I've been seeing a very sweet guy for 3 months which i know isn't long but i'm beginning to have very strong feelings for him and he's made it clear he's not looking for a serious relationship. Last night I told him that I couldn't continue seeing him if there was no chance for a relationship in the future, because i know that's something i'm going to want.
He didn't quite seem to understand completely why I would leave if i was happy just to circumvent the pain i would get later, and kept telling me that he's happy with me, doesnt want anyone else ect..
When I did finally leave he kept telling me that he didn't know what to think about it all.
I told him about a past relationship that i'd had that the no titles burned me on, and i dont want that again and he said that he wouldnt do it, and that if he and i were together as long as myself and my ex were that we would be a relationship ect..
I'm still worried I may have lost him though..
thoughts advice or opinions
2006-09-26 03:59:34 · 21 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes i am a worrier - he knows that
no we're not in our teens, i'm just a worrier
2006-09-26 04:00:00 · update #1
Men are just basically "commitment shy' in their LANGUAGE!: not actually doing it (I'd say his between the lines statements say he is happy, therefore not looking for a skate by kind of relationship.) My best advice would be to lighten up and feed it REINFORCING energy. "If it's not broken, don't try and fix it."
2006-09-26 04:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so ur not in ur teens got it. i say if ur over 20 and he dont want a real relationship move on. i had the same problem, this girl did not want any attachment so i left even though i loved her, it hurt but if she could not respect the love i had 4 her to bad, i said if i see u ever again i'll try agian. if i were u i'd if out exactly how he feels (u seem a little ify in the question) and then find out how u feel then look into ur future and see how things play out then act. good luck be strong and have fun!
2006-09-26 04:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Big L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys don't feel the need to esculate a relationship unless they have to. You probably shocked the hell out of him when you came out and told him this. If he's the sweet guy, that you say he is -- he's probably trying to sort out what his feelings for you actually are.
Cheer up... if he likes you, he'll probably wait a few days and then he'll try to give you a million reasons why the two of you should get back together. If he doesn't, then he really wasn't serious about you... and at least you know.
2006-09-26 04:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 00:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by turrill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it pains you to be with him, then dont.
If you're comfortable with him, then why is the ultimatum required? Enjoy your time together, and date others as well.
Have your cake and eat it too. No harm in that. That could innocently force some form of action. Then being the worrier that you say you are, you probably wouldnt be able to accept that either. Sorry, but this is undoubtedly NOT the answer you're seeking. ;(
2006-09-26 04:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you worried your self out of a relationship. Even if this guy where to marry you today that does not mean you will stay together. Do you want a title or the guy? You might want to seek help with your worrying it seems to be running your life in the wrong direction
2006-09-26 04:06:24 · answer #6 · answered by rollerbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. Why waste your time on a guy who have made it clear from the very beginning that he is not ready for a commitment? It is good that you got out before you got too involved. Nothing is wrong with protecting yourself from being in a lot more pain later on.
2006-09-26 04:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not want a serious relationship then I would walk to
when someone tells you they don't want a serious relationship then take it seriously. I just got out of a 3 relationship when the guy told me he did not want to be serious. It took me 3 years to wise. I'm glad it only took you 3 months.
Now I found someone who is serious
Good Luck to you
2006-09-26 04:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel...I am also with this guy who is great but we know there's no future. I know I'll be hurt at the end but we are happy for now and are enjoying our time together. I think you did the right thing but since you knew already in the beginning there's nothing ahead maybe you shouldn't have started as now he has feelings for you...Try to stay friends with him or more you never know how it might end.
Good luck!
2006-09-26 04:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by anesziere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey....love is a very weird thing. It can be beautiful and it can hurt like hell.
You have to take risks in your life. If you do this to all the guys you get close to well, you will grow old alone.
People get together for years and sometimes they drift apart, this is a part of the learning process of love and life.
Don't worry so much , just enjoy.
2006-09-26 04:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋