I'd like to give my brother and his fiancee a cash gift for his wedding. They will be buying a house in the spring and I wanted to give them something significant. I'm not loaded but I now make a decent living and am capable of reciprocating. When I went off to grad school my brother gave me a check for 1,500 dollars to help me out with spending money. I'd like to replicate this with my gift to him....is it too much? He's my best friend and I feel like if I can, I should but I wonder if others might think it to be over the top...ideas?
2006-09-26 05:03:34 · 26 answers · asked by suzanne d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you can afford and you want to give it why not????? No one can better answer this than you.
2006-09-26 05:05:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what would be really sweet? If you gave him a check for that amount, it would be such a good gesture, almost like paying him back at a time when he'll need it. I honestly don't think that would be too much as this is you're brother we're talking about. Don't worry about others at all, you could even give it to them in private if you're worried about someone else thinking it's over the top. Just make sure he won't be offended by a money offering at all though, some people may just have too much pride to take it but you know him well obviously so I'm sure you can figure out if it'll bother him or not.
2006-09-26 05:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by Animal Lover and Owner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is within your budget and that's what you feel like giving, that great.
Why would others find out about how much money you gave as a gift? That's a confidential matter.
Specify on the check that you wish your gift to go towards their house rather than honeymoon, etc.
2006-09-26 10:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him exactly what you want to give him, and tell him and his wife that the money is specifically to buy the new house, or for something for the house. Don't feel you have to give your brother exactly what he had once given you; just give from the heart.
You might add a cute gift such as a house-shaped potholder or Christmas ornament.
Congratulations for your brother and his wife. Enjoy their wedding!
2006-09-26 13:35:08 · answer #4 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you feel is appropriate. If you can afford it and you have a great relationship with your brother, then I'd say "why not?" Nobody else has to know what you gave your brother, or how much you gave him, for that matter. You could give it to your brother and his wife at a more private time.
2006-09-26 05:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it why not ?
he helped you out i would definitely return the favour - if you can afford it why not go for 1, 750 dollars just a little bit extra to show that you really appreciated it at the time when you were stuggling.
Not over the top at all he helped at grad school and grad school helped you get the job you're in now.
Way better than a toaster ....... or cutlery
2006-09-26 05:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by weizy_26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww thats so sweet that ur brother gave u spending money.. try 2 buy something that will treasure for a lifetime. when my brother went off to college.. i made him collage of me and him when we were little and having good times. if ur not into artsy stuff buy something that u think he might like that he will treasure. I hope u find the perfect gift! :-)
2006-09-26 07:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by kalea_lanikai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, I think that is so sweet! He gave you that money when you needed it and now you want to give him that money when he needs it. I think it is a great idea! I don't think it is over the top! It sounds like the two of you have a great relationship and that you really want to help him out.
2006-09-26 06:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can afford that amount, then go ahead and give it. you should feel comfortable with the amount that you give, no matter how large or small. and its for your brother...he should hopefully be understanding. if you don't want to do straight cash, you can always do a gift card to somewhere...or you could do multiple gift cards at different stores. good luck!
2006-09-26 05:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by farmergirl9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the church isn't doing it, it will be wonderful to get a relatives bible and fill out the relatives trees for him (he will likely in no way do it). yet another theory, get one in all those relatives crests incredible framed for him. you should continuously get him an outstanding watch and contain a word that asserts you'll continuously have time for him. Or, merely provide him some income a particular field (like a valet or shaving bag or something alongside those strains). celebrate his day!!!
2016-12-02 02:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what you can/cannot afford.
don't put yourself in ANY sort of debt over this!
before giving to anyone around you, you should have the following (for survival, not mere selfishness):
Emergency fund
savings fund
determined funds for each monthly payments
insurance payments prepaid out
any other costs prepaid out.
this way, by giving money, you don't crawl back saying you can't afford to live.
and by ER fund, that means 2-4 months of income before taxes!!!!
goodluck!
<3
2006-09-26 06:15:19 · answer #11 · answered by silver butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋