I moved 600 miles away from home. My mom has only come to visit me 1 time, and my sister has never been here. I go there every other christmas and every summer. When my grandmother gets sick or even my mom I went back home and stayed with them a month at a time, I am married w/ a step daughter. I do everything I can to help them, why don't they want to come and see me? I'm the one who always has to go there... I leave my family here behind to go and help them but they cant even come here for a simple visit, they have more money than i do, but i live in a nice place, they can afford to travel more than I can.
2006-09-26 05:43:07 · 8 answers · asked by love420flower 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you told them how you feel? (without anger that is.. anger is hurt in disguise... use hugs). It always seems to work that way though... when someone moves away from their hometown, it is generally them returning home to visit rather than vice versa. You might not want to take it personally.
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2006-09-26 05:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation. I moved about 500 miles away from home. I recently got married, and it seems that it's expected of our family to pack up and just visit for every holiday including three day weekends. We have a lot of dogs, so this is hard for us to get away. My son's 8th birthday will be coming up this Friday, and once again, we're getting phone calls to see when we'll be in. I have simply voiced our feelings on how hard it is for us to do this all of the time, not to mention how expensive and stressful. We've agreed to meet in the middle for once, and that's a start. But they need to realize that we're starting a new life, and we are going to have our own Christmas and other holidays, etc. We've specifically said that we would be out twice a year, as long as funds permitted. But we have made the trip at least five times this year. They need to understand that the highway/intertsate goes both ways. If not, stick to your ground. There's always a phone.
2006-09-26 06:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by rellimztik_arual 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I have the same problem, I wonder myself why my mom who is willing to travel to Japan (literally) to see my sister and yet cant even pick up a phone to call us 2 states away. I tried to even fly her here for a visit and she said she didnt have the time. Well all I can say is good luck and sorry for your troubles
2006-09-26 07:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by DeeLicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them tell them how you feel about this situation maybe there is a reason why they can not travel often money health etc etc plan a get together at your house and invite them then if they say no ask why
2006-09-26 05:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever ask them why? Sometimes too we think our family members have money (when in fact they don't...you can't assume that)
I have a brother in Florida and I'm in Pennsylvania...I don't go to see him too often either...but it's not because I don't love him. I have enough money to take me on vacation maybe once or twice a year ...I want to go do things...and much as I love him, I don't want to always spend the little time and money I have to go there and sacrifice my vacation and free time for it. He is the one that moved away...I love him and wish him well..but, I can't afford to spend every single vacation I have for the rest of my life to go see him (instead of having a vacation..cause I can't afford to do both)...lol...BUT...we both are understanding of that (from each other)...we see each other..don't get me wrong..but it's not too often...that's the breaks when you live in different states.
2006-09-26 05:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to communicate with your parents on how you really feel. Its so important that they know and then you will get answers.
2006-09-26 06:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by Windwispers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and invite them to come maybe for thanksgiving. justs ay you'd love for them to come see where you live and your home.
2006-09-26 05:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how you feel. ask them why they dont come to see you. the road runs both ways.
2006-09-26 05:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by j_elam22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋