I have been dating my GF for 7months now. She has a M friend that her family has known for over 10 yrs. When I met her she told me they never did anything. I found out that she had slept with him a couple days before I met her. She claims it was a mistake and that she told him it was a mistake and she doesn't care for him like that. Sometimes she acts very vague and uncaring when I talk to her on the phone and then sometimes she will be very open and loving. She swears I am over reacting and I'm reading into things. I believe he goes over to her house and in the past she has admitted to him being over there. Now she never tells me that he is over there and when I call she doesn't answer her phone and claims she fell asleep or left phone in room. She works the mid shift so her hours are a little later than mine (2-10pm) so she is up much later than midnight. She takes my calls before 12am but ignores me from about 1:30am to 5:30am.. this is around the time he has to be at work. help me
2006-09-26 04:21:59 · 17 answers · asked by Tyler John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Other details are... The whole family knows he is in love with her and I know it as well. She claims she tells him and everyone that she doesn't see him like that (but they slept together). He doesn't have a GF and has been holding out for her for the longest time. For the person who said I call too late - She is usually up until about 3:30 to 4:30am everynight because if her midshift hours. It's not too late for her. How I feel real quick - I don't think she is cheating but I am just as upset about lying that he is over there. Is her lying about him being over there break up material?
2006-09-26 04:39:34 · update #1
Don't know how to advise here. You either trust her or you don't. If you do --- don't worry about it. If you don't --- move on.
2006-09-26 04:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get obsessed with that! Maybe she is asleep during that time. Well, I think that you should have a good talk with her. Explain everything and ask her to give you valid, good reasons for her behavior, and...then in the end, if you still do not trust her...better get out of the relationship. It is not worth suffering in such a way. And I really know what you mean cause I've been in your shoes...
It's better if you break up and get over it. Love is to make people happy not to make them suffer like this. If you feel that you can't trust her you shouldn't keep on like this.
You deserve to be happy!
Good luck
2006-09-26 11:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm, Lets see here, she lied about being intimate with him, likely was intimate with him more than once before you both met, still sees him and now won't tell you and knows and doesn't care that it drives you insanely jealous.
Too late for her to fess up and not be hiding anything from you. Quietly start a exit plan, take your wallet and stuff and run! Then the truth will come out!
2006-09-26 11:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really care hire a PI and have her followed so you can see what is going on. If you have asked her and she has told you that it is nothing then believe her until she gives you a reason to believe otherwise. You have been dating for 7 months depending on your ages this might be serious WHO KNOWS!! Ask her what she wants to come of this relationship. Does her male friend have a GF
2006-09-26 11:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether she is cheating or not, u don't trust her, or u wouldn't have this looming in the back of your head, or felt the need to ask people for advice. Once you loose trust, its almost impossible to get back. And if your constantly worried about getting hurt, then u aren't enjoying ur relationship on any level. If I were you I'd think of your overall happiness and ur ability to let go of ur suspicions then u and her would prolly both be better off single or with other people. Life is short, enjoy it
2006-09-26 11:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she MAY have feelings for him, but at the same time, she may be avoiding your calls because you are being so paranoid. He has been in her life for a LOOONG time, you can not expect her to just drop her best friend for you. Why don't you get to know him yourself, and then don't make up you mind about him till then. There is nothing wrong with her having him as a friend, and him visiting her at her house. I don't blame her for "ignoring" your calls in the middle of the night. If you keep pushing her, she is going to get pushed farther and farther away from YOU, not HIM.
2006-09-26 11:28:52 · answer #6 · answered by mojo0520 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sound like the reverse of Lady Diana's marriage to Prince Charles. I suggest you run off with the daughter of Harrod's Department store, get chased by paparazzi and die in a fiery car crash. Besy of Luck
2006-09-26 11:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your jealous of a friend, come on man, your just looking for trouble, if your really worried end it, and save yourself pain of finding out the truth, cause eventually once you snap and turn into a control freak, then she will start messing around with him again cause it wont be easy to convince her your freaking insain, act as if it doesn't bother you, and then just go and break up with her or leave it alone
2006-09-26 11:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Park outside her house and watch one night...place a bug in her phone....hire a Private Investigator. If you really think she's doing her best friend then you should dump her. Seriously....
2006-09-26 11:25:43 · answer #9 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is fishy. Hire a private investigator.
2006-09-26 11:25:27 · answer #10 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is because i mean if she ignores your calls then i know she is cheating and if she doesnt tell you that she slept with him in the beginning then it must mean something. that is what i think
2006-09-26 11:27:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋