Why do men always go for the b*tchy psyotic girls when there are nice girls like me? For example, I like to spoil my man (cook, clean, etc) but I also have my own life (I'm not smothering). I encourage him to go out with his friends at least once a week so he doesn't lose touch with them and we can chill out from each other for the evening. And I'm just as much as a football freak as he is (if not more). But I do have a backbone and know how to stand up for myself if and when needed.
My question is why do all my exes tend to hook up with these crazy, controlling women after we split (or are the reason we split)? And before you say it, we do a lot of things together and the sex is incredible. I'm not ugly (not exotic attractive, but girl-next-door attractive) so I don't know. My bf now dated one before me & it took him a long time to get over her. So guys, what is going on? Do you want nice girls or b*tches?
2006-09-26 03:57:35 · 31 answers · asked by T.G. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do I have to become a b*tch in order to keep my man? I just don't like to be controlling but will if need be.
2006-09-26 03:59:26 · update #1
For everyone's info, I may have the girl-next-door look, but in the bedroom (or anywhere else it's convenient), I'm the exact opposite. There I'm not so sweet and laid back. I'm a hell of alot more dominating.
2006-09-26 04:05:09 · update #2
Wow, so good women exist that know when its okay to be a bad girl as well. I do not care for the big mouth hotheaded attitudes I see most women have today did not in high school and not now.
I am sorry he has this thing for these type of women but some guys like to be controlled by women. Personally, I preferred to be controlled behind a closed door only and not by a girl that thinks hers is bigger than mine. It has to do with self esteem as well his mother could have beena controlling type as well and that may have a lot to do with it.
Who knows, wish more women were like you not so worried about him having friends or concerned with who he hangs with. Stick with him keep being the great rare find you are and he'll wake up if not with the attitude you possess you will not be alone for long if things do not work out. Take care.
2006-09-26 04:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that is a great question. And some guys just can not appreciate a good woman until she is gone. It may also go back to the old " You always want what you can't have." I can say that men think the same thing. "Why do girls go for the bad boys instead of the nice guys?" I would say do not dwell on the past relationships and focus on your current boyfriend. Most guys when we are younger want the party girl to go out and drink and sleep with and if a relationship develops that is great. It is usually not until we reach our mid 20's that we realize maybe we should have done things a little different. You sound like a very mature strong woman so just focus on your b/f now and don't worry about the other losers.
2006-09-26 04:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ferg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simmer down a little and lets look at the picture from the other side for a second. You keep saying that all the guys go for these winches that are not on the nice end of the scale. Have you stopped to think it is the kind of guy you are attracted to. The only two common items in this, is you and the types of girls they go after. Perhaps you need to look for a different type of guy that wants a real woman that treats him like a man. Shoot, you described my dream woman when you described yourself, so there are guys out there that want exactly what you have to offer, just need to find the right guy. I found a woman that likes to be treated like a lady, but has a little bit of a rough side too so we can head to the river, football game, races or the more formal and elegant events. Don't change what you are, change what you are accepting in a man, I think you will be much more successful and happy...
2006-09-26 04:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just think that you are getting together with the wrong men in the first place. Most men that I know don't want b*tchy or controlling women, and I certainly don't. I was in a relationship with a b*tchy controlling woman who damn near drained the life out of me. So I wouldn't give up. There are guys like me who want the nice girls.
2006-09-26 04:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Bluesman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guys do not prefer b*tchy women. If what you say is true then you are one hell of a catch but remember this is your interpretation of yourself (gotta wonder what the ex's would say about all that)Usually guys go for looks first and later find that the woman is pyscho...Not sure what the problem in your case is but i still imagine the ex's might have something different to say most controling b*tchy women don't view themselves that way.
2006-09-26 04:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by djmantx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, I'm one of the b*tches. We're a challenge. We're never dull. When we actually do something nice, it means more to our man because he's definitely not expecting it. We set the bar for a man's behavior very high and expect him to leap over it. Its a challenge to keep us because other guys want us. I'm not exotically beautiful either. Very girl next door. And before you ask, no I'm not stacked either. Its all in the attitude, girlfriend. Men can't take us for granted. That would be fatal. LOL
2006-09-26 04:05:57 · answer #6 · answered by grisgris0905 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a man that's getting over b!tchy girl relationship syndrome and he'll be more than happy to have the girl next door. But don't change who you are to keep a man... cause it'll all come out in the wash.
2006-09-26 04:06:48 · answer #7 · answered by sneakyfker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All your exes are boys not men. A real man wants a partner. Start looking for a real man and leave the boys alone. I'll bet you'll be much happier. Are you only interested in the exotic attractive male or will boy-next-door attractive work for you too?
2006-09-26 04:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by amercomp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ironically, guys ask the same questions about women... why do they prefer the biggest jerks? And unfortunately we tend to be attracted to the same type of people, over and over again, so it seems as if it is always true. However if you remain as you truly are, you will eventually attract the type of guy that will be interested in you for who you are.
If you are always having the same problem with men, try choosing someone a little bit less attractive to you, looks-wise, but with a really good personality. He'll appreciate someone as attractive as you, being interested in him, and if the relationship blooms for you, his looks will improve a couple of points to you, because of it. Good luck, and good hunting.
2006-09-26 04:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by eric l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...to be honest with you babe..guys want nice girls who looks and acts like bitc*hes but really aren't deep down inside. The "Go..Go"...atttitude is important for a girl to have so when a guy takes her out...his friends and strangers would only see the fun...wild & exciting side of her. Usually nice girls....are a bit laid back..shy....and very respectful which is nice but they only prefer it when it's the two of them not in public. They want a party girl but there are exceptions like myself. I love dating girls like yourself...who are sexy without the slutty look...who is smart without being arrogant and I definitely dig the girl next door look. That's a turn on for me...because that's what's real and that's what will last till the end. I guess what I'm trying to say is..I LOVE YOU!
2006-09-26 06:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋