Can people ask questions about sex-life of a married couple?

Question

Can people ask questions about first time the married couple slept together knowing that it did happen before the wedding?
Can people ask questions about se-life of the married couple? Need verses.
I have a christian friend that asks question about my sex-life with hubby. She thinks that the person should an open book. If people asks we should answer - that's her point. I think that our bedroom - is a private place where only God can be. Need verses as a proove for her.

I am comfortable talking about my sex-life, There is nothing to be ashamed. God is in our bedroom after all. But I don't want ANY person know what's going on.
I need scipture to tell her because she won't leave me alone.

Answer 1

I don't think your sex life is anyone elses business.
What verses does SHE have to prove she can ask ?

What I would say is that since GOD ordains marriage between two people (a covenant), this is none of her business.
If you look into the Songs of Solomon, there are possibly some verses in that book which depict love as well as marriage between two people who share this Covenant with GOD. It is a Holy Union-why should that be shared with someone else?

Proverbs 5:15-17 talks about being faithful to your spouse.
Isn't not telling the details of your sex life to a stranger considered being faithful to your spouse? I think it is.

If you own a BIble, look under "marriage", "sex", etc..

Answer 2

I am pretty sure there is a verse which mentions something about the privacy of your marriage bed. But really do you need scripture in this instance. Could she also say you need to tell her how much money you make etc. Why do you ask her something that you know she wouldnt want to tell. Its ridiculous. There is nothing biblically to give her the assumption that if you are a Christian, your life is an open book for any and all who want to know about it. Its none of anyone's business. I wish I knew the verse, but maybe you could find a website that will have it.

Answer 3

I doubt if there are any verses and I wouldn't bother looking for them. It's your decision whether you want to be open books or not. If you don't she needs to accept that and find someone else to bother.

UPDATE: There is no scripture. Is there a scripture against child molesting? I don't know of any, but that doesn't mean it's a good idea. For the bible to address every single situation every single person encounters it would have to be big enough reach the moon. Tell her the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you, then tell her you won't ask her to tell you something she doesn't want to discuss with you, so if she wants to follow Matthew 7:12 she'll stop bothering you.

She is just trying to use the bible into manipulating you into doing what she wants, don't let her get away with it.

Answer 4

Can I say, I think it is absolutely tragic that your nosey friend will not be told to mind her own business with anything less than a verse from the Bible. You do NOT need verses from the Bible to tell her to back off. This is how people use the Bible to justify everything they do that they shouldn't. Take the matter into your own hands if scripture won't help you - tell her that you are tired of her asking about your private life and that if she considers herself your friend she will leave you alone. And if she still won't leave you alone, you know what kind of friend she is (was).

Answer 5

She can think that she has the right to know but she doesn't. What happens behind closed doors is PRIVATE. Just common sense.

Turn it on her--why does she want to know about your sex life? Is it a form of perversion for her, so that she can be lustful after your husband? Yea, what it's like the first time for a married couple, whether one or both had sex before is something that people may wonder about. But it's not something that's proper to ask.

Answer 6

She's probably just interested in your husband. It's none of her business, and you can tell her that directly without a bible verse. Or just tell her she should ask the pastor about he and his wife's sex-life as an example of a church leader's good path to follow and see what she says. If she's so insistant, I bet she digs your husband and wants to fantasize about him, or worse, go to him with the private information you'd foolishly give her and show him how you tell her and maybe others about your sex-life with him, in a nasty attempt to break you up. I know it sounds terrible, but women are very sneaky sometimes when it comes to getting a man they want. Beware.

Answer 7

What goes on in the bedroom is between the husband and the wife. I'm not christian, but I feel it's wrong for her to be asking and you don't have to answer any questions youre not completly comfortable with. When she brings it up try to change the subject. Hope I helped.

Answer 8

They can ask but a Lady doesn't tell. I would not answer. I believe some things are private and I have every right to keep them as such.Marriage and the act of the marital bed are sacred.

Answer 9

The Marriage Bed is undefiled. Nothing to talk about there. As to any activities beforehand, that would be sin, and so not her business. In fact, asking persistently is called gossip, which is ALSO sin.

Answer 10

No one has the RIGHT to know about your sex life. She has no standing on this from the Bible's perspective, therefore you don't need to defend yourself with the Bible. Tell her to knock it off or the friendship is over. She is rude and a perv to keep asking when she knows you don't want to discuss it.