Me and my boyfriend have sex all of the time and a lot of times it is unprotected. We have been dating for ten months but have been friends for four years. We love each other a lot, and I am on birth control. Also, he withdraws before he comes, so I don't know what to do. Sometimes I don't want to but i just let him do it anyways. I am only 16 and I don't know if this is healthy or not. I always say "we have to use a condom", but in the heat of the moment I don't want to. Tell me what should I do?
2006-09-26 03:52:10 · 28 answers · asked by Sexy Love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me clear a couple of things up...
I don't have an STD and neither does he.
I know I am young, and I know that I am not a whore, we have planned things out for our future.
I know what pre-*** is... HELLO sex ed!
Its not just his decision we both get caught up.
Condoms are always on hand just a hassle to have to wait for him to put it on.
2006-09-26 04:09:14 · update #1
Having sex at your age is completely up to you...but are you ready to face the consequences? Here are some:
- You could have an STD already.
- Unless your sex partner is a potential husband, you're not being fair to the person you WILL end up marrying.
- If your parents don't know, and don't approve of it, imagine how much sh*t you'll be in when they DO find out (and they will).
- It won't be as exciting and life-changing in the future, when you WANT it to count for something.
- You'll look more trashy among your peers.
I would advise you to stop having sex, for now. No matter what you use (be it a condom or birth control or a steel plate or "pulling out"), there is no 100% chance of preventing pregnancy. If you don't wanna have a kid, you shouldn't be having sex; especially if it's unprotected. It's your life, and you do what you want.
But be ready to face the reality of your choice.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 04:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
seems like you know the answer to this question already. you really should be using protection even when you're on the pill already. even though by now any STDs he might have, have probably passed to you already so condoms would defeat the purpose here but in the future please do think about protection before risking your life (and others) by having unprotected sex and spreading disease and there's still a possibility you could get pregnant. These are all things you shoundt yet be confronted with when you're only 16 years old so pls be careful!!!
2006-09-26 03:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by blithe_vow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why 16 year olds are too young to have sex. You are complicating the best times in your life. You should be relaxing and enjoying time with your friends before you all grow up and start lifes that are seperate from each other. You will have plenty of time to have sex and worry about what some guy does when you get older. Don't take the chance of getting some disease when you are this young. Study hard and have fun. Stay in school start thinking about college or trade school. Don't waste your time thinking about serious crap like this.
2006-09-26 04:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are wise to take some form of precaution against getting pregnant. Which you are.
The other thing to think about is STD's, if neither of you have them and are faithful then no problems.
Condoms are the only way to protect against STD's or STI's as they are now known. This includes HIV. If you are comfortable in the knowledge that everything will be fine with regard to the STI's then no worries. If not then get him to suit up.
2006-09-26 04:50:42 · answer #4 · answered by advent m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wire your legs shut until you are old enough and mature enough to participate in safe sex. Birth control does not protect either of you from HIV, STD, or HPV. Until you can be absolutely sure without a doubt that you are the only CHILD he is having unprotected sex with...you should insist that he wear a condom or not have sex with him at all. PROTECT YOURSELF!
2006-09-26 04:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am going through the same thing. i've only been in a relationship for 3 months and i get frustrated when we don't use one. i too get caught up in the moment and i can't help it because it feels better but when i think of kids with him (not being mean) i'm just not ready and i'd rather know i have nothing to worry about then have that at the back of my mind. having a condom right there before you start anything usually helps. hope this helps
2006-09-26 03:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BC is not 100% effective...and I know from experience....I got pregnant in the heat of the moment and now I have a daughter. Fortunately for me...I was in my mid-twenties when it happened so I was already established. You are only 16...have him wrap it up...you have so much to look forward to in your future...don't ruin it by possibly getting pregnant or an STD that you possibly can't get rid of.
2006-09-26 03:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a freakin idiot of course ALWAYS USE A DAMN CONDOM!! You might be pregnant!! A girl teens worst nightmare! Its not healthy and you have to remember that birth control is NOT 100% effective. Don't let him screw you without a condom. No matter what he says. Its your body and you should be protecting it! And you definitely don't want to get any STDs because a lot of those are not curable. ALWAYS USE A CONDOM AND KEEP USING YOUR BIRTH CONTROL. SAFE SEX. SAFE SEX. SAFE SEX. SAFE SEX.
2006-09-26 03:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was a mom at 17...I missed out on a lot, I mean for me I'm still with my baby's daddy...He's a great guy and like you we had unprotected sex...Ten years later we are still together and have two beautiful little girls and a dog named Lilo...Please think about this before you do end up getting pregnant, being a mother is harder...and a young mom even harder...
2006-09-26 03:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So I take it you don't know anything about pre-ejaculation. Just because he pulls out means absolutely nothing. Use a damn condom. If you can't be firm with him about it, then you shouldn't be having sex. If not, then start buying the Huggies now.
2006-09-26 03:58:23 · answer #10 · answered by caramellatte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋