This is both a question and a pray for me.?

Question

A relative of mine is getting married and I am in the wedding party.

As a christian we are to be lights and let God have the glory and the attention going to the Lord.

I want people to see that I have grown and matured and not an overly senstive person like I was as a child and a youth. Please pray I do well for this occastion. Thank you.

I am very talkative at times annoying and have a strong personality.
What are godly ways I can encourage people at the wedding and rehersal dinner without being wound up, hyper, and excessively talkative?

I am a very enthuistiace person but find people get offended when you are too outgoing or too exbuerant.

I have not always respected my self in the past.

My desire is to show the love of Christ to these people and really be calm and happy in the Lord.

Do any of you have any godly suggestions? Thank you and God bless you. Please pray for me because I do want to change and grow thank you so much.

Answer 1

It's tough, I know. One suggestion is before you speak, ask yourself, "What would Jesus do? Is this something Jesus would say? If I say this, will I be building someone up or tearing him down?" Basically think before you speak.

Answer 2

Maybe this day could be about the celebration of love between 2 people and nothing else. Don't try to shift the focus and make people uncomfortable, usually as a member of the party speech is rehearsed all you do is go by the script or just follow the conversation. Mentally pace youself and try not to monopolise the conversation at the dinner table.


I understand that as a christian its your duty to try to convert other but it may have the wrong effect of turning people off if its not approached carefully.
It may be more effective if people saw a change in your behaviour eg. no excessive drinking, no crude language not engaging in certain types of conversation or just generally being respectful to others. Actions speak MUCH louder than words. After the reception and everything is over, then you may get a chance to get into religion with a few persons BUT DO NOT MAKE THAT THE FOCUS ON A WEDDING DAY. After all weddings are usually attended by family and friends so surely you'll have other occassions to do that.

Answer 3

Your desire shows a greater maturity. I suggest you make up a list of general questions you can ask people and then become a great listener. Be concerned about the people you talk to more than yourself. (Love your neighbour as yourself) If you are doing all the talking then they never get to feel listened to. There is a book that would greatly help you. 7 Habits of highly effective people. By Stephen R. Covey. It is great for leading a Christ centered life and succeding. Good luck!

Answer 4

Wow. Thank you for being so honest with us out here. That was very humble of you. I'd say that it would be really nice if you could be outgoing for this event because weddings are festive. Alot of times weddings seat people at tables with strangers and it can be very quiet and tense at the assigned tables. If you were at a table though, it sounds like those around you would have fun. Don't over do it though. Pray, pray, pray. The bible does talk about taming the tongue and being self controlled. Think happy thoughts and try to be there for others. I bet they would def. appreciate you for it. Don't feel bad if they not on the band wagon with you - that's on them! If you're finding that you're getting too much evil eye looks though, just offer to serve at one of the food tables then or help clean up.

Answer 5

"As a christian we are to be lights and let God have the glory and the attention going to the Lord.

I want people to see that I have grown and matured and not an overly senstive person like I was as a child and a youth. Please pray I do well for this occastion. Thank you."

You want people to see _You_ mature yet you speak about letting the Lord have all the glory? My advice would be to mature in silence, God will reward those that don't boast.

Answer 6

Our light is to shine through actions as well as words. Just try to keep yourself from being loud and acting like you know the right thing to say. That is what offends people. Not the fact that you are trying to be a light or the fact that you are trying to encourage. It is the getting carried away with it while they are trying to celebrate. Just be considerate. People appreciate that. If they want advice, they'll ask for it. Will keep you in mind. -- been there.

Answer 7

Be yourself. but do not offer "encouragement" unless you are asked for it. Just smile and be quiet. Let people approach you, not the other way around. You are not there to proove anything about yourself.

Answer 8

I will Pray.
Allow your natural exuberance to come out. It is from God, and can be used by God, Just ask Him for wisdom, He'll lead you. Don't be selfconscious, be natural. You'll do fine !

Answer 9

Dont worry Just stay calm and ask about people lives They always like that...Yes I will Have a good time...Relax

Answer 10

Sweet bouncing buddha, can you fit "god" a few more times into each sentence? Is god like a punctuation mark to you?

I will not pray for you b/c prayer is useless. I think it's great that you are growing as a person, but I would attribute it to your efforts, not some guy in the sky.

There are millions of people dying all over the world who are praying for deliverance. They are dying of famine, violence, disease, accidents, etc... and prayers don't change it one tittle.