i need help BADLY!!! i was dating this guy for 5 months and i really thought i loved him...then when i started college at the beginning of this month, a new guy started to like me...my boyfriend and i would fight all the time (like throughtout our relationship)...and this new guy really interested me....me and the new guy started hanging out occasionally, and he and i have absolutely EVERYTHING in common, and it's like we have some sort of connection, like we know what the other one is thinking seriously. but then there are times when i just sit down and think i love my boyfriend and i am so comfortable around him....soo first, i told my bf we needed to take a break cuz i needed to figure things out and i thought i liked the new guy and would give him a try at some point...buut then i told the new guy that i still love my boyfriend....i got them both confsued, and i made both of them cry !! (i did not want that to happen!), so now im totally confused and i dont know what to do! HELP!!!
2006-09-26 05:16:40 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont make me feel bad!! i didnt wanna make them cry, that was the worst thing in the world to see/hear...and both of them want me to "give it a try" with them
2006-09-26 05:22:03 · update #1
Yod did the right thing to give your boyfriend and yourself some space so you could sort out your feelings first... You now need those free time to see who you like best.. Write a pros and cons about each guy and see who is upper.. In a relationship there always going to be ups and downs.. The most important thing to make the relationship works is whether or not you two want to fix it or put your effort in it... That's why we have alot of breakup because it either both just want to run away from the situation and it's easier to handle than to fix....... Too much drama they think... Now the second boy you like.. You have to think carefully if it will work if you two have a relationship.. Sometimes it is better to leave it as a friend then to try to have a relationship with this guy... You still haven't known him as a boyfriend yet so there are no flaws that you can see ... So the question is when you guys fight will it hurt your past relationship..... Well, I hope you will make the right choices.......Good luck
2006-09-26 05:29:16 · answer #1 · answered by funkysha916 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well apparently-- Honestly speaking with the way you potrayed ur situation-- U are not in love with any of them-- as far as help is concerned--- well try and mellow down ur thoughts and see what is that u want from a given relationship--- Don't u think ur being unfair to ur boyfriend by ditching him like this and on the contrary u played with this other guy--- Take the initiative now and try and combat the situation urself by airing your voice and choosing between them-- be bold and smart as at the end of the day it is ur life and people should not dictate terms to ya--- Be smart and confident and please never ever let this kind of a thing happen or else people shall lose their respect for ya--- Use ya brains and don't flow with emotions--
2006-09-26 05:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by striver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same exact thing happened to me. You have to sit down and think about both relationships With your old bf you need to think about the good times and bad times. Do the good out weigh the bad, if they do then maybe this guy needs a second chance. If they don't then maybe the new guy is more your soulmate. It sounds to me like the new guy is your best bet. But thats only from what I have to go on so far. Good Luck
2006-09-26 05:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have the answer in your question! Surprised. U are Confused yes dear "Confused". Love takes different meaning at different stage of life. Very Subjective! Now your dreams and aspiration should be to complete ur studies and show your mettle to world around you. You have so much of time for all this things. I know it is difficult for u as a girl but make both ur friends clear that u intend to do ur studies and later have time for this. Mean time they will also have goal oriented objective and chance also stands that one might go other way which will place you with what you want! take care dear - raghavendra-blore
2006-09-26 05:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by gan_sundar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there comes a time in every relationship when one or the other partner thinks that perhaps the grass is greener on the other side. what i would suggest is take a break from your current bf dont break up or ne thing and go on a date with the new guy. compare the 2 and then make your descion.
2006-09-26 05:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by snoopdogg_211 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there is only one thing to do that is to follow your heart i mean there is always going to be someone else even if its just a friend me and my boyfriend had the same problem but you have to realize the things he/she has done for you like being by your side no matter what so just do what you think is right and you will be happy in the end but follow your heart.
2006-09-26 05:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by In love <333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a break from both of the guys for awhile...give yourself some time to think...obviously you dont know what you want so you need to step back from the situation a take a breather. This is not fair to any of you so take some time off.
2006-09-26 05:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are confused maybe you should just leave both of them alone and just work on yourself. To be honest if you really love your boyfriend there isn't any breaks in a real relationship and there wouldn't be a new guy.
2006-09-26 05:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Close your eyes and picture an important day in your life, ex your graduation... Than try and picture who you would want to spend that day with most. I know it sounds cheesy but really search your heart. Does your boyfriend make your heart skip a beat when you see him, or is it the new guy. Your heart will always tell you what you need to know.
2006-09-26 05:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angela H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋