When asked why he won't use it he always replys"cause". Please help me. Do I start forcing him to sit on the toilet or what. Please somebody help me out.
2006-09-26 05:33:07 · 15 answers · asked by cindy s 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Let me make it clear this is not about who's responsibility this is. I only want to assist this child to start using the potty. I have two boys of my own, 22 and 20 yrs old. I have not faced a situation as this. His Dad and I will marry soon and by the way it is MY responsibility too!
2006-09-26 06:17:13 · update #1
well help him a four year old will still need help when going potty. talk to the other parent too to find out of they are training and what works for them and do that too
2006-09-26 05:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this situation is fairly new, it could be a transition issue. If that's the case then ask the pediatrician for a refferal. Otherwise I've found that if you really impress the fact that using the potty makes him a "big boy". He'll be more likely to use it. Take away all of his "big boy" toys. Nintendo, action figures, anything that's for a preschooler or older. Tell him that only big boys get to use those things. Give him baby toys, and a baby bed time, just treat him like you would a 2 year old. It will be really hard at first, but he'll realize really quickly that he wants to be treated like a big kid.This will only work though as long as it's not a physical issue. It worked for the 5 year-old I was babysitting. I'd have him all weekend and when he was with me he used underwear and the potty. It especially worked when we did fun activites that he couldn't participate in becasue he wasn't being a big boy. The other option is start to give the answer "cause" for everything. "Can I watch TV?" "No" Why? "Cause". Eventually he'll realize how irritating it is, and he'll probably stop. You're going to have to stick to your guns he's going to get irritated and could throw a fit. (Depends on the kid). Remember that he may have genuine accidents once in a while, so try to be patient. Hope this helps!
2006-09-26 12:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot give you professional advice in this area. All I can extend is a little personal experience. I have a daughter, and a son. At about 2 years old, my Wife and I simply told our daughter that this (the toilet) was the place to go potty. She said "OK", and that was the end of it, simple as that! (Girls are so much easier than Boys. My son was the exact opposite. He was almost 5 by the time he was fully trained. I thought for sure that we would have to hold him back from school until this issue was resolved. Bottom line is that Boys take MUCH longer than Girls, and an awful lot of patience. If you force him into potty training your way, he may become anxious about the whole subject making it even more of a challenge. If you remove the pressure to get it right, he will just simply do it! Be patient, and perhaps even make it a game!. Thake squares of toilet paper, and paint a bullseye on them. Throw one in the toilet when you know he has to go, and ask him if he can aim and hit it! Sounds silly, but will work great!
2006-09-26 12:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by prdangelo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do , DO Not force the child to sit on the potty!! This will only discourage him more. I have seen children not potty trained until they were five years old.
Try to make it fun for him. Give him sticker and prizes and praise him a lot even if he just sits on it and doesn't go. When he has "accidents" let him know it's OK and everyone has accidents sometimes and do not fuss at him. Although not the same kind of accidents, but its all the same to him.
Just always remember children potty train when they are ready and all children develop differently.
All he needs is a some support from his family.
2006-09-26 12:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by taran_is_here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does the mother try to potty train the child seems she doesn't well anyway reward him every time he goes on the potty say good job,clap your hands make a fuss over him and make sure you tell him he is a big boy also try a chart with stars every time he pee's or poops give him a star,wipes his bum,flushes and washes his hands. reward the child with a toy or a party with some friends at McDonald's or something like that,only if he uses the potty for a month. also get a potty that plays a tune when he tinkles in the potty,don't force him into it. ask if he has to go pretty often or just take him in and try to go. he will go good luck i didn't think our child was going to get it but he did!!!! oh they still have accidents ours does !!!!
2006-09-26 13:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥ lou lou ♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you need to find out if he is using the potty regularly at home. If he is, he is rebelling, and you just need to be patient, and celebrate when he does it at your house.
If he isn't potty trained at all, you could do what I did with my son, (he was 3 by the time he was trained) I got mad because he told my parents that "mommy said he didn't have to go on the potty at home" so I took diapers/pull-ups off of him during the day, and just put underwear on him. in a matter of 2 weeks, all the diapers were gone. Good Luck
2006-09-26 12:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by mojo0520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I actually have been caring for my cousin (who is five now) for a year. When he came to live with me he wasn't potty trained. I was at a loss for things to do. Then I decided that if he went in his pants then he'll go in his pants and have to clean himself up. I stopped cleaning up his "accidents" and somehow that got him potty trained. He still goes number two in his pants sometimes but not often. When he replies "cause" just say that's okay because then you can just clean yourself up. Don't make it a fun thing either. Make it something that he has to do right after he goes. Since this isn't your son it might be better to get your husband (or boyfriend) to do this. Try stickers and other rewards if you want to--it did not work for me. Hopefully this helps!
2006-09-26 12:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree that you should talk to the other parent. It won't work if you aren't all on the same page with him! Also, don't force him - he'll just resist more, and you'll end up more frustrated. Sure, almost four does seem a bit old, but I had a friend who told me that no one ever goes to kindergarten still in diapers. (I always wondered with my son if that would mean he'd start kindergarten when he was 9! heehee) Good luck.
2006-09-26 12:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to try to encourage and even offer treats or rewards for his going in the toilet. He is too old to be NOT using the toilet. I don't want to tell you to punish him to make him go to the bathroom on the toilet, but being firm and maybe actually taking away some things of his that he really likes to play with may help encourage him. Good luck.
2006-09-26 12:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by val 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first find out if he has a problem because my cousin was six until we found out he had a pea problem. And he didn't get the signal that we get when we have to go to the bathroom so he problem doesn't know and if he's just being lazy
2006-09-26 12:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by chan_sweet91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋