Ok, I am an attractive 21 yr old girl. I get hit on and told I'm beautiful by a lot of attractive guys. However, this one guy, who is 19, is the guy I have major feelings for. He says he's attracted to me, he makes little comments saying I look hot, his friends tell him I'm a hottie. We talk about everything, he seems to really value our friendship, and stays in touch even though we don't see eachother a lot bc of our schedules. He just broke up with his gf a few weeks ago and he's into partying and having meaningless sex. I'm a relationship type. He knows I have feelings for him. So what is it that is keeping him from having these feelings for me? What's missing?
2006-09-26 05:29:09 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yep you want him to be your man
but he is not done being a boy
2006-09-26 05:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy. He's 19. He's into - in your words - "partying and having meaningless sex." There is basically no way you're going to turn him into a "relationship type." Besides, he just broke up with a girl - the best you could hope for is to be the rebound chick.
Also, the reason you probably have major feelings for him is that he's hard to pin down. I swear to god, if I've noticed anything about girls, it's that nothing is sexier to them than rejection...lol.
Anytime you find yourself saying "Why doesn't he feel the same way," just forget about it. You'll know the real thing when it happens. So will he.
2006-09-26 05:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know he doesn't have "these feelings" for you? Have you discussed this with him? There are very few psychic mind readers who can know these things without being told. The other thing is that you are considered a "hottie." He may think you are out of his league. Invite him to somewhere neutral and have coffee (no alcohol yet) and just tell him you would be open to exploring a one on one relationship with him and see if he feels the same. If not, then you know and can move on.
2006-09-26 05:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its because he is 19 and he SHOULD be out there dating/boffing/whatever as many people as he can. So should you!!! I know that the idea of a relationship is fun, but what you really need to be doing is finding out about yourself. What do you like in people, what do they like in you? what can you change what should you change, what should you not change? what makes you comfortable, uncomfortable? all of this you learn from dating - NOT from being tied down to one guy. Sure.. its comfortable and there is a status that goes with it, but you should be learning as much about yourself and how you handle other people so that when it comes time to build that relationship you have somethning to bring to the table. So.. I would suggest you start dating more people, more ofter for the next 5 or 6 years before starting to look for that "relationship" you want. Chances are if this guy realizes you are just casually dating again then he will notice you and you two could go out - casaully.
2006-09-26 05:40:28 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do'nt party and have meaningless sex. he's only 19. let him be 19. do'nt be so quick to wedge him into a relationship that can and most likely destroy anything that could evolve into a serios relationship down the road. so relax, do'nt push, and party and have meaningless sex. worse case scenario. you wake up with a hangover and sore. best case, you find that it's only because he's so young that this is all he wants to do.
sincerly wedged15 (15 yrs, wrong woman)
2006-09-26 06:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by wedged15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is afraid of you because he is not a "commitment" type. Possibly out of respect (partially) and somewhat out of fear he is avoiding you physically. The only way you can truly address this is to talk to him straight up about it. AND if you do, don't hold any punches. Let him know how you feel and if he seems to come around, don't be afraid to ask him if he wants to have a monogomous relationship period. Tell him what you expect from a man and if he is interested in making a go of it. Good luck to ya!!! GaryT
2006-09-26 05:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. He's too young for you and why would you want to go out with a punk who's interested in meaningless sex? What is the deal with YOU?
2006-09-26 05:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing missing...its just as you said though, that you are looking for a relationship, and he is just fooling around still.
Don't be so hard on yourself.
I think its time you moved on, to someone who is also looking for a relationship...unless you are into the meaningless sex as well (with that guy), you are just wasting your time.
2006-09-26 05:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still in college, most college guys dont want a relationship. If you are really serious you should consider getting an older man...maybe 25-30, or at least out of college.
2006-09-26 05:35:33 · answer #9 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you answered your own question. Hes into partying and having meaningless sex. And he could still be trying to get over his last relationship so why would he want another one if hes not ready?
2006-09-26 05:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Steveo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The meaningless sex.
2006-09-26 05:32:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋