hey, this is for all the mom's/dad's out there. Was the whole pregnancy,labour, parenting they way you expected or was it worse/better than you thought, and why
2006-09-26 05:29:38 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Not better or worse, just different. You have these beautiful images of your life being like an orange juice commercial, and it just isn't that way. In many ways it can be better...but in a different way. BUt reality is nothing like you expect. Pregnancy and labor was much worse than I expected though. Pregnancy is the pitts!! But still, I did it 4 times. So as bad as it was, it was worth it.
2006-09-26 05:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by lizardmama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a first time mom i really had no idea what to expect from pregnancy, labor or parenting. My pregnancy was without complication.
I had a wonderful pregnancy and would do it all over again. What i didnt expect was for it to be so uneventful that the baby wasnt ready to come out even at 41 weeks. Everyday and night i waited nervously for something to happen so i knew my baby was on her way but I didnt drop, i never lost my plug, my water never broke, i never dilated or effaced.
I was induced which was very very painful and i never thought i would be brave enough to let go of my fear and accept the epidural. For some reason from the moment i entered the labor and delivery unit i knew i would have a c-section which was exactly what happened.
Another thing i didnt expect was the compications i faced during the c-section. I began to hemmorhage because my placenta had grown into the uterine wall but the doctors got the bleeding under control as the blood for the infusion got there.
Parenting isnt what i thought, it is really tough for a first time mom who doesnt know a thing. Still not sure if i will have anymore children but time will tell. For now i dont see it happening anytime soon.
2006-09-26 12:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jaymie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have 4 children. I loved being pregnant. The labor was not so much fun, but it was necessary obviously!! Parenting is a lot more work than I had thought. I guess I watched to many shows like Father Knows Best, Leave it to Beaver and Brady Bunch and etc. On the shows people got upset and everyone talked about it and then it was all Ok. I knew it wasn't that easy, but thought that mom's and dad's could talk to the kids. Problem is Mom and Dad have to have the same views for that to work. Mom and Dad need to be on the same page and know what it is they want for the kids and how to accomplish that. I have an excellent relationship with all 4 of my kids because I do talk about everything with my kids. It's definitely worth the trip though. Mine are 19, 18, 14, 11. First 2 boys, second 2 girls.
2006-09-26 12:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by rhodeislandbabe2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The pregnancy was a lot easier than I expected. It was actually pretty easy for me even though I went over 11 days past my due date. The delivery ended up being a c-section so I wasn't really expecting that. The recovery wasn't hard at all either so I also didn't expect that. Parenting is a HUGE amount of work, which I already expected. I wasn't ready for the hormone dump after delivery either. I think people should be warned about that from the beginning. Overall.. I wasn't too shocked and shaken.
2006-09-26 12:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kel K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it wasn't really what I expected. My two pregnancies were about what I expected, although I never realized contractions were THAT painful!
Parenting though--jeez oh Pete. Everyone said it would be hard, and I believed them, but wow... At first it was just mainly doing a TON of laundry (both my boys were spitter-uppers, and soaked through many bibs and outfits every day) but now that they're a little older (2 1/2 years old and 14 months old) it goes WAY beyond that. Now it's a matter of balancing things out. I work full time, so when I get home, I scramble to cook an edible dinner, do laundry, play with them, clean up toys, deal with temper tantrums (2 1/2 year old) and a VERY fussy teething baby (14 month old) and it's just--I can't explain it. What it boils down to is that it seems I never have a free minute for myself. By the time I get the cleaning/laundry done and get them in bed asleep, I think, "Yay! I can have some "me" time now!", I realize that it's pretty late and I'm tired myself. Honestly, the only time I have where I'm completely childless is about 15 minutes in the a.m. as I'm getting ready for work, about 30 - 45 minutes in the evening (after they're in bed-but before I go to sleep) and about two hours Saturday and two hours Sunday (afternoon naps). That's IT.
I'm not complaining--I love my children dearly and wouldn't trade them for the world, but it is very, VERY tiring. Definitely worth it though, when you're awakened in the a.m. by the most beautiful 2 1/2 year old you've ever seen poking his little finger in your eye, raising your eye lid saying, "Wate up Mommy! Wate up!!" (Wake up) Definitely more amusing and not NEARLY as annoying as the horrible noise my alarm clock makes. :)
2006-09-26 13:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy- pretty much what I thought- being really uncomfortable until you just about can't stand it anymore. 9 months is a really long time!
Labour- not at all what I though- I had a c-section at the last minute and I wasn't expecting it at all.
Parenting- I'm learning everyday. I was pretty realistic about how my life would cease to exist after baby was born. And it pretty much has. But I love being a mommy and I can't think of a more worthy way to spend my time.
2006-09-26 12:34:30 · answer #6 · answered by LAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy was worse at the beginning than I expected because I was sooooooo incredibly nauseous, but then it was better until I had gestational diabetes and that made it worse. Labor and delivery was a breeze for me, I had contractions for about 12 hrs and then pushed for literally 10 min. Parenthood is harder than I thought, I didn't realize how sleep deprived I would really be. But it's a great reward in the end, and I would do it again and again.
2006-09-26 12:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by Emjay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on the pregnancy my first I loved being pregnant, labour was hard but after it was so worth it and now he is three and I love having him, he can be a pain but it is great having a mama's boy, someone telling you mama I love you at night giving you little kisses everyday, making them feel better when they are hurt by just being there for him, now I am pregnant again don't feel as great as the first but it still is a joy feeling the kicking around inside you letting you know that someone you created is in there.
2006-09-26 12:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 3. Birth to 1 was much harder than I expected. Since then it is easier than I expected. Pregnancy was very fun and easy( for me) although there is a lot of scarey uncertainty. I love having a kid and it keeps me entertained all day. Parenting is like a hard job you love. You enjoy doing it but it's nice to have a day off once in a while.
2006-09-26 12:35:24 · answer #9 · answered by scotto destructo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being a first time mom, I didn't really know what to expect. The whole thing only lasted 6 hours. So I would have to say it was better than i expected.
2006-09-26 12:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋