Okay. I like this guy A LOT! He has been my love interest since I met him. I told him how I felt, and he said he liked me too. He also said that he isn't the datey kind of person and that he doesn't know if his love is true. I told him that I have hope for us still and he said that is good and that I should keep hope. (You never know what is going to happen.) I call him and leave messages, he calls back. I call him and we talk for hours. We tell each other everything. I guess my question is should I move on or stay waiting? Could I move on, but still have hope and still be waiting?
2006-09-26 04:03:55 · 16 answers · asked by missyloowho 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told you what he was when you first met him. He said he is NOT a "datey" guy. Because you are attracted to him you naturally want to hear something positive in his remarks. While admittedly he seems friendly he is trying to keep you happy so that if he should decide he wants more you will be available. That was confirmed by the remark "you never know what's going to happen". You absoulutely shouldn't wait around for this guy. Say hello and talk every once in a while but stop being emotionally available for him. You don't have to justify it to him. Just stop calling and talking for hours etc...
You are setting yourself up to be used and in the process wasting time finding the person who will actually appreciate you.
When a guy is very interested he moves quickly to stake a claim so that another won't get his prize first.
2006-09-26 04:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's what I think. You should move on like be with other people and don't feel like you're his, because you aren't. Meet new people, maybe you'll find someone better. But you will have hope whether it's false or not you will. So I say just live your life. Take it day by day adn if things happen, good. If not, you will have met other people and have another life.
2006-09-26 11:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by iamsamsamiam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can move on and still have hope. Anything is possible. Don't call him for a couple days. Go have fun and do what you enjoy and let him wonder. I would still talk to other guys and go on dates and do your thing. Don't wait for him, but you can still have hope. You need to make him wonder about what you are doing and thinking.
2006-09-26 11:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have told him your true feelings. But, if he is not the dating type and he doesn't know if his love is true. Then, I say by all means it is time for you to move on. If it is meant for the two of you to be together , then it will happen. But, don't continue to set around and wait for a relationship that might not never happen.
2006-09-26 11:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jeannette D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will never give you the kind of love and attention you want because there is already major imbalance in the relationship. He has all of the control because you had abdicated all of yours. Even if he is the great guy you think he is, that imbalance will always color the relationship.
Move on or it will all end in tears.
If you start dating someone else, don't be surprised if he suddenly starts talking about how much he loves you and how sad he is he missed his opportunity. Don't fall it, stay with your boyfriend.
2006-09-26 11:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Wundt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda hard to say. seems like he likes you but may of had a heartbreaking experience and is not ready for another relationship right now, or doesn't want to make any moves instead he is waiting on a girl to make the move to mend his broken heart. don't know enough to say, but it seems like you should wait a bit longer to see what comes out of it.
2006-09-26 11:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by xcoconut22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has this been going on? If it's been over three months and still no real reaction to you. Then I would say move on. It sounds that he is unsure on his feelings. Please don't let yourself get to wrapped up in this guy. The ending might not be what you are expecting. Good luck!
2006-09-26 11:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either move on or wait thats your decision but its one or the other, listen he sound like the kinda guy thats interested in one thing because the whole, "i dont date" is nonsense, I know trust me... he is either in the middle of geeting a similar question ansered by another girl and doesn't know the out come yet, so he is "stringing you along" cause he is eventually begin dating someone or just end up with you... so ask him to cut the ISH and make his mind up
2006-09-26 11:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on. He sounds like he is just a friend nothing more special than that. Go out and have fun with other people and see if he comes around.
2006-09-26 11:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stay the way you are now, don't push him or you will scare him away. Just be good friends and maybe within time he will feel the same way you do for him.
2006-09-26 11:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie Possum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋