2006-09-26 04:53:54 · 11 answers · asked by Elias B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I've given this question a lot of thought myself.
Here's what I came up with:
Love is wanting the absolute best for the other person.
Love is being willing to spend time with the other person- even if it's not always convenient for you.
Love is being willing to tell the truth (the whole ugly truth) about yourself and trusting that she will accept you.
Most importantly, love forgives, love apologizes and love never gives up. And I'm just not talking about you forgiving her or her forgiving you. Are you willing to forgive yourself when you let her down? Because if you aren't you will make her a record of the things you don't like about yourself. It's easy to forgive the person you love. But ask yourself if you are willing to forgive yourself of the worst thing you could possible do so that you do not burden her with your pain.
Realize that when you are married, what happens to you happens to her, and when you hold your pain inside it will be in her heart too.
It think that the reason a lot of couples end up getting divorced is memory. We spend enough time with a person until they know all our secrets, and all the dumb stuff we ever did. And then one day we look at that person and all we see is a witness who remembers all of the things we never forgave ourselves for. So we run. We run away, or to someone else who doesn't know us. And we say we've grown apart. If only we could look and see the person who knows our deepest truths and loves us anyway.
When my husband and I were meeting with the priest before our wedding he said, "you will know you really love someone when you are willing to change something about yourself, NOT because they demand it, but because you know that their happiness depends on it." That's like the opposite of what we are taught in this culture. We are told we must be loved just as we are or it's not love. But the truth is, love changes you. And you must let it change you if want to last and grow stronger.
Are you willing to let loving this woman make you a better man no matter what it takes? If the answer is yes. By all means marry her!
2006-09-26 13:23:49 · answer #1 · answered by copygyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does and you will know in your heart that you never want to lose this person. Of course there's a difference of being in love and loving someone. Being in love is the passionate sexy kind which in years will turn into the comfortable happy and content kind. And then there's infatuation during that time you just want to spend the entire life time in bed with that person, if that last's more than 9 months ( so I was told) it is love. Hope this helps make things clearer for you.
2006-09-26 12:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Logically, love must exist. We know it as a concept, and surely you have seen others in love, yes? You might also look at Wikipedia's article on love.
When you can say it... well, you can say it any time you feel it. If it is true, then that will almost certainly come out in the way you express the sentiment. Whether it will be comfortable to your potential partner is another matter entirely.
A good way to look at that second question would be to ask "When do I feel it would be appropriate for a woman to say that she wants to be with me for the rest of her life?". Walk a mile in their shoes, if you will.
Hope that helps!
2006-09-26 12:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Scian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes love does really exist, but you don't want to mistake love for lust. If you just started dating someone I would wait a while, but there is truth in love at first sight. Follow your heart that's the best answer I can give you because no one knows better than your heart........ remember love is patience...love is kind... love is not easily angered...
2006-09-26 12:06:51 · answer #4 · answered by Beauty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes love really does exist. you can say you love someone anytime when you feel it, and when you're ready to be committed to one person, and that you feel she's right for you to spend the rest of your life with, then ask her to marry you.
2006-09-26 11:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love does exist, you can feel it, you can see it. Love is around us everyday. Love doesn't always come easily. Which is what people want. You have to work at love because they can frustrate you, but mostly because we are selfish people.
2006-09-26 13:10:02 · answer #6 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure love exists. it is an amazing feeling, and gives u an amazing high.
and when can u say u love her?? as soon as u close ur eyes and see urself getting old, and her as old as you. think retirement, think all the world's free time and whn u close ur eyes do u see urself just sitting back and talking to her-- in the drawing room of your house, in the park, in the city, in a foreign country-- well???!!! open ur eyes. dont waste a second. go.
2006-09-26 12:17:16 · answer #7 · answered by slmanl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she is the last thing you think of before you sleep and the first thing you think of when you wake up, when you feel like you cant breathe with out her your in love. You cant mistake that feeling. It feels great and hurts all at the same time.
2006-09-26 11:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do love exist? i think you know the answer...r u getting married? why get confused knw...isn't it you've so sure about the answer...there is no standard answer 4 your question...some say yes, it really exist...some will say no...but for me..yes it's really exist...love is all about!
2006-09-26 12:05:51 · answer #9 · answered by lepapillon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love exists sometimes...before you say "i want to spend my life with you " ...live with her first, and see if you could
2006-09-26 11:57:17 · answer #10 · answered by ndn_202 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋