I've been cheated on by a guy, do you think he will cheat again when he promises he won't?
2006-09-26 04:33:21 · 33 answers · asked by Q&A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, he cheated for a reason the first time the underlying reasons and problems that drove him to make the decision to cheat are still there its best to move on and find someone who isn't afraid of commitment and actually wants a relationship...
2006-09-26 04:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's bull crap people can and do change its just that usually the ones that changed managed to keep things between the people it mattered to and didn't let the whole world know so you never hear the end results. The ones who cheat and keep on cheating you hear about. I have cheated once before on one man in my life. I regretted it deeply and I won't do it again. If I am done enough in a relationship that I start to even think about it then it's time for me to let that person go.
If it were true that once a cheater always a cheater then you would have to say that about so many more things. Once a sinner always a sinner. Once a liar always a liar. Once a drinker always a drunk. I mean come on, we are all only human, we make mistakes, some people learn from them and then some don't.
2006-09-26 04:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheaters never change. The promise not to cheat is there IN the beginning of every relationship...he broke that promise once and will only do it again if given the chance...besides, by letting him get away with it and taking him back---you're telling him that you'll forgive him when he does it again. Lose the cheater and keep your dignity and self-respect.
2006-09-26 04:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never take a cheaters word for it when they say they are sorry. If you forgive them once you leave the door open for them to do it again. The next time he does it, he will be better at it and you may never find out about it. Please don't be the safe,reliable woman that sits in the house staring at the clock while he's out with half the woman in the town. He's planted the seed in your mind and it will only continue to grow with time and jealousy and lies will feed it. That age old phrase "Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt" doesn't get a look in, try holiday there frequently, still doing it and have a full wardrobe!!!! Don't put yourself throuh the anxious nights of "is he, isn't he"!!!!
You seem like a sensible girl, go find someone who's going to love u and only u!
2006-09-26 04:44:42 · answer #4 · answered by jambo1874 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends, how your and his relationship is going, and how well do you two communicate. The old saying once a cheat always a cheat, that is not true, not in all cases. Cheaters can change, it just depends on them, if they want to or not. If you love this guy and you do want things to work out between the two of you, give him a chance to prove himself to you, see if he is going to uphold his promise. If he does not uphold his promise then the ball is in your court, you chose to keep him or not. Good luck and remember, people are not perfect and people do make mistakes.
2006-09-26 05:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by love420flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nine times out of ten if they cheat once they will do it again. The only way a guy is not going to do it again is if you really make him pay and don't let it go for a long time. You have to break up with him and if you really want to make it work you can take him back but if you don't dump him this time he'll think that you wont do it next time. You will also have to watch him alot more closely because if and when he does it again he will hide it better.
2006-09-26 04:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by a d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a rule of thumb...once a cheater, always a cheater...9 times out of 10 yes they cheat again. They aren't sorry for cheating, just sorry they got caught and they try and be sneaker the next time. The ones that come to you and admitt they were wrong and feel awful about it, maybe they learn a lesson...but not the players...oh no....they are just all about as many women as they can have before they die...lol
2006-09-26 04:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a possibility that he will change and a big possibility that he wont but if I were you I won't believe in everything that guys says because I could really say that he is not really sincere and truthful. I have known a lot of guys with that promises and they broke it but I'm not generalizing it because there are some guys that really change specially when they will realize that they really love you.
2006-09-26 04:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by miaka y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let him slide on this one, he'll cheat on you again. You forgave him once, that's like giving him permission to cheat on you. The best revenge for a cheating boyfriend......don't talk to him at all. You want to make him miserable. Don't pick up his calls or call him. As tempting as you might get to pick up or call him, Don't. If you want to see his desperation for you, don't even look his way. Tell him it's over. If you do want to be with him, well at least do this for a little while, b/c he'll know that next time your gone for good. Go on a date at least. Make him desperate.
2006-09-26 04:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that cheaters will not change they will still have the urge to cheat.
2006-09-26 04:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by ~*The Show Must Go On*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋