What makes a good parent????

Question

just wondering ?

Answer 1

Ironically, what makes a 'Good' parent is a 'Good Enough' Parent.

Loving parents want their children to be successful. They want them to develop character so that they can handle life’s inevitable problems. They want their children to develop a strong set of values so that when faced with difficult decisions, they can make wise choices.

However, these same parents often want their children to be happy, They want to always be there for them, They don’t want their children to suffer, They want their children to have everything they want in life.

Parents who protect their children from the fullness of life fall into the trap of the too-good parent. In the name of love, too-good parents attempt to shield their children from hurt, unhappiness, and difficulties. The children are placed at the center of the family’s life. As a result, they do not learn the lessons necessary in mastering life or the skills of being a member of a group.

TRAITS OF THE TOO-GOOD PARENT:
1. Too-good parents do for their children what they are capable of doing for themselves.
2. Too-good parents give children the message that they are more important than the parents are.
3. Too-good parents give their children too many opportunities.
4. Too-good parents fail to take a leadership role in the family.
5. Too-good parents fail to use effective parenting tools.
6. Too-good parents develop mutual dependency with their children.

THE GOOD-ENOUGH PARENT:
Good-enough parents are effective. They know that their children will not always be happy, and that they will inevitably face hurt and difficult times in their lives. Good-enough parents see themselves as having the responsibility of providing a family structure that includes consistency and follow-through. They give love and support while their children grow through the stages of childhood and adolescence into successful and responsible adults.

1. Good-enough parents provide opportunities for their children to learn skills.
2. Good-enough parents take care of their own personal lives.
3. Good-enough parents limit the number of extracurricular activities their children join.
4. Good-enough parents take a leadership role in the family.
5. Good-enough parents use effective parenting tools.
6. Good-enough parents assist their children toward independence from the time they leave the womb.

Parents who are good-enough have children who are happy much of the time. Their children trust that they WILL be there for them with their support. Their children will have the skills to face life’s adversities with strength. While the children will probably not have everything they want, they will have what they need. Most importantly, they will feel loved and respected as competent human beings.

Answer 2

there is no real answer to this. It would be easier to answer the question what makes a bad parent - bad decision making...what makes a good parent - good decision making.

Answer 3

Someone who puts the child's needs ahead of their own. Not to the extent of letting the child have his way but making sure he is clothed and fed - Lot's of love and encouragement. Being patient, setting limitations and allowing some independence - with in reason.

Answer 4

well ther is nothing that makes the PERFECT parent. Everyone has their own way on handling here kids. you have to give them attention always be there for your kid. so them form right and wrong and guide them through life! you will have that feeling on wut to do when you have a child of your own!

Answer 5

2 good grandparents

Answer 6

goodness in nature

Answer 7

who bring up good kids

Answer 8

doing the very best that you can do when you CAN
do it AND LEARNING FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND MOVING ON

Answer 9

love, patience, and understanding