If your boyfreind after 3 yrs cheats on you and u love him should u take him back.
2006-09-26 04:55:49 · 39 answers · asked by hot chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends, wot do u mean by cheats on you! Has he had sex or just kissed a girl/boy! a kiss is a kiss, may have been a drunken kiss, but if he has had sex with some 1 else then chop his willy off, then dump him!
2006-09-26 05:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok after reading this, I have seen there are alot of the same answers BUT one question failed to arise in all of it.
Why did he cheat?
Normally if you cheat, you are looking for something that you arent getting from the someone that you are with.
It is not ENTIRELY true that once a cheater always a cheater.
(and remember he didnt get away with it, she caught him)
People, think about this. If you have been in a relationship with a person that is really great (since I am sure no one would date less then great) for a while (and I am not talking about a few months) BUT for then for a while you havent had intimate relations with, or things have changed emotionally between you two, wouldnt you start to look for that feeling elsewhere?
So recognize the source of the problem first. It could be him, could be her, it could be outside forces (work, school, bills, parents, or even someone else tempting one away)
Now, I am not saying you should or shouldnt take him back. If you do, he has to know that there is a LONG road ahead of him of alot of proving his worth to you, but hopefully it is worth it. And you have to know that there was something that happened in the relationship that made him stray. This could be a lack of something on your part or a lack of commitment or faithfulness on his.
Either it was you or him, but you have to know this.
Personally I think that if the love is there, all can be conquered.
Now it is up to you
2006-09-26 05:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know what you will do and what you think you should do. Whatever it is you will make the right choice for you at the time. If you do take him back, take him back on a clean slate. We are all human and sometimes we make mistakes and that is the way it is. Once a cheat always a cheat is not true, that's like saying once single always single and everyone knows that's not true!
Do what feels good and that is not necessarily the easiest.
2006-09-26 05:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Cocktail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u should. You know y? Because u love him. But if u r so hurt or untrusting that it affects your relationship, then what is the point? Some men "cheat" because they r fed up of the relationship they r in, some just want an extra curricula activity. U need to know what the case is with your guy and come to a decision from there.
2006-09-26 05:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Convince Pete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one! You need to find out why he cheated on you, is he still in love with you? can you trust that he will never do it again? When I first got together with my boyfriend he was still sleeping with his ex, but she had a hold over him and was emotionally blackmailing him. I'm not saying that made it okay, but I understood. We're two years into our relationship now and incredibly happy. It's taken a long time, but I totally trust him and I'm so glad that I didn't listen to my friends and family and that I stuck with him. If he did anything now though, I couldn't possibly forgive him, he's had his one chance. I hope things work out for you x
2006-09-26 05:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Oldfruit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people would say no... However the question you need to really be asking... do you still love him? Does he still love you? If so then give it a chance. It is true that it will take a while before the trust is back but all people make mistakes. If you love someone fight for them. But only if he is really willing to change, if he is trully sorry and you FEEL that he loves you!
2006-09-26 05:06:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldnt. i did and i am still paying for it now. trust me. it might be SO hard to shake and you will be proper upset for time, but its worth it. i feel so insecure now that he has done that to me and even though i know its not my fault and its all him cause he is a selfish pig for cheating, but subconciously you still have un answered questions, like WHY, WAS SHE BETTER. ETC ETC, so you just think you have something wrong with you. and really its not that way at all. IF he loved you like you wanted to be loved he wouldnt of done it. he might love you in his own way, but the matter of the fact is, his love aint good enough. why do you want to be cheated on when your back is turned. why do you not want to trust him, cause i am telling you something, YOU WONT BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM COMPLETLY EVER AGAIN. it will never be the same, you might get closer in some ways, as hemight be insecure and you staying with him will make him feel good about himself, thinking " well i did that to her and she still here, she must really love me man, i wont do it again.we try and make it work" but then he does it agian anyway cause subconciously it has made him feel good about himself and he got away with it, so he can have his cake and eat it. Dont let him take you for a fool. You are worth more than that. I am a hippocrite saying this as i aint broken all ties with mine yet, but i wish i could, i know i can, its just gonna hapen when i cant cope no more hassle and enough is enough, everyone has abreaking point, and when you get yours you will know.
goodluck, and dont let anyone tell you what to do, just listen to peoples advice take it in andtry and learn from their mistakes. **)x
2006-09-26 23:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you shouldn't - if someone can do it once they can easilly do it again. Also would things ever be the same, I know I could never trust them again. It would hurt to break up and move up but sometimes you have to do these things, going back to him after being treated so badly is not respecting yourself in my opinion and letting him get away wiht not respecting you.
Good luck either way xx
2006-09-26 05:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kerri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT DO IT! Ive been there it really isnt worth taking him back you will never trust him again and he will probably definatly do it again, he will just be even better at concealing it next time too be honest I fell totally out of love with my ex after he did it do me but felt so rejected mistaking it for feelings of loveand took him back! worst mistake of my life!
Im free now but missed a fantastic oppotunity with a lovely guy, coz of being loyal to my cheating ex
2006-09-26 05:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...because if he knows he got away with it once...what will prevent him from doing it in the future? Nothing! You have lost trust for him and that is something you will never get back. You will always wonder what he's doing when he's not with you...and that's no way to live your life. Move on...he obviously didn't respect you enough to keep his pants on. He didn't respect you or your relationship.
2006-09-26 05:01:47 · answer #10 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋